This is a long post - mainly to put my story out there since I have had a lot of sex and a lot of people are nervous about it.
I've had this issue for years. It started when I hit puberty, and continues as I am 28. They tend to get inflamed and then I just pop the larger ones - luckily I have not had any infections - I just popped a pea size one tonight, which is why I am googling it again.. I went to a dermatologist for a different condition around that area and asked if they would cut those out, but they said not to worry about it, so perhaps I will go to a urologist to have it done if it is covered by insurance as i've learned here. I've got about 15-20 very small ones (barely noticeable) and 4-5 pea size ones that stick out (excluding the largest one I just popped).
A couple points I agree with:
-Be very careful with your wording to doctors as far as insurance is concerned in all situations. I.e. I get routine STD screening done - when they ask if you have symptoms and you say yes, insurance will not cover it because it is no longer preventative - $150 vs free.
-Symptom wise, I also believe it is from excess sweat/itching/hairs - I also have a fairly large scrotum, so I assume that means more friction...my brother doesnt have any... - maybe someone can recommend some cream they've found that helped? I think I will start applying tea tree oil to them with a Q tip.
Information on my sexual experiences for those self-conscious about it:
I had really bad anxiety in my teens and this did not help at all - I always wondered if I thought I would need to have sex with boxers on, etc. I had maybe 4-5 hookups from 18-20 before I had my first sex on the reg girlfriend, and never had any questions or issues surrounding them. Fast-forward to 28, and 200 encounters later:
Most girls do not care. I have been with around 200 women and I think only 4 of them have made a comment during the first encounter. (Oddly, I've had to explain it twice in Spanish, once in the Dominican and once in Colombia). "Esto es un quiste, no es herpes"
The other two times were girls I had casually seen a couple times - both of them thought it was molluscum contagiosum since they both had had it before. The first one was deathly afraid of getting that again, so we just fooled around; the second one questioned what it was, and I explained it was just cysts - definitely a mood killer, but we still had sex shortly after. (Both of these were extremely casual dating, maybe 2nd/3rd time we had hung out, and it wasn't anything that would become serious, both parties knew - the first girl was really strange as it was)
My point with these stories is I've never had someone who I've been dating seriously (i.e. you both like each other romantically) actually care about it, much less bring it up uninvited.
If you are dating someone and self conscious about it, and you know you're going to have sex, just have a few drinks before to relax, and have sex with the lights off (I AM NOT PROMOTING GETTING THEM DRUNK AND TAKING ADVANTAGE - A MUTUAL "AGREE TO" HAVE A COUPLE DRINKS AND ENJOY THE NIGHT).
There's about a 0% chance they will notice with the lights off, unless you are shoving your balls in her mouth. I assume if you're worried about this, you don't have any STDS. Now is a good time to casually slip in (don't kill the mood, perhaps when the unclothing is happening in a soft way: "so I'm clean, you're clean right?"
Based off of my experience, despite how unsightly they can be sometimes, girls really only care if they are STDs - 3 out of the 4 girls who asked upon the first sexual encounter only cared because they thought they might be STDs. IF you say you don't have any upfront, it eliminates the "shock fear" one might have if they do notice these bumps.
If they do end up asking, and this is a "serious" thing, and they have a problem with it, they probably aren't right for you anyway, because they have to be extremely stupid to let something this benign get in the way of something more important. If they ask and it absolutely kills the mood and you both really like each other - calmly explain what they are, they are NOT STD's. Take a break. Watch a movie or something again. Or call it night and say - I understand they are not sightly, but they are harmless. Let's try again next time - that way she will have a few days to prepare mentally..... (never has happened to me, just lying out scenarios to explain that it's not the end of the world - if she is practical she will agree to that)
Long story short - things you can do to mitigate your sexual anxiety:
-Have a few drinks
-Lights off during sex
-Say you are clean/free of STDs
-Have a rehearsed calm reaction to a question if they do have it
-Maintain good hygiene - you don't want to multiply risk - if it smells good down there then there will be no extra alert from that sense - (i.e. if it smelled bad you might assume something is wrong)
-you can always go down on them first and initiate foreplay - if they are excited, they will be into the moment and less likely to notice or care
-Trim - don't shave - not too hair but enough hair where they do not stand out as much, plus it reduces the risk of getting more (I believe)
I am giving you the tips above to help reduce your anxiety. Once again, only 4 out of 200 girls have made a comment in the first sexual encounter, so 2%... I have an average sized penis so that has nothing to do with anything either... If you have any other questions feel free to ask...
I am considering getting them removed since I think it's getting worse, I know they are covered by insurance now, and I am afraid of getting them infected when they do get inflamed. I am really sexually active so I need to find a good time to do it. *I* also feel uncomfortable with them in their mouths if there are multiple large (pea size or ), but no girl has ever gone that far and been like "what are these bumps on these balls in my mouth?"
Hope this helps some of you with the anxiety part.
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