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Hi Everyone,

I had sex for the first time with my boyfriend last weekend, it was all great. I have some hormone issues he knew about before we had sex, we talked alot before we just got in bed together. HE is easy to talk to and he understands stuff, but the issue is...with my hormone stuff also comes the issue on not getting wet enough, and its harder for me to climax.

We played for a while before actual intercourse. I have played many times before with toys etc. So the intercourse part wasn't an issue, its alot better when there is a man behind it all though, especially a man that I really like and likes me! Anyways. He did oral on me to get me wet, and it worked a bit. We were able to go ahead with everything, and afterawhile I did become wet, and it was great....but my question. I have never ever had a G-spot Orgasm even with toys, I have only gotten off by rubbing my clit, he did rub me, but I think maybe I should have worked alittle harder on that myself.

Is there any tricks I should know about getting wetter? or what can I do? I normaly when I play use a bit of lube...I will suggest that to him, it works wonders even just a little bit on my clit when I rub it...feels great. So I think maybe I just answered my own question....I will try lube and work my own clit more. Is there anything else we or I can do to help me get off? What are the best ways for me to try to get off with G-spot stimulation? He was doing a fine job down there don't get me wrong but it was hard for me to get off....maybe it was all the nerves from being the first time, not sure. He definitly didn't have that issue, we kept going for a while....switching things up, he lasted a good time, it was great and he said so too...but the getting wet issue bugs me a wee bit, but he is totally understanding, promising it will get better and he doesn't mind working a bit harder to get me to where I need to be.

The Joys of finding a Guy who doesn't mind working hard and will talk to you about this stuff! I think I'm lucky!!!

-Canadian Girl

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Hi CG! Most women reach climax by clitoral stimulation! The G-Spot is still a controversial one, some say it's nothing and others say it is!!! The Clitoris is the ultimate sex organ for women - just like the rim of the head of the penis for men! When you have hormone issues - less Progesterone, or Testosterone, then it is harder to become "wet" if you can get those under control that would REALLY help you! BUT in the mean time, use the lubricant!

There is so many pictures, videos, movies etc about women climaxing and reaching orgasm, and it is so unfair on women who are having a hard time with that! Some women have never ejaculated, and don't even know about it! So when they hear about it, they think something is wrong with them, there isn't! It's just we are all different! Since you have a tender BF this is the first step to reaching the wonderful point of true love making! Some doctors and women have mentioned about the sex postion of the woman on top with her back to the man! This way the head of the penis will rub against the front of the womans vagina - possibly rubbing against the G-\Spot! Give that a try, if it doesn't work then you know it is the clitoris for you!!! As it is for MOST! Good luck and health!
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Hey CG--

It's great that you've found a man who will work with you to achieve more for your pleasure.

I would just add that there is no law that says you can't continue to finger or play with yourself during intercourse to make sure you get the direct stimulation that you need.

Also, you can continue to introduce a little (drop or two) of lube in your foreplay (have him apply it) and let him know how much more this appeals to you and how it helps to get you off.

After a while, he'll come to understand what really gets you hot, and how to do it himself. But keep the bottle of lube handy just in case.

Frankly, I'd recommend "Wet" or "Moist" or "Liquid KY" as three that work well, but most pharmacies or drug stores will have a variety handy for you to choose from.

Good luck!
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Thank you both for your replies.

They were helpful for sure.

Update on my situation....we have had a couple more chances to get together and things are going much better now that he knows my issue with getting wet, we spend a lot more time on the foreplay nad it helps alot. I haven't needed to use lube as of yet...he does a great job with his tongue :$ so that really helps. And I do use my fingers during intercourse, I rub my clit, I know how much preasure to use and where to apply it....he loves it! He was fingering me for a bit and stopped for a sec, I replaced his fingers with mine, and he loved to just watch...I was pulling them away but he insisted I keep going on my own. It gets him hot just watching. So We are going good now, I have gotten off several times, rubbing my clit mosty, and I have been able to get wet much better the longer we spend playing!.

Thank you Everyone....its great having a man that wants to work with me on these issues!

Canadian Girl
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CG, that's how it's supposed to go! YOu're suppose to communicate your side, he commnicates his, and you both try to make each other happy as much as possible. :-) I'm glad to hear it's going well though!
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I've taken the liberty of quoting you and emphasizing the last line. In your own words, you've made the case for men (and couples) to take time and MAKE time for foreplay. This really is a key that many young men either miss, or overlook. ( If only we taught people more directly in this field.... instead of hiding it in shame and prudery. )
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Well Thank you, its a shame more people don't spend more time at it, cause for me foreplay is a make or break deal...if I don't have enough, sex would be really uncomfortable. But luckily so far so good.

Actually last night me and the BF were laying in bed...after a great time! but we were talking about stuff, and it was mentioned, he thinks it will be best if he buys some lube to have, just incase we can't get me ready enough...he doesn't want to hurt me. So it really does pay to talk to your lover about this kinda stuff, you have to both be understanding to know what the others needs and wants are.

-Canadian Girl
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I'm glad he's decided to buy lubricant. Frankly I've find that no matter how naturally lubricated a woman is, it's never enough. Lube really does help you go that extra mile. Has it helped you?
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Bluedog,

The other night we were laying in bed, and started fooling around, he rolled over and opened his bedside draw, and apparently pulled out the lube he bought, he put some on his fingers and went back to work...needless to say it was great. We didn't even have intercourse, no need....he got me off a few times, and the same for him. it was really good. and has helped hugely. He was pretty darn happy himself, knowing just a bit of lube changes everything for me. He was smiling...(so was I) lol

It really does help, he knows my issues and had no problem getting the lube to help out. its worth it for sure.

-Canadian Girl
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And he was wearing a condom RIGHT!!!!!! ;-)
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Bambi,

He was never inside me since we have used the lube, just fingers, oral etc. No Intercourse for a little while. So no condom....I know people say to use a condom when doing oral, but I just don't like it. I'd rather do "my work" with nothing interfering....I might be totally wrong on that, but thats just how I feel.

-Canadian Girl
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That was from our other conversation!!! ;-) XD
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