I have lived with my boyfriend for 2 years now. He's 42, divorced with 3 boys. I am 29 never married, wanting children soon. I have had a hard time living here the entire time. His mom moved out 2 months ago (helped enormously). Now I'm noticing that all the things she did to annoy me where actually the boys. They are 16, 18, & 20. The 18 year old is the worst! We have bantered many times. He has cursed at me, and yelled multiple times. He's a bully. And Dad doesn't care/see it. Everything I do gets unnoticed. I end up doing their laundry because it starts stinking up the laundry room (wet towels thrown on the floor). Floors are always gross, counters are never wiped, and I won't even get started with dishes or their rooms. To add to this equation, I was hurt a few years ago and have a bad back (a 29 year old waiting for surgery), which makes me even more irritable when I wake up to dishes all over because all they do is play video games all day. That's right, they don't work and are night owls, so when I do see them they are going to bed or waking up. They barely leave the house. We have to drag them to sign up for junior college courses. It's ridiculous. They have no drive/ambition, they hardly respect me, and I'm the only one that wants to change it. I feel like I'm stuck in a life that's not mine. Have I been fighting a battle that will never be won? I love their Dad, but I am starting to snap at him because the boys, every day I feel like I'm whining about how the house is never the way I would have it. And I feel myself not wanting to be here, which breaks my heart. That's why I need any advice.