my dad verbally abuses me. like today i missed the bus. so i called my boyfriend who goes to a different school. and he was coming to my school to pick up his friend anyway. so i got picked up and my dad drove by. and i didnt know. so he calls and i told him i was on the bus because if i told him i missed the bus. he would have cursed me out. so i told him i was on the bus. and he called and cursed me out. and it was about 10 F words 10 s*** and alot of other stuff. he told me i was stupid. idk what to do. my mom will take his side. of course. but i am tired of it. it has happened alot. and he has a slight drinking probelm. i dont know what to do anymore. he has cursed me out for not doing the dishes either. :-( :-( :-( :-( :-( :-( :-( :-( :-( :-(
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Hi honey! 1st of all BIG Hugs to you! 2nd you need to know that parent/adults act like children and sometimes do NOT act like grown ups!
Due to your dad having a drinking problem, I would suspect that there is something else going on with him! Has he lost his job lately, or thinks he might? Is he and your mom fighting a lot? R they in a lot of debt etc? Even though if these things are happening - this does NOT excuse him for his reactions - it can go a long way to make you realize this is NOT about you! Even though it feels VERY much like you!
Have you ever heard the expression "If you're arguing about the toothpaste, it's NOT about the toothpaste!"? What this means is, when someone strikes out about something trivial - like dishes - it's NOT about the dishes, it is about something big! Like work, health, debt, family issues etc. He also knows or is thinking that you and your boyfriend are sneaking around and lying etc, so he will be jumping to conclusions ALL over the place, valid or not!
Has he hit your or are you presently afraid that he is going to hit you? And also you stated your mother agrees with him, do you think she is afraid of him?
Due to your dad having a drinking problem, I would suspect that there is something else going on with him! Has he lost his job lately, or thinks he might? Is he and your mom fighting a lot? R they in a lot of debt etc? Even though if these things are happening - this does NOT excuse him for his reactions - it can go a long way to make you realize this is NOT about you! Even though it feels VERY much like you!
Have you ever heard the expression "If you're arguing about the toothpaste, it's NOT about the toothpaste!"? What this means is, when someone strikes out about something trivial - like dishes - it's NOT about the dishes, it is about something big! Like work, health, debt, family issues etc. He also knows or is thinking that you and your boyfriend are sneaking around and lying etc, so he will be jumping to conclusions ALL over the place, valid or not!
Has he hit your or are you presently afraid that he is going to hit you? And also you stated your mother agrees with him, do you think she is afraid of him?
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