I want to be interesting to him as well, not be his employee/bookkeeper. I want him to DATE ME, dang it! While I'm at it, I want my body and strength back and play the games that used to make him drool! Oh, yeah, 8) that should add some sparks back to our marriage.
So..............do you see why I told him I quit?
Oh well, we can just all get a good laugh!
Healthfitness guy, I'm sure I answered your questions, probably a little TMI?
So do you have a lot of discussions on the diet and nutrition? Are you a trainer or just really into working out?-Wendy
And then I see your last post and I found healthnfitnessguy's post. Had a good laugh about this. :-)
Now 3lk I'm so sorry to hear that your doctor treated you like this. I don't understand him to be honest. What is his problem?!?
I'm not sure, and this is your decision only, but I think that you need to go to another doctor. It seams that you are in much pain because he didn't the fissure the first time on your first check up. Talk to your husband about this, see what he thinks.
Wendy you know that we will be here, don't worry. You will have us and you can talk about this with us. We are here to help each other.
All the best to both of you.
I'm sore and tired today, but I think for sure am on my way to recovery. :-D (at least until my next procedure "gulp!) I took some Senna Prompt. It's supposed to be Overnight relief, but it worked in like four hours! To top it off, I only took half the dose. Had pretty rough cramps right before, but I went, and it was only a little uncomfortable, not like glass and no pain killers! Of course I hadn't gone since Monday, so it was like......well, you get the picture. So my bum is sore and slightly swollen today. I need to give it a break, so no Senna Prompt today. Bowels were narrow, so a little itsy bitsy concerned about that because of the stories I've heard about stenosis, which is a narrowing due to scar tissue-which would require surgury to correct that's supposed to be WORSE than hemmorhoid surgery! But that's not going to happen, right? I have to think positive!
Dark Red, thank you honey for your support. You are such a blessing to both 3lk and I. What would we do without you? Hugs to you, dear.
3lovelykiddos, still very concerned about you. Are you still bleeding from the last bm? I hope that you're either doing better or in the ER for attention and pain control. I would still look into another doctor. Maybe you can call your insurance company and find colon/rectal surgeons in your area and get checked out by them. Is your surgeon a general surgeon or a colon/rectal specialist? Mine is a colon/rectal specialist. She is so compassionate and actually while I was in the hospital, I met two other colon/rectal specialists from the same clinic and they were also very compassionate. So their are lots of nice ones out there and it would be well worth it to give it a shot at looking into another doc.
Please let me know how you're doing! Prayers and hugs-Wendy
Well now the bad news, my husband lost his job back in November (he had worked there for 20 years) and we had been paying Cobra the last few months until my surgery was finished with and well needless to say after yesterday, we have no more insurance... He's been looking for a job and applying at different places and locations but the economy is so bad right now, that nobody is hiring. And I'm the only one working and well, I have not worked since my first surgery which was over 2 months ago and I don't get paid for any of my time off.... So now I'm extremely worried about my recovery... I have to stick with the same surgeon... he's a rectal surgeon... because he's the one who did the surgeries... thats why I've been trying to be nice to him and not argue with him... but when it comes down to my health, then I start to worry... My OBGYN is family (through marriage only) and he's wonderful (he graduated Harvard) I've been going to him for years, so I'm hoping even though I don't have insurance, he'll get me in this month and check everything out to make sure I'm healing properly? So I have a lot on my mind lately... You hate to tell strangers your life stories but in this case, it just feels right to let you know whats really going on.... We've been struggling and the past couple of months have been rough and I know its just going to get worse... We pray for the good Lord's will and we just don't know where or what to do? So again thank you for thinking of me and my family and praying for me! I know God will take care of us, he always has... Its just hard to put on a happy face for our 3 kids (they really don't understand)... You know we were never rich but we were able to choose the doctors we wanted, buy the clothes we wanted and all of a sudden, its gone... It can happen to anyone... and I would not wish this on anybody ever... So thank you for being the good friends you are and have been to me... You both are wonderful people!!!! Lots of Hugs... ;-)
When you go see your gynecologist, ask about the pill idea I was talking about earlier to stop your periods OK? This will help your recovery! I haven't read this entire thread so Wendy and DarkRed forgive me if I state something to you that has already been covered, but just remember you can only poop out what you are taking in. So somtimes the food hasn't got to its "destination" yet! And I found that the Senekots and the AWFUL citrus drink (can't remember its name for the life of me) makes me sicker than a dog! And sometimes found that I would rather have pain while on the toilet than the feeling I had with such harsh chemicals. I don't know if it was you 3LK or another lady, but ALL that fiber can just play havoc and make you feel so sick! And when you have "bum burps" they can hurt just the same can't they?
Wendy, do you use sitz baths hot/cold and the squirt bottle? Like I've said to 3lk try and take as much Omega oils as you can, this helps with the ease of the BM's! And have you been shown how to have a BM and what position to be in etc? IF you haven't, or if you have a dip in your anus, let me know OK? And I can give you some tips!
It's an embarrassing subject, but the great thing is that we can't see each others faces ;-) XD because there would be a LOT of this :$ o.O 8-| %-) So that's what I like about this site, us with these problems can talk openly as can teenagers and other regarding personal questions they don't want to ask anyone! So as I've said before to you 3lk I will say to you Wendy and darkred, ALL the best of health and luck! And may you recover quickly! Hugs to all!
