um....ill just get straight to the point. I'm very insecure as it is because of life experiences; however, since my senior year and now during my first year in college, i have began to learn to love myself. During my life, i am constantly told how beautiful i am, or how im a good singer/artist/writer...it goes on and on, w/e....and yet im still insecure, not just over me...and also out of many, by the few boyfriends that i chose to have sex with i am so insecure about my....well, my vagina. im wondering if its a pychological issue, if this mindset is affecting me to be comfortable with myself and finally enjoy sex. i apologize for the whole "background check" thing, lol, but i'm not sue of how to go about asking this. well, my "lovers" enjoy the wetness of my vagina, however, i dont. its 2 wet, i mean, i just dont enjoy sex that much, and just recently ive tried new things with my recent boyfriend, because weve been 2gether for awhile. he makes me feel comfortable, however, i hate it when he tries 2 convince me 2 allow him to proceed downward. i feels ok, however, i dont feel senations, and am so confused. i am insecure about my body, it always something, and although i am procrastination, i see that its neccessary to mention that i was molested as a child, and my ....i dont think it my lips, i think its my labia, its long. not like a penis, lol, but lengthy nonetheless. i wonder if theres any work out for it or, idk, lol. i just wonder if manybe it was caused by rape?is it natural?....also, why am i so wet, i wear pantiliners from time to time because i hate that tiny wetness, so badly. its not quite discharge, i dont think. its difficult for me to know these things, because my mother passed before i began having sex, and my girlfriends really just, idk, seem to know what to do. It seems as if they're normal, so we dont discuss our physical.....neway, i wrote soooo much, this will become, like, a best-seller,lol....in all seriousness, i really would like some logical answers to my problems....thank you
~shaunna-nicole
~shaunna-nicole
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Guys like long labia!!!
As for your wetness, I can understand your frustration however, i am not sure that there is a cure for that. Some girls just have more discharge.
Look at it this way....it would be really bad if you had no wetness, then you wouldn't be able to have sex at all. I suppose that much of your insecurity has to do with being molested as a child. I think you should talk about it with someone, a psychologist maybe. It helps a lot and you could also see a gyn for a regular check up and see what they though of the excessive wetness.
Good luck! I hope everything works out well.
As for your wetness, I can understand your frustration however, i am not sure that there is a cure for that. Some girls just have more discharge.
Look at it this way....it would be really bad if you had no wetness, then you wouldn't be able to have sex at all. I suppose that much of your insecurity has to do with being molested as a child. I think you should talk about it with someone, a psychologist maybe. It helps a lot and you could also see a gyn for a regular check up and see what they though of the excessive wetness.
Good luck! I hope everything works out well.
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Oh, come on! Any man will tell you the wetter the better. Men love--no LOVE--sliding around in vagina slobber or oral slobber for that matter.
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As for the wetness-- highly likely to be genetic, don't know if it can be helped. I have it too, and since it's been like that since the age of 10 or so, I've kinda come to terms with it. Just gotta keep changing those panties and make sure I take care of personal hygiene properly.
And think of it this way-- too little moist will only lead to a yeast infection.
So don't think of it as a bad thing, it's not really. I'm sure your boyfriend will be able to teach you to like it if you just have the patience to try things out and go within each other's comfort zone.
I suggest you seek professional help for your insecurity and childhood trauma. This doesn't mean you're cracknut crazy-- we all need a little outside help sometimes.
Ask yourself if you want to live in eternal self doubt and low self esteem?
I don't think you do.
I have a portruding clitoral bridge which sort of messes up the layout of my nethers. This is perfectly normal, and I personally take huge joy in it. More sensitive surface for me, lucky girl.
Same with larger/longer labia. No need to worry, especially if you've been to a gyno and they haven't said anything about it. They would let you know if there's something wrong.
As for discussing lady things-- there's always the internet if you feel awkward talking with your friends. I can't mention these things to my friends face to face, so I discuss them with friends I needn't see at school every day instead.
Just know you're unique.
Unique is good.
And think of it this way-- too little moist will only lead to a yeast infection.
So don't think of it as a bad thing, it's not really. I'm sure your boyfriend will be able to teach you to like it if you just have the patience to try things out and go within each other's comfort zone.
I suggest you seek professional help for your insecurity and childhood trauma. This doesn't mean you're cracknut crazy-- we all need a little outside help sometimes.
Ask yourself if you want to live in eternal self doubt and low self esteem?
I don't think you do.
I have a portruding clitoral bridge which sort of messes up the layout of my nethers. This is perfectly normal, and I personally take huge joy in it. More sensitive surface for me, lucky girl.
Same with larger/longer labia. No need to worry, especially if you've been to a gyno and they haven't said anything about it. They would let you know if there's something wrong.
As for discussing lady things-- there's always the internet if you feel awkward talking with your friends. I can't mention these things to my friends face to face, so I discuss them with friends I needn't see at school every day instead.
Just know you're unique.
Unique is good.
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