Hello i am 22 and my husband is 33. We have been married for almost 3 years now.. When we 1st met and up until a few months after we Got married he was amazing. We were sooo happy together. Even tho we couldnt afford things like most people have we did just fine amusing each other with late night talks, random crazy sex and things like dancing to the radio in the living room even. But it didnt take long for things to go bad.. Out of no where he got a terrible temper and sabatoged my job because i was getting a managers position and he didnt want me to make more money. Later he told me that he doesnt want me to work because i would leave. He started having blow ups throwing things and then he started threatening me. One morning he told me he almost suffocated me that night in my sleep and now i can never sleep when hes angry. He has also held me down and didnt let me leave the bedroom while we were fussing. And one time i needed to use the restroom while we were fussing and he told me to go ahead and kill myself while i was in there.. He learned that his anger scared me and now he uses it against me. One time i wasnt in the mood when he was and he told me he would just rape me insted so i took off my clothes and told him to just do it and layed there and cried the whole time while he did his thing because i was afraid to not let him. And every since then i am afraid to tell him no even tho it hurts really bad(he wont take me to the dr and idk why it hurts). The last blow up was the worst.. He threatened me aswell as the pets and after i left he threatened to kill hisself but then called the next day saying he wanted help and my parents had made it clear that i couldnt stay so i went back and then took him to the hospital where he stayed for 3 days and then got out and now things are worse than ever.. I cant do anything right and im scared of him.. I cant trust him.. I love him so much even tho he can be so mean and this is breaking my heart.. I dont know what to do.. Am i making a big deal of nothing? Or is this really abuse? Part of me feels like i deserve it.. Maybe im not a good enough wife? He has scared all my friends away and my family hates him.. They see how he is but then my mom told me i just need to deal with it. I just dont understand.. Maybe its just in my head but it hurts like its real and like hes a monster..
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im only 18 been ive been through the kind of same thing with an ex boyfriend my advice to you is to get out of the relationship as soon as possible and im telling you then for your own good and well being. its not your fault his doing this and no one can be a terrible wife unless they cheat and visa versa. you may thing things will get better i thought that but it doesnt it gets worse until they actully put you in hospital. i was in hospital with a broken nose broken blood vessels in my eye i was very much nearly blind i also had muscle damage. i have scares from what he did to me and have to live with that everyday of my life and i wouldnt wish it on my worst enemy. after this happened i couldnt be by myself i had to be walked to school by my friends and back and when i woke up in the morning i had to be around someone. i also had nightmare. no one deserves what your going through at all and your mum should be helping you not telling you to deal with it. i know its hard because you love him but you dont deserve it. if you get out of it you will find someone who treats you like a princess. im glad i got out of that relationship i have now been with my boyfriend for 16 month and he treats me like a should be treated never threatened or laid a finger on me and his turned my life around i can now forget about my ex and i can now be by myself without being scared. i hope this helps you because i totally understand what your going through and your not on your own. you can always send me a message if you want to talk more about this i will be happy to help you :) x
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he is cleary abusing you and you let him do it, do not encourage or get ready for a messed-up life. Make it clear to him he can't treat you like that, you are his partner not a pet, he can't abuse you physically or verbally. If he still doesn't listen seek police. If he can't give equal right and respect to his partner, there is no meaning continuing this relation.
It doesn't seem like he really loves you. If your feelings, emotions and ambitions doesn't matter to him, it's worthless going on with him, breakup
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I dont know how you do it.
My advise is get as far away from him as possible, it will be hard but you will be fine.
My advise is get as far away from him as possible, it will be hard but you will be fine.
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ADJUST YOUR PRIORITIES You are where you are today because of the desiniocs you made yesterday.a0 Your priorities can be found by following where your money is spent.a0 Is there something that you feel you deserve? (Like Health Care?) If your priorities were different could you afford that something?
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