Hi, my name is Dan and Im 21 years old. Ive been dating my girlfriend for 7 months and we have been sexually active since the beggining. We have never had intercourse but we have done pretty much everything else. For the first 5 months or so I never had problems getting erections when we were messing around. I think there was maybe a 2 week period where my penis acted weird but overall there was never a problem. Well about 2 months ago it started to do it again, and its been doing it since.

Basically I can get an erection but its not as hard as it should be and it usually goes back down pretty quickly. This is embarrassing for me and painful for her cause she thinks Im not turning her on anymore and that is just not the case, I love her dearly. I dont know why it started doing this all of a sudden but I am really worried and depressed about this.

The only thing I think it could be is anxiety, because now if we start to mess around Im constantly worrying "is it gonna go down" or stuff like that.

I think what brought it on 2 months ago is one night it happened and she got really mad and we had a fight, and now whenever we do something I worry about it.

So I'm asking is this probably happening because of worrying about it? Any help is appreciated, thanks.