I found out a little over a week ago that I'm pregnant, which is crazy because I was taking my birth control regularily. My ex and I had been together for 6 years but split a couple months ago, but we have continued to be "friends with benefits". I slept with another man one time during our separation. So I kind of assumed that the baby would be my ex's but when I looked back at the calendar, my ovulation day was the 21st, I slept with this "other guy" on the 19th and my ex on the 21st. But sperm can live inside the uterus for up to 5 days. So I hve a 50/50 chance for either guy to be the father. I have not and will not tell the "other guy" I'm pregnant. He has a 9 year old daughter that he sees maybe once a year... He would be a horrible father. I have told my ex that I'm pregnant, but have not told him about the other guy because even though we aren't together it would break him to know I might possibly be pregnant by someone else. At first I considered keeping the baby, and never telling my ex. But what if it's born and it isn't his? Could I lie to him the rest of his life? That seemed like my only option at first, and I was going to do that. But I am not a bad person... I don't think I could do that to him, I love him very much and what would happen if two years down the road he finds out the kid isn't his? I feel so lost. If I knew 100% it was my ex's I would keep the baby with no thought of abortion. But the big possibilty of it being someone elses makes me feel like I have to have an abortion. I don't have the means to raise a child on my own. My ex would be a wonderful father! I'm just terrified with my luck the baby won't be his... Please help
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Honey! I TOTALLY understand about how you must feel! BUT the truth will ALWAYS come out! ALWAYS! Depending on how long you were seperated, I would suggest coming clean! IF he can't handle it either way - knowing it's his or not! There is your answer! You can also get a DNA test later on with the babies blood and your boyfriends! OR you can have an abortion! Either way, you have to be truthful! There isn't many men out there that would be willing to raise another mans baby! BUT you have to give him the chance to say either way! BECAUSE it is 50/50 then he just might want to take the odds! It's a TERRIBLE dilema! And there isn't anyone on here that can tell you what to do! All I know - from experience - is that the truth ALWAYS ALWAYS comes out! Good luck and health honey!
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Could I possibly be pregnant ?
Could I possibly be pregnant ? My doctor told me that his sperm could have lasted until my ovulation day so if I count my 7th day in my cycle ( July 2O) my eight day ( July 21) and so on sperm can last 5 - 7 days so that's what I'm so worried about My period came on the 13th of this month and ended the 18th I had sex on the 20th and the 21st he came four times in me on the 20th at night and once in the morning on the 21st(sorry to be gross) then again on the 25th with a condom with a different male . I don't know who the father could possibly be and my calendar says that it was my 7th and 8th day of my cycle . Could his sperm have lasted the on my ovulation to get me pregnant?If so what are the chances of pregnancy happening . I know it's to early for symptoms but what's the chances of me being pregnant ?
I'm only 15 I'm scared and I'm not sure what too do . How would I tell the father ( if I am ) and most important how will I tell my parents ? They already seem ashamed of me . I don't like abortion or adoption . I'm really scared .
Could I possibly be pregnant ? My doctor told me that his sperm could have lasted until my ovulation day so if I count my 7th day in my cycle ( July 2O) my eight day ( July 21) and so on sperm can last 5 - 7 days so that's what I'm so worried about My period came on the 13th of this month and ended the 18th I had sex on the 20th and the 21st he came four times in me on the 20th at night and once in the morning on the 21st(sorry to be gross) then again on the 25th with a condom with a different male . I don't know who the father could possibly be and my calendar says that it was my 7th and 8th day of my cycle . Could his sperm have lasted the on my ovulation to get me pregnant?If so what are the chances of pregnancy happening . I know it's to early for symptoms but what's the chances of me being pregnant ?
I'm only 15 I'm scared and I'm not sure what too do . How would I tell the father ( if I am ) and most important how will I tell my parents ? They already seem ashamed of me . I don't like abortion or adoption . I'm really scared .
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