3lk, so sorry about your circumstances and I understand having to be nice to the surgeon. I'm really happy to hear your OBGYN is family. What a blessing! I will add to my prayers for you, hun. Do you have a Salvation Army by you? They have a lot of services and may be able to give you some great advice on getting some needs met if it comes to that. One of my dearest friends is a Salvation Army volunteer coordinater. As a matter of fact, I planned to have a women's bible study next Tuesday at my home, but after I started bleeding today, I began to wonder if I'm going to be able to have it here. My friend assured me she'd take it over to her house if I'm feeling to poorly. I love this woman. I wanted to do the bible study on loving others. Are you still bleeding? prayers and hugs-Wendy
So Omegas, Green Tea, Hot and Cold sitzes, Frozen Tucs, good positions, and deep breathing! When you are really bleeding don't use the hydrogen peroxide in the squirt bottle, you will scream your head off! And did you know about the 3 cups of Epsom Salts in the bathtub!!!? That is wonderful, just have enough REALLY warm water to cover your thighs! that really helps draw out any problems from the planet Uranus!!!! ;-) XD I wish you all a speedy recovery and to have a gentle person to deal with you!
How long ago did you have the surgery? I, for the first time, looked at my "planet" down there, and it looks hideous! :$ There is still swelling and I can see some stitches hanging there. My doc says I'm definitely going to have skin tags. I'm wondering how bad this will hurt? o.O I think I will try to research this on the web.
Thanks for all your helpful info! Hugs, Wendy
3lovelykiddos, how are you holding up? Please let me know!hugs to you, too!-Wendy
AND it comes in CHOCOLATE!!!!! I use it with skim milk, the water isn't for me! You can see from the list ALL of what it has in it.
The compaction is the problem, and the more regular you are with NO obstruction the better. This "Drink" ;-) IS a GOD Send! And it just makes me feel better.
Like I have told 3LK I didn't have surgery for the "hanging lamps"!! I had a Grade 3 tear due to my last child! I delivered him through my anus and it took them 2 hours to sew me up!! So I suffered like you guys for a LONG time! and had to go for special vaginal physio therapy and rectal therapy etc. So that is why I know so much about it! Like I said, keeping that swelling and compaction down IS the key to totally healing! It is virtually impossible to keep that area clean, but if you try your best then it will be easier.
I will tell you what I tell everyone else, try not to do TOO much "research" on the web OK? You will find hypochondriacs and people saying RIDICULOUS things to get attention. And this can really get you upset! I KNOW this 1st hand! So just be careful NOT to look at sites that keep mentioning the "WORST Case possible"
3LK?!!! How you doing honey?!
Hugs and health to you both!
Wendy, I hope you are feeling better hon.. I have not spoke to you in awhile.. and I'm sorry about that.. but I do pray for you!!! Hugs to you too...
After my trauma, I actually left my doctor that I was under, she couldn't care less. And I went and found a new one that cared! So do the same IF you can!
My hemorrhoids came from 19 years ago when I was in labor for 27hrs. with my first child. I think I pushed for about 3hours and they cut my perrinial area and I ripped anyways all the way to my bum. They had to finially help me deliver using forceps. I had to sit on a pillow for two weeks.
Now, I have a question about what you said about my skin tags. You said not to worry. Can you clarify? You mean, don't worry about them and leave them because there's no blood vessels, or do you mean having them removed won't be as painful because there's no blood vessels? Also, I was wondering if these could turn back into full hemorrhoids with blood vessels and all if I didn't remove them? It seems like that would be possible, because right now they're still swollen.
Please let me know, and thanks again for all your advice! Hugs, Wendy
3lk, I'm really concerned about you. I truly hope you don't have to wait long to get seen by your OBGYN. Is there any possibility of getting help through your state? I live in MN and here you can apply for state medical. Maybe you could check this out? Still praying for you, hun, and thank you for your prayers as well. Hugs, Wendy
I had 2 tearings, my 1st child gave me over 50 stitches and my second was the DEFINING event! He was 9 lbs 5 1/2 ounces and had a head circumference of 16 1/2 inches!!!!!!!!! o.O It was so traumatic I didn't feel it! If that makes sense! My 1st child from beginning to end of labor took 1 hour and 55 minutes!!! Thus the tearing. My second was 2 hours and 7 minutes, he would have been born quicker if it wasn't for his head! I still suffer from all of it, I saw my 1st vaginal and rectal therapist about 3 years ago now - 11 years after!!!! and learnt so much! We are NOT alone with all of this, due to the fact that we are having bigger and bigger babies and we are basically built for about 6 or 7lb children. Those extra ounces and pounds can do a LOT of damage! As we know! I and I'm sure everyother woman who has endured what we have, has a dip in her anus! Thus the compaction, and hemorrhoids, and the viscious cycle of tearing and healing etc etc.
That is why I mentioned the thin J like vibrator - due to the fact that I saw a vaginal physio therapist who also did rectal therapy! So I learned this technique and it has been a Godsend! BUT anyone that has had vaginal trauma, needs to find out if this is safe to do at that time!
I suppose that different states have different healthcare plans?! There HAS to be something I can do for you 3LK! I found other people on here places to go when they told me where they lived. I even found a young man a clinic to go to in Guam!!! So if you want me to help you and find you a place to go to I will honey, just need your town and state and I will get cracking for you! I'm on here to help, so if I can take off any weight off your shoulders I will OK? Lots of hugs and health too you both! Bambi - Dawn