7 weeks post op, having surgery for a fissure from a hemorrhoidectomy

Bambi... Hi there.. Well one day, I feel like I'm doing better and I walk around more and then the next day, it is the total opposite... I hurt, I'm weak and tired and just feel blah... I guess thats just part of recovery huh? I mainly lay in my bed on my side with a little pillow in between my legs and a pillow behind my back and a pillow in front of me and pillows behind my head... It looks like a pillow fest in my bed... The little pillow between my legs seems to help take some pressure off of my bottom.... Can't sit long or stand but I do lay on my side a lot... I guess I should make sure I just turn myself every 2 hrs to prevent bed sores.. LOL... Thanks for the website.. I'll have to try some of that stuff... Hugs to you..... :-D

You know those long pillows? I call mine "Sawyer" - From LOST!!!! ;-) Well they are awesome for getting your leg off your other one and holding onto AND screaming into!!! XD Also IF you feel like laying on you back, have your legs up like a square put about 4 or 5 pillows under your knees. so there is NO weight on your back/bum.

You wont get bed sores while laying on your bed for this amount of time! Did they give you those sexy fishing net underpants at the hospital? I gave my brotherinlaw one heck of a shock o.O When I THOUGHT I was covered, BUT I wasn't!!!!!!! ;-) XD Anyway I digress, those pants are wonderful because they let in the air, so while you are laying on the bed with your leg over "Sawyer" you can get air down there! Either by window or by fan! It just really helps with soothing the area and the healing process. So see if you can get some.

Just remember hon, warm and cold warm and cold! HUGS back to you too!

Hi guys... Hi Bambi... Thank you for all the info... Yes pillows are one of my best buddies right now.. LOL.. Lots of Hugs to my pillows... and you of course... I go for my first post op appointment tomorrow for this second surgery I had, so I'll keep you updated on what the doctor has to say this time... Thanks again for everything! I truly appreciate it.. Hugs to you... ;-)

Bambi... Hi hon... I just wanted to let you know that I went for my appt yesterday and I guess I'm healing ok this time around... You can read more in my 26 days post op that I posted... The doctor was not very friendly either... I explained it all in there... I just want to get better and I hope I never have to see that doctor ever again in my lifetime.... I know that seems mean but he was very very rude and unprofessional to me... which I'm sure he's like that to a lot of other people too... I still burn when I have BM's and I'm trying to heal as fast as I can, trust me! But my body can only do what its able to do at its own pace... I'm just very upset right now about that awful visit I had with that surgeon... Lots of hugs to you... I hope you are doing well?

It's the God Syndrome! They think they are God, what I have learnt through out MANY different appointments with different "specialists" and some you get in the car and burst into tears of anger and embarrasment! So now it's "WATCHOUT" I have actually said to some of these "Excuse me!!!! Obviously you couldn't care less about myself or my pain, so lets call this a day, I wont waste your precious time anymore! And please know I wont be back with you and will be finding some other doctor who actually cares about people, bye!" I have said this several times. One time I was getting checked out by this male nurse in an ER department, he was so horrible to me and told me to take off my top and openend the curtain for everyone to see me half naked, I stood up covered by top with my clothes, walked past him and told the doctor in charge that I've never been treated so badly in all my life! They just stood there like this o.O I put my bra and top on while I was walking, I looked at my husband and just kept walking, I told him what this guy did, he went back in the hospital and told the main doctor what this guy had done. Then we filed a formal complaint with the hospital and the local nurses union!

When you are sick or in pain and feel vunerable, these "doctors" are VERY intimidating! It's only when you have been treated terribly again and again that you actually start waiting for it to happen and are totally ready for these jerks! Instead of getting in the car after and think "I wish I had said this... or done this..." You get in the car before and think "IF he/she says this... or does this.... I will let them have it!" It's like you are ready for rude people, and it empowers you!

If you have to see him again, phone the doctor's office and ask to be sent to another specialist! Actually you will probably have to ask your family doctor for a referal! And then this jerk, wont get one more cent from your file! And you can tell them why you are moving. I did the same with my son's 1st Pediatrician, he was awful so then I got a new pediatrician and she requested my sons files to be transferred. So the office manager phoned and asked why we were leaving and I told her! So the only way to get these guys is to either tell them to their face, or remove anymore monies coming their way! And then tell anyone and everyone you know about how terrible he is. So they get less business!

It's a slow process, healing, but you WILL get over this honey and you will be stronger from it! And I promise you that you WILL take less c**p from people in the future! Lots of hugs to you as usual!

