Should I obey my boyfriend? He wants me to cover my nipples with bra

Guest over a year ago

I've always had big nipples and I admit that from age 17 or 18 on I took pride and pleasure in showing them by not wearing a bra. Now my bf (who got attracted to me because of my nipples!) wants me to cover them with a bra when we meet people. Should I obey him?

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freshman noise over a year ago

Certainly not because he is trying to control you by telling you that, you are an individual and therefore it's up to you how you look what you do and how you dress, do you think he would like it if you told him he could never look at another woman again?

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Guest over a year ago

Thanks blankcancas. That's more or less how I feel about it. Plus he dated me because of what he saw and we discuss other women's nipples occsaionnally. But he really insists and tells me the other men are always staring at my breasts.

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freshman noise over a year ago

He is the one with the problem with that an not you and as you said that is why he dated you, but as I said he can't tell you what to do as that's being controling.
If he can't handle other guys looking at your breasts then that's his problem and shows he has insecurities.

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Guest over a year ago

Thanks for your support. I'll talk it through with him tonight.

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Guest over a year ago

It went badly. He got angry right away, then called me a s*** because I take pleasure in exciting men. I tried to explian to him that having my nipples show gives ME pleasure and that I don't care how the other men feel about it. I mean it's plain exhibitionism I know that but I don't think it's a problem. It's good he got attracted by it but I had to be interested in him also for us to come together. He left and I didn't call him. I don't know what to do but I don't want to give in. This is my way of being.

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freshman noise over a year ago

Sorry to hear that things went badly, in my eyes he is the one in the wrong and needs to accept that it was for this exact reason he noticed you in the first place and if your comfortable dressing that way and with other guys looking at you it's your choice because in the end it's him that's going out with you.
I would say that someone who acts jealous and trust to control you isn't even worth the effort of trying to win back and you will be better off without him, the choices in how you dress and what you do are yours an no one should try to change that or expect you to change for them, be strong and stick to your principals on this.

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Guest over a year ago

This isn't his call to make but yours. Your body, your nipples your rules. It's all about free the nipple and going braless out there. This is your absolute right and nobody should dictate you how you have to dress and that you have to hide your breasts, your nipples or whatever.

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Guest over a year ago

Y’all are hopeless, Hollywood has gotten to your inflated heads. Boundaries and respect are everything. Nipples showing is entirely sexual and your partner has a say in it if he’s dating you. Just as you have a say in his life. It’s called being a team. I’ve honestly lost hope for this generation.

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Guest over a year ago

Men fish for partners by approaching women. Women fish for partners by attracting men. Always keep this in mind. The one nature men of value can never tolerate, is disobedience and anything that seems like it might threaten his territory, whether intentional or unintentional.

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