4 year old girl maturbating, is this normal?

That has been discussed at length on the forum and the concensus seems to be that it's quite normal. I think they have just discovered something that feels good and they are exploring. If you don't make a big thing of it they will most likely just taper off with time as tthe newness and interest wears off.

I actually remember discovering that it felt good playing with my penis when I was very little and forgetting all about it in a few weeks. I think it happened when I had Chicken Pox and was scratching everything in sight.

 

Personally, I think I would not stop them from bathing together or make them feel they are doing anything wrong.

Okay i know it sounds weird & many people debate it but its a very normal thing. i remember being a child & exsploreing that kind of thing with a younger cousin. its because they both have never seen anything like it and just became curious it will stop im promiseing that one. As far them touching thereselves thats aslo normal. Just think about it this way its like there discovering there belly button for the first time & they just dont get it yet. As far as if it feels good for her or him i cant answer that because im not them. try talking and asking why they are doing it but dont make them feel like there doing anything wrong or to become to ashamed you wouldent want them to get the wrong message that they cant come to you when they have questions like that you dont want that to carry on into there future as a parent you want that openess with you're children i know i do.

it is because masturbating feels so good that they have to do it everyone does it as a kid but they grow out of it(maybe)

Perfectly normal. Yes, children that young definitely can and usually do discover the good feelings that result from self stimulation (its not necessarily "masturbation" at this point, remember).

I'm actually a bit more concerned that you think it isn't normal. I would suggest reading some material on normal childhood development, what the "okay" behavior is versus what the warning signals should be (such as your 4yo using words and/or concepts that a 4yo shouldn't be aware of). Please don't try to stigmatize this with your child - let them learn about their body at their own pace, just make sure that they realize the importance of keeping this kind of thing as something they do in private (by themselves).