Hi everyone.
I've been with my girlfriend for about 8 months. We are very open sexually and experiment with almost everything. She has never masturbated, or had an orgasm from her previous and only BF until I got her a vibrator and showed her how to use it. The problem is, she can only orgasm by herself and only at her house when she is alone. When we have sex I can go for almost 3 hours in 2 or 3 sessions if I want. I am very focused on pleasing her with long oral, fingering, lots of foreplay and we always let each other know what feels good and so on. When we use the vibrator during sex, no matter even if its for 30 minutes, she just can't have one, even though she says she's on the brink. When she masturbates by herself she can have one anywhere from a few minutes to 15 minutes. I just don't understand and it is getting frustrating and almost a turn off..
I don't put pressure on her for not having one, so what's the deal!?
can anyone give me some insight?
Thank you!
I've been with my girlfriend for about 8 months. We are very open sexually and experiment with almost everything. She has never masturbated, or had an orgasm from her previous and only BF until I got her a vibrator and showed her how to use it. The problem is, she can only orgasm by herself and only at her house when she is alone. When we have sex I can go for almost 3 hours in 2 or 3 sessions if I want. I am very focused on pleasing her with long oral, fingering, lots of foreplay and we always let each other know what feels good and so on. When we use the vibrator during sex, no matter even if its for 30 minutes, she just can't have one, even though she says she's on the brink. When she masturbates by herself she can have one anywhere from a few minutes to 15 minutes. I just don't understand and it is getting frustrating and almost a turn off..
I don't put pressure on her for not having one, so what's the deal!?
can anyone give me some insight?
Thank you!
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If you are open to it, let her use her vibrator in private and you play the voyuer. Watch what she does with her body position, where and how she uses her toy, and how she acts just before she cums. If she is successful you might be able to learn something to take her from the brink to over the top. It really is technique and preference. She might just be partial to the self angle which you can do too.
She does have to talk with you to say what feels good, better and ohh yeah. If she is trying too hard to please you then she is not focusing on herself to let it go. You might try tieing her hands over her head so that she can do nothing be receive and be pleasured. This will make her give up control and turn it over to you. A blind fold will take it up a notch too.
Post a follow up and give feedback on what is successful. Good Luck!
She does have to talk with you to say what feels good, better and ohh yeah. If she is trying too hard to please you then she is not focusing on herself to let it go. You might try tieing her hands over her head so that she can do nothing be receive and be pleasured. This will make her give up control and turn it over to you. A blind fold will take it up a notch too.
Post a follow up and give feedback on what is successful. Good Luck!
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Thank you for the reply..
I have no problem with her using the vibrator while we are together. She doesn't like to use it too much because she feels like I'm getting bored. No matter how long she does it in front of me, even if I'm touching her for masturbating myself, she still cannot come. She even says, "Why can't I come? I'm at the brink.."
She usually masturbates with her vibrator 1-3 times a day and has multiple orgasms by herself. Even if she comes over and we have sex, she has already came once or twice, or more that day. Would that make a difference? I get really frustrated, even kind of mad, when she tells me that she had "3 orgasms today" after we just had sex for 3 hours, including her vibrator and nothing... Do you think she says really "dirty" things to herself when alone, but is too embarrassed with me?
I still just don't understand how she can come so fast with a vibrator when alone, but no matter how long she does it when I'm there with her, she can't. Help me !!
I have no problem with her using the vibrator while we are together. She doesn't like to use it too much because she feels like I'm getting bored. No matter how long she does it in front of me, even if I'm touching her for masturbating myself, she still cannot come. She even says, "Why can't I come? I'm at the brink.."
She usually masturbates with her vibrator 1-3 times a day and has multiple orgasms by herself. Even if she comes over and we have sex, she has already came once or twice, or more that day. Would that make a difference? I get really frustrated, even kind of mad, when she tells me that she had "3 orgasms today" after we just had sex for 3 hours, including her vibrator and nothing... Do you think she says really "dirty" things to herself when alone, but is too embarrassed with me?
I still just don't understand how she can come so fast with a vibrator when alone, but no matter how long she does it when I'm there with her, she can't. Help me !!
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Well if she has already done it 2 - 3 times before getting to you she might be out. A guy can come 1 time a lot, 2nd time less, 3rd time even less. If he can get hard a 4th time in a day the well may be empty and needs time to refill. You may need to take the vibrator away for a couple of days so she has to wait until she is with you. Do this kindly. She may have enough to cover you if she isn't doing it just before you see her.
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great f*&king idea..
she actually recommended this the other day. She said she only wants to use the vibrator now when she is with me. =))
she actually recommended this the other day. She said she only wants to use the vibrator now when she is with me. =))
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Yeeeehaawww! Give it a try and see if it works. Reply back so feed back is known. If she was that active she may be ready to blow when you see her. Enjoy! XD
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She just got back from a trip to Thailand for a month and didn't have her vibrator. She said the day she got back she had an orgasm in 2 minutes. I think this is what NEEDS to happen. Problem is though, she has a few of them at home hahaha.. Will post updates.
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She is a self sender girl she must trust her Bf share her love with him.So that he can feel good bout himself.
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Try reading mindfulness during sex and sex anxiety. You're welcome for what you'll find.
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