I've been with my boyfriend for almost two years now. We are both 21 years old.When we first started going out we had sex all the time then after a while we stopped doing it as much because he didn't want to. It has been almost four months now and my boyfriend and I have not had sex at all. I've brought up this issue numerous times with him. He says that he is still attracted to me and does want to have sex. However, when he says this it makes me angry because I feel like he is just trying to shut me up and change the subject. He also says that there is no time for sex (which is untrue) and that he is tired from work (he works fri-sun). We see each other everyday and go to the same college, yet there is never time for sex. I know my boyfriend is not cheating on me for a fact, hes not like that. Sure some of you may think he is, but I know he's definitely not. I'm not an unattractive woman either. I went on a girls night out two days ago and had three guys hit on me. The reason why this is such a big deal to me is because I canno't wrap my head around the fact that he is 21 and does not want to have sex with his girlfriend who is more than willing to do whatever he wants. To him this is not a big deal, but to me it is.
Loading...
Hi honey! The one thing you need to be aware of is this! Erectile Dysfuncion is a growing concern with younger and younger men! There are many theories why - stress, hormones, personal feelings, pressure, emotional/mental hang ups etc. And as you stated about a 21 year old having this problem - would be way more of a big deal for him than yourself! Even though this is upsetting you! Can you imagine how he feels about it!? And when you bring it up it rubs it in even more so to him!
I know this sounds like a silly question, but "Do you feel loved by him?" Do you REALLY feel this way? You need to really talk to him about this and find out IF 1. he has an erection problem 2. IF he really loves you? IF he does then you both need to work on this - for both of your sakes! Because you could end up walking away from this and he being left alone with a problem and without you! Perhaps get a brochure on Erectile Dysfunction and leave it for him! And tell him to phone you! Or perhaps give him some space to think - as a time out or break! He NEEDS to come clean with you honey! Either way! Big hugs to you!
I know this sounds like a silly question, but "Do you feel loved by him?" Do you REALLY feel this way? You need to really talk to him about this and find out IF 1. he has an erection problem 2. IF he really loves you? IF he does then you both need to work on this - for both of your sakes! Because you could end up walking away from this and he being left alone with a problem and without you! Perhaps get a brochure on Erectile Dysfunction and leave it for him! And tell him to phone you! Or perhaps give him some space to think - as a time out or break! He NEEDS to come clean with you honey! Either way! Big hugs to you!
Loading...
1.I know my boyfriend doesn't have erectile dysfuntion lol.
2. Yes, I do feel loved by my boyfriend he does a lot for me and I do a lot for him, there is just no sex because he's always "too tired"
2. Yes, I do feel loved by my boyfriend he does a lot for me and I do a lot for him, there is just no sex because he's always "too tired"
Loading...
Stress and being "tired" or "I have a headache" is a HUGE factor in really not wanting it! I know this sounds silly but the cure for no sex is sex! Sometimes you just HAVE to do it and get it over and done with - to realize what you have been missing! Many women - who have had children - will tell you it is FAR easier NOT to have sex - due to them being tired and worn out - BUT when they have it "They are like "I forgot about that!!!!" ! I usually don't go to where I'm about to go to BUT I used to make and sell "Aphrodisiac Products" And studied for years about what make men and women tick, so i will give you some advice OK?
1. Take the act of sex out of this! For now anyway!
2. A mans main stimulus is NOT in their groin - there are 3 errogenous zones on a man -
1. The inside of their arm from their armpit to their wrist!
2. The inside of their thigh from their ankle to their scrotum
3. Down their back from their neck to the base of their spine
3. You GENTLY only using your fingertip, run your finger down this 3 spots - barely touching
4. Mens arrousal scents are Pumpkin Pie, and Vanilla, And Cinnamon!
IF you get into the art of Making Love instead of just having sex, it can make both men and women more comfortable and less "tired" who in their right mind would want to give up on some lovely sensual time with their significant other!? It is a frenzied world we live in, and bad habits are easily made within all the chaos that is surrounding us! The time to STOP is when you both are together! Massage, Touch, Quiet are the top things that people yearn for! So give him what he NEEDS - and you will both get what you WANT from this!
1. Take the act of sex out of this! For now anyway!
2. A mans main stimulus is NOT in their groin - there are 3 errogenous zones on a man -
1. The inside of their arm from their armpit to their wrist!
2. The inside of their thigh from their ankle to their scrotum
3. Down their back from their neck to the base of their spine
3. You GENTLY only using your fingertip, run your finger down this 3 spots - barely touching
4. Mens arrousal scents are Pumpkin Pie, and Vanilla, And Cinnamon!
IF you get into the art of Making Love instead of just having sex, it can make both men and women more comfortable and less "tired" who in their right mind would want to give up on some lovely sensual time with their significant other!? It is a frenzied world we live in, and bad habits are easily made within all the chaos that is surrounding us! The time to STOP is when you both are together! Massage, Touch, Quiet are the top things that people yearn for! So give him what he NEEDS - and you will both get what you WANT from this!
Loading...