Hi, 

I was wondering if any of you could give me any advice, I am 19 years old and i live at home with my parents, brother and sister when i am not at uni.

When I was 13 i got sexually abused by my brother (only one incident, i don't think he is dangerous again i think he was a stupid 14 year old boy who got carried away and made a stupid mistake), but i find it really difficult to get along with him. I always snap at him and i know what i say is harsh and in arguments i go way below the belt and attack his weaknesses. 

Its got to the point where i am really upsetting my mother and i am isolating my brother, when i am in the same room as him i make harsh comments. My mum says it seems like i am 'bullying him', I am also making him very insecure and attacking his personality. I know what i am saying and doing is mean but part of me can't help it.

My question is; as a parent yourself is it worth me making effort and making amends with my brother and just dropping what has happened and move on? 

Any advice would be appreciated, thanks x