Miss Bambi, my angel... Thank you for writing me back! I'm just so scared and I'm nervous and upset all at once. I just hope I'm healing properly because he really did not examine me that well at all.. Like I said in the other post, he's always in a hurry... I had a BM tonight and it stung and bled and I was in extreme pain on the left side as I was on the right side before this fissure surgery I had 2 weeks ago... This also happend to me on Monday, I told the surgeon this but he ignored me just like he did the first time... He needs to LISTEN to his patients... I know he has done this for over 30 years but he still needs to listen and not assume... He even told me before this second surgery of mine that it was a "rare case" for him to do this fissure surgery after performing a hemorrhoidectomy. Ok, so I'm the "rare case" so it does exsist and he should of listened to me weeks earlier when I was concerned in the beginning but "he's the doctor, so he knows it all"! He did apoligize to me before this second surgery and was hugging me and wiping away my tears but in the operating room he was Dr. Jekyll, Mr. Hyde.... He was so rude and bossy, I had my underwear still on because I was on my period and the nurse said to leave them on until the OR, then he says "you need to scoot up on the table more", I couldn't because my IV was still hooked up to the other bed! It was ready to pull out of my hand... The nurses, and anesthesiologist were so friendly to me and they were trying to put Oxygen in my nose and get me prepped and the surgeon just starts to take the tape and spread my butt cheeks apart and the anesthesiologist was asking him why doesn't he wait until I'm asleep and the surgeon just replied "this saves time" or something like that.. He was so rude! I mean I was terrified having to go through another surgery and then he was so mean to me before the surgery and then on my post op appt which was yesterday. He just seems so irritated that he still has to deal with me? I don't know, I've done nothing wrong and I've waited every single time in his office over an hour to be seen after all my scheduled appts and I never said a word.. with my 3 kids too! I have been nothing but patient with him. I've had it with him! I have to go see him in 4 weeks but I feel like he really needs to know how I feel! I don't want to argue with him or start anything but he needs to know the way he treats people is awful! I'm just hoping I am healing ok? My grandma says I should write him a letter and hand it to him the last time I see him... I don't know if I should or not? I wish I could be more like you and just of walked out with my pants to my ankles but I didn't... Sorry you had to deal with that rude nurse at the hospital... You know, I've actually been through nursing school which I don't do for a living now because I'm raising my 3 kids... but I must of missed the class "how to treat your patients like c**p and kick them when they are already down"!

Thank you for being a good friend and helping me and LISTENING to me and not judging me.... thats why I'm so grateful I found this forum... I have really met some wonderful people on here.... I'm going to go lay down now but I'll keep you posted..... Lots of hugs to you!!!!! :-D

I did that after MANY times of being treated like dirt and not being listened too! What I suggest is this, ask your regular doctor to get you to another specialist, I KNOW that they don't "check" you out, like we think they should, due to the fragile area! It takes awhile honey, BUT that said, doesn't mean you have to wait! After years of dealing with rude doctors and nurses, I am more prepared than most! I am ready for a fight everytime! It's bad really, but I'd rather that then being really upset after. I think it's because I've been in such embarrassing situations - with my rips and infections etc - that I think that "What the hell!!!" and just couldn't care less about what they say or WHO they are! They will NEVER be my friends, they just need to do their job and be caring and professional! and then we will part ways, and if they can't reach their end of the bargain, then I will tell them! You should see me in the mall if I get a rude gum chewing, cell phone talking teenager, who couldn't care less!! ;-) o.O XD

But anyway hon, that's me - after years of punishment, and you are you! You have been through HELL, you are in pain, you want someone to care and you feel vunerable! So you are not in the same place as I am YET! You see if I was with you, I would strip that guy bare! And would enjoy every bit of it! Just like you would if someone was treating your children like that! It's just as women we feel like w can't do that! But I say to any other woman, let the B come out! and let them have it! So you WILL get there, you just need time for it to rise up in you.

In the meantime, just get another person to help you. WHEN you take away his business then you will be affecting him, and I agree with your grandma! Send him a letter via the post though, so he gets it well before you have to deal with him, IF you still have to! And really tell him EVERYTHING about how he was with you and how he devestated you. Writing it out, you can get it all out! And let him have it for me OK?!!! ;-)

It's still early days with your healing honey, I know it feels like a life time. Are you getting any compaction? Also IF you are on the pill, I would suggest you keep taking it to stop your period while you heal, MANYwomen do that, if you think about the anal area, you need all the help you can get keeping it clean so it can heal right? Was the surgery near your vaginal wall or at the back of your anus? I think I mentioned the "special" instrument to help with that right? Because if it is compacting you will have a dip! I guarantee you about that!

I never want you to feel like a victim! I want you to feel like the STRONG woman you are! Because you are strong honey! With ALL that you have gone through, takes strength! And he should be patting you on the back, not making you feel lesser than him. Obviously he's been in this game FAR too long!

I went to see a "plastic surgeon" about a cyst on my foot! He was as old as MUD!! And he wrote in his report to another surgeon that "Mrs. ......... right HAND!!!!!!!! needs the following surger!!!!!!" HAND!!! o.O o.O o.O XD XD Thank God I saw the report, I can just imagine being under anesthetic and having my hand operated on!! So I told my doctor and others that there shouldn't be anymore referalls to this guy! And your docto should be aware of how he's treated you too! They will keep refering people if they think there's no problem! are you still sitzing?

Hi Bambi.. I just wrote something in "26 days post op" if you want to read it... It just explains a little of what is going on with me and my family... Thank you for being such a sweet, kind hearted person.... Lots of Hugs to you.. :-D