I am 21 and have been masturbating since I was about 15. I didn't start having sex until about 18, and that was with someone with whom I spent 2 years. Our sex life was incredible and there was never any need for masturbation at all. There was no stress at all involved in us having sex and typically, we both knew when the other wanted to have sex. After we broke up, I spent a while dating around but never really having sex with anyone. During this time I started a masturbation pattern where I would masturbate at least twice every three days. Eventually I entered a relationship with the girl I am currently with, and our sex life was decent until about a year ago (we've been together for about two years). We have been going through this slum where I felt like I am the only one in the relationship who wants sex and that caused mental stress on me because I never knew if it was okay to initiate sex or not...this was not a problem I had with my previous ex of 2 years. I now find myself masturbating on the average of two times every other day. We tried having sex the other night, and by the time I got over all the "I wonder if she really wants to have sex with me" thoughts, my erect penis had gone away and that inspired our open conversation where I told her how I felt about everything. It appears that we both want to have sex with each other, but both wonder if the other wants it.
I guess to explain everything using far less words, I just put way too much thought into sex when we're actually starting and that typically weakens my erection or makes in extinct. I'm concerned that this pattern of over-masturbation due to not having sex is now effecting my sex life. I plan on stopping to masturbate and strictly focus on just our sex life since we both agreed that it needs improvements, but does anyone have any recommendations for my situation?
Does masturbation effect the strength of the erect penis? Are there vitamins I can take along with a healthy workout plan to further my sex drive? Or am I just over analyzing everything and all these issues will be fixed in a couple straight days of no masturbating?
Thank you
I guess to explain everything using far less words, I just put way too much thought into sex when we're actually starting and that typically weakens my erection or makes in extinct. I'm concerned that this pattern of over-masturbation due to not having sex is now effecting my sex life. I plan on stopping to masturbate and strictly focus on just our sex life since we both agreed that it needs improvements, but does anyone have any recommendations for my situation?
Does masturbation effect the strength of the erect penis? Are there vitamins I can take along with a healthy workout plan to further my sex drive? Or am I just over analyzing everything and all these issues will be fixed in a couple straight days of no masturbating?
Thank you
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You're over analyzing the whole situation, in my opinion. I think most males would have a hard time maintaining an erection if they felt their partner was uninterested in sex, regardless of how much they masturbate. You're trying to find a reason, and of course the easiest thing to change comes to mind instead of the true cause of the problem. While you may find that altering your masturbation habits will change things, from what you described your erection problems are related more to the state of your relationship than anything else. You might be better served talking to a mutual friend you can trust about your relationship in general.
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