I am a mother of a son who is not quite old enough to be getting too embarrassed about my presence in exam room during his physicals so I feel it is perfectly appropriate for me to witness the whole thing. I want to make sure he is healthy and developing normally, and I may need to ask some questions as well. All visits included genital check at the end of the exam where the doctor usually pulls his underpants to his knees and conducts hernia and testicular examination. Since there is no screen in the pediatric exam rooms, this check has been done practically in front of my eyes. As I said above my son is not quite old enough to make a fuss about that. To my great surprise, however, I too often see mothers entering the exam room with their older sons who apparently already entered puberty and their son's behavior shows a huge discomfort and embarrassement. I am curious if the examinations of the boys who are already in puberty is done in the same way as the examination of my pre-pubescent son and what is the age at which mother's presence in the room during the examination of her son is acceptable.
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Hi Guest,
In the ER we respect the patients wish, if possible.
I'd ask my son if he wants me to leave or not.
You could also always face the other way.
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You need to be there for him and it really is for him. You need to be his advocate and protector. No conversation with his doctor should be private. It is YOUR business and right to know EVERYTHING. Just assure your son that there is no need to be embarrassed about nudity or erections in the medical setting. I’m a male and wish my mother would have taken me to annual physicals. I wax very close with my mother but I was mortified at tbe thought of anyone seeing me naked especially family members but it should have been done.
I really think a barrier would have been.removed and it would have made us even closer. And remember, once his nakedness has been seen, it can’t be unseen. So after you’ve seen him once, there should never again be a reason to be embarrassed because you’ve already seen it.
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You can go with him as long as you both want. My mother came with me to all of my appointments, including physical exams, all the way through high school. I was never embarrassed that she was in the room when I was nude and having the genital / hernia exams and appreciated her being there and her interaction with the doctor. You might be surprised to know that many boys are not embarrassed by that and your son may be one, too. Many of my friends went with their mother through high school and I know a few guys who even had a parent with them in college physical exams.
As for having private time with the doctor - which many people cite as the reason to NOT go in - he could always talk to the doctor privately before or after the actual exam, if he feels the need to. Personally, I never had anything that I felt I needed to be alone with the doctor for.
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