Two days ago...June 15 I went in for a surgical abortion. My boyfriend and I had discussed that it was what "we" wanted. He insisted that it was going to be better if we terminated it because we have our future ahead of us. I agreed. Everything went by so fast. I remember walking into the room and the first thing I saw was an empty jar that was "covered up" tears began to roll down my face. After the procedure I went to his house since I needed to rest. I went home that afternoon and slept once again. I woke up during the evening he calls me and tells me that he wants to go out to eat. I tell him that I don't feel very well and I don't want to go out. He gets upset and hangs up. He then texts me saying that I'm selfish and that he lost love for me about a week before. I don't know what to do. I feel regret about the abortion, he somewhat convinced me into doing it. I don't know what to do...
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Hi Guest,
After any procedure there is going to be a period of time in which you need to recover, mentally and physically. You not feeling like going out to eat is completely understandable.
Your regrets are normal. He may also be feeling some regrets too but likely can't verbalize them. That may explain his "harsh" words.
Take some time, both of you, to recover from this loss - and yes it is a loss. Grieving is OK for both of you.
Both of you chose to do this. You may feel that he "somewhat" convinced you to have the abortion but ultimately you did agree. Don't start blaming each other now.
It's OK to reevaluate your relationship but give it some time first.
Good luck.
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