I'm 17, female, still a virgin.
I don't know what to do. It's turning into a habit. I don't want to do it cause I feel shameful doing it. I feel like throwing up awhile after doing it.
At times I would think of nasty things and I'd feel like throwing up. I can't handle sexual thoughts well. I want to stop but then at certain times it feels like my body is yarning for it and I don't know what else to do.
Also, I'm so scared of love. The people that surrounds me.."love him, love her." I end up getting scared of ever being in love again. I don't want to. Don't want to even have a boyfriend, ever. My mom has been abused, my friends have been heart broken, I have been heart broken. I don't want it anymore. But I have a friend. She's worried about me. I don't know what for but it has something to do with this. What I'm telling you.
But mainly right now. I just feel shameful when I think of my desires and scared and hurt when I think of love.
I don't know what to do. It's turning into a habit. I don't want to do it cause I feel shameful doing it. I feel like throwing up awhile after doing it.
At times I would think of nasty things and I'd feel like throwing up. I can't handle sexual thoughts well. I want to stop but then at certain times it feels like my body is yarning for it and I don't know what else to do.
Also, I'm so scared of love. The people that surrounds me.."love him, love her." I end up getting scared of ever being in love again. I don't want to. Don't want to even have a boyfriend, ever. My mom has been abused, my friends have been heart broken, I have been heart broken. I don't want it anymore. But I have a friend. She's worried about me. I don't know what for but it has something to do with this. What I'm telling you.
But mainly right now. I just feel shameful when I think of my desires and scared and hurt when I think of love.
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Masturbation is a natural human instinct, we feel sexual arousal in our bodies, everyone does, its just in our biology. There is a taboo or social "shame" about women doing it. With men, its all they ever talk about, but with women, they don't talk about it amongst themselves, which at times, can make it feel like you shouldn't be doing it. You see, it isn't dirty, its just touching yourself like touching your face or your hair, it isn't illegal. It doesnt have any negative side effects and it releases endorphins and reduces stress! and although women don't talk about it, almost all of them do it too!
It certainly isn't "wrong" to do. This is why it feels like your body is yearning for it.
However, if you don't want to do it, it just takes will power! I'm the same age as you, I have been so engrossed in my coursework that I haven't masturbated in months, even though I used to do it regularly. I just don't have the time or energy anymore.
Just occupy yourself with something else, it takes a little willpower, thats all. Discover a new talent, or hobby. Fufill your life with something constructive.
Your experiences of the crueler side of love is turning you away from it. This is natural with what has happened to the people around you. But you need to realise it isn't the emotion of love that does this to people.
Its the people that love is linked to. Some people can be very very cruel.
Love didn't abuse your mother, some nasty peice of work did.
Love didn't break you and your freinds hearts, some immature guys did.
It truly is a beautiful thing, Why else do you think people choose to spend the rest of their lives with each other? To grow old together and spend each night in each others embrace?
You shouldn't turn your back on love, although I can see how you have every inclination to. For now, focus your energy on your freindships and your families, they deserve your love. Grow as a person, Learn new things!
At 17, most guys are just looking for sex, and only a select few want relationships. Teenage heartbreak is a horrible but inevitable thing. simply because Girls mature faster than guys do! Its a fact!
You have your whole life ahead of you, and you don't have the distraction of constantly thinking about guys, you have the motivation to be anything you want to be. Fufill your life with that, and you will meet a nice, caring, loving man in the future who loves you. And wants to grow old and spend the rest of his life together with you. Not some immature prick. A real partner.
Anyway, I hope I helped a little, I do hope that things get better for you, sorry this post was so long!
It certainly isn't "wrong" to do. This is why it feels like your body is yearning for it.
However, if you don't want to do it, it just takes will power! I'm the same age as you, I have been so engrossed in my coursework that I haven't masturbated in months, even though I used to do it regularly. I just don't have the time or energy anymore.
Just occupy yourself with something else, it takes a little willpower, thats all. Discover a new talent, or hobby. Fufill your life with something constructive.
Your experiences of the crueler side of love is turning you away from it. This is natural with what has happened to the people around you. But you need to realise it isn't the emotion of love that does this to people.
Its the people that love is linked to. Some people can be very very cruel.
Love didn't abuse your mother, some nasty peice of work did.
Love didn't break you and your freinds hearts, some immature guys did.
It truly is a beautiful thing, Why else do you think people choose to spend the rest of their lives with each other? To grow old together and spend each night in each others embrace?
You shouldn't turn your back on love, although I can see how you have every inclination to. For now, focus your energy on your freindships and your families, they deserve your love. Grow as a person, Learn new things!
At 17, most guys are just looking for sex, and only a select few want relationships. Teenage heartbreak is a horrible but inevitable thing. simply because Girls mature faster than guys do! Its a fact!
You have your whole life ahead of you, and you don't have the distraction of constantly thinking about guys, you have the motivation to be anything you want to be. Fufill your life with that, and you will meet a nice, caring, loving man in the future who loves you. And wants to grow old and spend the rest of his life together with you. Not some immature prick. A real partner.
Anyway, I hope I helped a little, I do hope that things get better for you, sorry this post was so long!
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I used to masturbate around 3 times a day and I'm a woman. I never felt it was shameful in fact I felt proud because I was waiting to find the right person before I just had sex with anyone so when I felt like doing that I just masturbated. I didn't look for love, I just knew what I wanted and who would go good with me. It took me a while but we found each other. I couldn't stand the thought of people with guys if I didn't know they were right for me and vice versa so I didn't date. Now that I did meet the right one we are getting married and we have a great life together. Don't force yourself to love or even like someone, it will only make you unhappy.
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