Hi,
I'm a 17 year old male and seem to have a few problems.
Firstly, I think about girls a lot, I'm the usual teen, checking women out etc, but I sexual things never really cross my mind. I have never fantasized?
Firstly I have never really masterbated, I've tried a couple of times but I get nothing other than a sustained erection. Porn bores me, and the lack of anything extra from masterbation just makes me give up.
I know I can ejaculate, as i have a lot of wet dreams, and not just dribbles either :S
I think anxiety has a lot to do with it, as I worry quite a lot about stuff like this. I've never been with a girl, so i don't know if these "problems" are only here because I can only feel things when I'm doing it physically rather than just in my mind.
Ummm dont know what else to say really....I'm happy to answer any questions about anything that may help
Thanks in advance :-)
I'm a 17 year old male and seem to have a few problems.
Firstly, I think about girls a lot, I'm the usual teen, checking women out etc, but I sexual things never really cross my mind. I have never fantasized?
Firstly I have never really masterbated, I've tried a couple of times but I get nothing other than a sustained erection. Porn bores me, and the lack of anything extra from masterbation just makes me give up.
I know I can ejaculate, as i have a lot of wet dreams, and not just dribbles either :S
I think anxiety has a lot to do with it, as I worry quite a lot about stuff like this. I've never been with a girl, so i don't know if these "problems" are only here because I can only feel things when I'm doing it physically rather than just in my mind.
Ummm dont know what else to say really....I'm happy to answer any questions about anything that may help
Thanks in advance :-)
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I don't think you have any problems.
You're checking out women, great. OK, you don't fantasize about doing things sexual. You don't really have experience to base any fantasies on so that sounds normal.
You don't really masturbate but you've tried. OK, not everyone enjoys it and not everyone can ejaculate using "traditional" methods. It sounds normal again.
Lots of wet dreams, very normal. You know everything works, GREAT!
You haven't been with a girl. So what? Why rush into anything.
Anxiety may be partly behind this. Do you have trouble meeting people, guys and girls? Sometimes just by hanging out with some friends you'll learn how to "break the ice" and start meeting others.
What are your friends like? Post back and let us know.
You're checking out women, great. OK, you don't fantasize about doing things sexual. You don't really have experience to base any fantasies on so that sounds normal.
You don't really masturbate but you've tried. OK, not everyone enjoys it and not everyone can ejaculate using "traditional" methods. It sounds normal again.
Lots of wet dreams, very normal. You know everything works, GREAT!
You haven't been with a girl. So what? Why rush into anything.
Anxiety may be partly behind this. Do you have trouble meeting people, guys and girls? Sometimes just by hanging out with some friends you'll learn how to "break the ice" and start meeting others.
What are your friends like? Post back and let us know.
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Hi this is the OP.
Thanks for the reply.
Umm, i'm have a relatively large male friend base, with a few girls but no girls I am particularly close to. I find first time interaction very awkward, but I guess I have quite a lot of confidence issues haha.
Most friends of mine are good with girls, end up getting with girls at parties etc, where as I just end up sitting around talking to my usual friends :X
That mostly comes from growing up living quite far away from my school, as opposed to everyone else at the school living close to eachother I guess.
Thanks again :-)
Thanks for the reply.
Umm, i'm have a relatively large male friend base, with a few girls but no girls I am particularly close to. I find first time interaction very awkward, but I guess I have quite a lot of confidence issues haha.
Most friends of mine are good with girls, end up getting with girls at parties etc, where as I just end up sitting around talking to my usual friends :X
That mostly comes from growing up living quite far away from my school, as opposed to everyone else at the school living close to eachother I guess.
Thanks again :-)
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Any time.
Seriously, just let things happen as they do. You do have friends that are girls and a lot of guy friends. It is very hard trying to meet someone. One of these days it'll just happen and it'll feel so right you won't know what hit you.
Confidence comes with practice. You have to take some chances and you may get hurt. If you do see someone you are interested in, just say "hi." She may be interested in you too.
Living far from school can make things difficult. You don't have all the local news to relate to. Try to keep in contact with your friends more so you know whats going on. If you can join any afterschool organizations at or near your school it might help.
Keep us posted as to how you're doing.
Seriously, just let things happen as they do. You do have friends that are girls and a lot of guy friends. It is very hard trying to meet someone. One of these days it'll just happen and it'll feel so right you won't know what hit you.
Confidence comes with practice. You have to take some chances and you may get hurt. If you do see someone you are interested in, just say "hi." She may be interested in you too.
Living far from school can make things difficult. You don't have all the local news to relate to. Try to keep in contact with your friends more so you know whats going on. If you can join any afterschool organizations at or near your school it might help.
Keep us posted as to how you're doing.
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Hi there, I gotta back up what medic-dan says. You sound like you're a little shy. It is possible that you could even be uninterested in sex at this point. I trust that you'll either get more interested in girls or not. It doesn't matter, really. Are you happy? That's the most important thing to ask, really!
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hmmm I didnt discover the joys of masturbation til 17 either,,,before I put up w/ wet dreams every week or 2...
then a friend told me of the wonders of vaseline..nowadays what works BETTER is KY warming lotion...gets me off every time
hey back then at 17, I was a virgin, but still has fantasies..., like being on a desert island and the natives having their way with me(STILL a recurrent thing:) )
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