This is the best reply I have see. I 100% agree with you. My husband has been over weight (obese) for most of our 20 year marriage and I am lonely. I love him but I feel no desire to have sex with him. It breaks my heart. For those of t you who think it shouldn't matter, imagine if your spouse stopped bathing, shaving and brushing their teeth. Would you still find them attractive and sexy? Be honest. I am really sick of heavy people trying to justify their weight and say it's only inner beauty that counts. That's such a lie. No you don't have to be super model but letting yourself go is inconsiderate to your spouse, especially if they work hard to maintain themselves.
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I am in the same boat with my spouse. He has been overweight for most of our marriage and I have tried and tried to get him to lose the pounds and keep it of but it's not happening. I'm at a loss and I hate having no passion in our relationship. I have maintained the same weight through our whole marriage with the exception of post pregnancy but I was in the gym right away and lost the baby weight each time. I care about how I look but he does not. All the sexy clothes, hair nails makeup...whatever, makes no difference if your spouse takes off their clothes and you cringe at the thought of them being on top of you. Sorry, that's the harsh truth though. Idk what to do anymore. I love him but I'm not attracted to him. I have no one else to talk to about this ether. How can I? If I say anything to any of my friends they would just think I am a shallow jerk. No one can understand unless they are going through it.
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Hi. I came across this thread and I felt I had to reply. All you women who feel like you are unwanted because you gained a bit if weight. I am an average married guy. Average physical shape but not overweight. My wife also gained a but of weight since we got married and she has 2 kids. I personally think she is much sexier and hotter and much more desirable to me then when I first met her when she was skinny and 18. Sure she was but and gorgeous back then. But that was then and this is now. I I count my lucky stars I have someone like her. That's my response. Its entirely possible that you women got stuck with the wrong guy or some screwed up guy. I can't imagine why someone would not want to sleep with their wife just because she gain a little but of weight. How totally shallow. There is nothing sexier than a woman with a little but if curves on her.
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Doggy Style or reverse cowgirl would probably suit you fine, nothing too elaborate or requiring extra flexibility.
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I am in the same boat.My wife and I have been together for almost twenty years.I have put on weight in the last couple of years and I think my wife is cheating on me.She says she doesn't find big people attractive.Whenever I mentioned the word Sex,she just gets angry and does everything to avoid the Subject.Im depressed and she doesn't even care.
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When a person has a weight problem it's a struggle for the rest of your life. As we age it becomes much harder to lose that weight. You can't imagine what it's like. I have been using meth for a year and I'm still fat.
I look in the mirror and think the same thing, what happened. I do cry over it. This is not the deal either of us made when we got married.
I can only speak for myself but I eat very little because of lack of appetite, i drink water not soda, and I eat healthy foods. I have had 2 children the last was by emergency c section. I'm on anti depressants that are notorious for weight gain.
I dont want to look at fat people either but if he was the one who gained I wouldn't treat him like that because he is my husband, not just some fat person. It seems selfish and superficial to think I could do that to someone I love.
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My wife has gained 80 pounds since we got married. I look at our wedding photos and look at her... It's not the same person. She didn't gain all of it overnight, but as I saw my lovely wife turn into a whale before my eyes, I didn't say a word. I know she sa me looking at her differently, but I never used the word "fat". Our sex life averaged once per month, until she cut me off for 6 months because she didn't feel attractive. I told her I needed loving and she finally gave in. Recently, we've had sex 4 times this past week, but I can't cum inside her. The last time, she asked me why I can't get off inside her. I refused to answer, but when she pushed me, I told her I couldn't feel anything and I wasn't attracted to her physically.
I tell you this, to say when my wife gained the first 15 and even 20 pounds, I was just as attracted to her as the day we married. It wasn't until she gained 50 pounds before I was totally grossed out by her body. You only gained 15 pounds, and I commend you for doing something about it. I'm sure you still look great, and it may be something else going on with your man. Good luck!
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Gosh, that sounds just like how I feel about my wife. Any suggestions or things that have worked for you? I feel like a jerk, bug seeing her naked make me want to throw up!
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I am in the same situation. I have gained 25 pounds since I got together with my husband. I am not happy with this weight gain and his pressure is certainly NOT helping the situation. He is always so grouchy with me and cant even have a normal conversation without being cruel. I feel extreme anger as he has gone up and down a little and I feel no differently when he was too skinny as I did when he gained 20 pounds.. not one once of difference.. the love was the same and I have always been attracted to him. His superficial love really makes me sad. I guess we all have deal breakers and weight must be his... Im not grosly overweight and my health is fine.. when we go for walks and have to walk uphill or stairs, he is out of breath and panting and Im fine haha.. What would he say if I told him he doesnt make enough money and as a man he should be making more than me and taking care of me?? Im sure that would make me look like an evil Bi***
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