I'm a 26 year old male. I've been masturbating almost daily since I've been in 8th grade. I've tried so hard to quit so many times. The longest I've ever went without doing it was maybe 3 or 4 days. And it's hard for me to go that long...
It'll be 2am, I'll be half asleep and I'll wake up to find me grabbing myself.. I don't know what to do. I want to stop so bad. I can tell it's what's driving me into severe depression. I have no control. I set up porn blockers, throw away the password. I try wearing gloves and it doesn't help.
Just recently I was on day four..I can't help but not mess around with myself... I swear it's like breathing... I'll tell myself, stop. it's killing you, it's not worth it. I fall asleep and have a wet dream! Just moments before my alarm goes off. I swear everything I try is in vain.
I hate myself more and more each day. I've always had self esteem issues and I truly think that this is the underlining cause. Please. Any advice you have to offer that could help me stop will be appreciated immensely.
Thank you
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daved87. I feel your pain, I have been there myself. At my peak I was masturbating 2-3 times a day and if I went for 2 days it killed me. Later in life, I am now in my mid 30's, I find myself with a felony sex charge and on the sex offenders list.
My first question for you is this. Do you have God in your life? My breakthroughs have come from His strength and His support. Like you I tried for YEARS to break the habit on my own, I failed, I needed help. You are making that call right now and by the grace of God I have stumbled here looking for the correct spelling of "masturbating" while writing a paper that i should have done two weeks ago.
I don't know where you are located but go to http://www.celebraterecovery.com/index.php/cr-groups/list-of-cr-groups and find one near you (there are CR meetings all over the world) . If you are serious about your recovery work the program, listen to other guys who have been in your shoes, get their numbers for local support during rough times, get involved in a good faith based 12 step program, and learn how liberating life can be without sneaking off to the BR to "relieve" yourself can be.
I have gone to the SSA meetings, some of the books are good, meetings are okay, but God was my big factor. I have not gotten to it yet but I have heard the "Big book of AA" is a good read.
I am proud of you though. Had I had the courage you do ten years ago my life would be much easier today, I would not have lost my first wife, I would be able to attend school events for my daughter, and employment options would be so much easier to come by. If you want to discuss this more please send me private message with your phone number (pretty sure you can do that here) and I can call and talk to you more.
PS My offer stands to ANYONE reading this. If you need/want help, message me. I will help you get to that first meeting, once you are there I will continue to support you.
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I was in that situation as well. It is very miserable when you can't quit masturbation. I have tried to do that so many times but every time when I was trying harder, I failed. I know that all that was in my mind. Just that.
So, I consulted my girlfriend about this because she saw that I am losing interest in her and she was sure that I am cheating on her.
When I confessed her my issue, she didn't believe me in the first place, but later she saw that this is normal.
So I went to talk to a psychologist and that really helped me.
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tugging it is normal. don't be ashamed. everyone does it. maybe 2-3 times a day is extreme, but it's perfectly normal. and just because you stop pulling it doesn't increase your chance of getting some real action.
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