IS it bad to have sex before marriage??

It really all comes down to moral views. Although I know religion can be an iffy topic do to the many different cultures online. but anywayz, im going to do it anywayz, and in no way am I saying that this is the absolute right view and that someone else is wrong, just my personal opinion.

im a 20 year old male and I see myself as a strong christian, but no ones perfect. I had sex for the first time about 6 months ago and I dont regret it. I came to college and most people my age have had sex in highschool. But I did have my own rules. I wanted to be dating a girl someone I really cared for, I did not want to be drunk, and I didnt want it to be in a situation where, lets say my roomate was in his bed while im trying to keep it quiet with my girlfriend.

strictly religous speaker, depending on your religion although many religions have this same view. Is that sex is meant for two things. The pleasure and closeness of a spouse, and for creating more children. Thus it is a sin in christianity to have sex outside of wedlock, but it is a venial sin, not a mortal sin. (which you may or may not know, that in christianity you cant be sent to hell for venial sins, only for mortal sins)

So yes, it is a sin if your talking about christianity, but I love my girlfriend. Im not saying that we are going to get married, im not going to be a fool and assume something that I cant possibly know, but I can see this lasting a LONG time, if not even go that far. But sex is something we do both for fun and that you can get so close to each other it can make you both feel more... well I guess complete if you will.

But I hope this post has been helpful and I hope no one was offended but any of the religious talk

! in islamic religion sex befire marriage is fornication which is one of the worst sins in the world.in islam,if you think you cant contro your feelings,the best thing for you to do is to fast.am 14 years but am warned severely of spoilinng my virginity.also in my culture it is a disgrace for a woman to get married disvirgined.the man will think of you as a shameless woman who would gladly open her legs to any man.moreover,a girl who sleeps with any boy is no different from aprostitute.only that she doesnt ask for money.when you have sex whit a man,you lose your virginity,respect and paradise.well when you have sex with a virgin,she feels a lot of pain and bleeds.thats much i know.am sorry for any offence

! in islamic religion sex before marriage is fornication which is one of the worst sins in the world.in islam,if you think you cant control your feelings,the best thing for you to do is to fast.am 14 years but am warned severely of spoiling my virginity.also in my culture it is a disgrace for a woman to get married disvirgined.the man will think of you as a shameless woman who would gladly open her legs to any man.moreover,a girl who sleeps with any boy is no different from a prostitute.only that she doesnt ask for money.when you have sex whit a man,you lose your virginity,respect and paradise.well when you have sex with a virgin,she feels a lot of pain and bleeds.thats much i know.am sorry for any offense

why are you making it sound like it is just a sin when a girl loses her virginity before marriage? It is just as bad when a guy loses his virginity before marriage too! Yea like you said your young you might know the basics but you certainly don't know it all. If a non virgin muslim girl is classified as a prostitute then you non virgin guys who fuk countless innocent girls a day are male s**ts. You guys need to stop thinking with your penises and start thinking with your brains! But bottom line in islam it is a sin for BOTH males and females to lose their virginity before marriage.

Actually in my opinion it's okay to have sex before wedlock. For me, Well.. I'm 14 and I've had sex twice with the same boy. I mean, in any religions it's know as a "sin", but I'm an Atheist so I have no idea. But I do believe it's fine to have sex before being married, it's all about love for one another and happiness.

well anonymous ur a dickhead because in islam ur not allowed sexual intercourse. Eventhough you may noy be muslim your only 14 and how can u have sex 2 times.Am only eleven and i have people who lose their virginity before getting married. Its like what the hell u wastemen/women

It depends in my opinion. I honestly am more interested in women that have not had sex or those that have only had it in a meaningful relationship. I disagree with women and guys to do the one night stand. To me sex has three parts physical, mental, and emotional. The physical you could get at first glance, the mental takes usually a few weeks; i.e. getting to know someone and how they think (mental connection), the emotional usually takes longer. The emotional is of course love. I believe that sex is the ultimate expression of love, so how can you honestly express love in physical form if you dont love them in the first place.

To answer your question though i think that it is yes and no. Marriage is the safest way to ensure that you wont be manipulated into having sex just for someone else's lust. However, i will honestly have sex before marriage because i want to see if we are physically compatible and if i love someone i will want to express that love for them physically as well. As long as you are being smart about it I dont think that it is bad. Its just certain people especially nowadays use it like an ice cream cone and risk their futures (getting pregnant, STDs, or just tainting yourself and maybe ruining your chance with guys who will treat you like you deserve) for lust or for someone they really dont know well.

As far as the religious part of it, yes it is a sin in most religions to have sex before marriage, but it is a venial sin. I myself am a big believer in God, but my thought on the whole sex before marriage might be more of a "beware" kind of thing to prevent things like teen pregnancy, kids growing up without one or both of their parents, abortions, etc. It also makes those that you do have sex with feel less special but when you do find that special person to do it with it makes sex even better.

i read ur opinions and they're informative.. AM a hindu and wanted to ask 4 someone who knows if sex before marriage is a sin ? Plz help me guys thanks ! :)

 

 

I only think sex before marriage is a sin if it is a one night stand or casual sex. If you force a girl to have sexton its a sin and if you have sex without knowing the person/threesomes is a sin but if you make love to your girl or close friend and try to meet the other persons desires as well as yours its not as far as I'm concerned. I am 17 and never do one night stands or casual sex but I do make love to my girlfreind who's also 17 and it seems to really boost our happiness and makes us feel better and healthyer. And if she does get pregnant I will take responsibility and marry her and raise our kid. So as long as you have some kind of relationship with her and take responsibility for your actions then yeah sex. Before marriage is fine. And guy who is from the terrorist country- why? Your so young why are you even here? And sex at 14 is fine as long as its someone your in a relationship with.