Anyone Else Getting Butt-ugly During Menopause?

I'm sorry, I am 47 n feel the same way, so you have a friend here

I feel the same have days when I don't want to get up but I have 2 girls 7 and 12 and I get up because they gave school if I hadn't got these 2 beauties I would lie rotting in my bed I've always been size 10/12 I did go down to an 8 but looked ill now I'm a 14 and hate my bell also a little hump behind my neck I have broken veins in my legs I have had 4 children 2 of wich are In there 20s I have grand children and I'm always being told you don't look your age but when I'm naked in the mirror I could cry and cry and cry thing is I don't want to loose to much weight just get to a size12 but doesn't matter what I try dueting food wise my BASTARD stomach is there making me look pregnant what the f**k did I do wrong to deserve to feel like this I also gave a husband who loves me for who I am he is 10 1/2years younger than me we have our own house an house abroad we have built from scratch lovley children and grandchildren were not starving but shot I feel c**p is it just vanity I don't know

We are a sorry lot, haha! It made me sad to read that so many others feel so ugly. That said, I'm also here because I googled feeling ugly as I age. I've never been particularly good looking, but at least I used to be youthful! I'm trying to embrace it all, but man, it sure is hard.

Oh, and in my next life I am totally coming back as a tall, thin and blonde man. And I want to be able to sing and play awesome acoustic guitar.

Who can afford that if you're poor

Hello ladies. Welcome to menopause. What happened to my body !! In the last year I've gained 15 lbs , my butt went flat and I can grab belly fat. WTH. I'm devastated not to mention I now suffer chronic low grade depression -- great! Where has my energy gone ?? I still work out with weights and walk but my body is looking worse . I'm trying to cope with aging , but I'm not doing a great job. I'm 55. I think I'll find some kind of group to join like an exercise class with ladies my age. I need to socialize more with females my age. And please ladies , stay clear of men who put too much emphasis on sex and looks. It will only bring us down.....Onward .... no looking back

I wish I had lots of kids and grand kids to take my mind off myself or maybe not .. not sure I have the energy for that.. I want to let go of youth and embrace aging. Who am I kidding But it's my goal

I can so relate! I have spent a week crying, but I am also PMT, but generally I feel horrible. My hair has gone so thin, I landed up chopping it off myself. My stomach is like a fat blob of jelly that is clinging on to me. I have a double chin even though I am not huge, my eyebrows have fallen out, I cry most the time, my feet are sore, I try and dress sexy but because of this 'pseudo pregnancy fat stomach' I look like a darned blob. 

Everywhere I look life seems to be about young people. Movies are about young people, adverts, I feel like the oldest woman on earth. Yet, I see tons of glam ladies on instagram over 60, but no one looks glam at 50 unless they are super rich. Where do I fit in? Plus I have lost all my friends and relatives due to deaths or moving countries. This is so hard. 

 

I used to be vibrant, sexy, bubbly, I had a sense of humor, I was sassy, I used to laugh loads, my teeth look so horrible I won't even smile anymore. I have a phobia of the dentstist so won't go. I am new in the UK so imagine trying to make friends with new people, who basically meet me and think I was born old. You know? My skin is always dry and to boot I suffer serious depression/anxiety despite this marvelous stage I am going though. Help!

 

I agree . I was always flirty bubbly and happy in my looks . I met the love of my life 7 years ago . Still felt great ...then bam ...3 years into menopause . I gained 3 stone . Can't shift it . Work my bullocks off still and come home shattered .feel low and now to top how I feel ... the love of my life is a regular sneaky porn watcher which makes me feel sh*t in myself coz our sexy life went from fantastic to ...maybe once a month . I feel a failure in bed . Menopause socks. I still have a wicked sense of humour feel young at heart but my arrange is suffering. Help please any advice xxx
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I'm with you. I've become terribly ugly once I hit 50. It sucks. Such a coward or I'd commit suicide. No point in living the rest of my years...hopefully something will happen to me and it'll be over soon. :(

Strangely, I feel the same way as "Guest" above this comment. I'm old, ugly and lonely most of my waking hours. Who ever said life begins @ 50. That's exactly when it ends. I see my body declining and those wonderful women hormones and things no longer exist. I liken it to death. In my opinion, parts of the body dies way before it actually dies for good. I'm way past 50 now and the hopes and dreams that I had for myself never came to fruition....I'll have to take them with me when I die. I'd rather die empty having fulfilled most of my dreams and having lived a full and wonderful life. But that will not be the case with me. I'll die full of all of those hopes and dreams. The thing about not wanting to live is secondary. I actually wish I had never been born. My whole life has been a disappointment...a disappointing physical appearance made me invisible when I would hangout with my beautiful friends. No one would talk to me at parties/clubs so I'd sit while my friends were dancing the night away with someone. Oh well! Life is not a box of chocolates and aging is an unmerciful foe.

I'm sorry to hear you feel so bad. I know it's not easy. However, I am fighting back! We all feel invisible, ugly and just yuk it appears. I am not going to look back on my life unhappy. I am studying for a hypnotherapy diploma. I know I am depressed, I need medication and maybe hormones. I will rise up again as a new person with a better life than I had before. Life doesn't have to be about looks, it can be about relationships. Relationships with our friends, our new friends ourselves. Hobbies, pets and even new love if the case can and will happen if we allow it in. (I've had disappointing relationships prior).
I'm not going the surgery route either. I'm reading the Beauty Myth by N. Wolf I refuse to let a misogynist society dictate my worth. I relied on my looks and they are certainly fading, but maybe that is a lesson to me. I have a heart, a personality and I am a vibrant soul. Don't let this beat you and we are not dying we are just becoming more us, more real deeper and better. I hope this helped and I wish you love and hugs.

Haha I love that comment! I also go to a gym where creepy old dudes think they are hot!!

Eat raw fruits and veggies, use lemon or lime juice on your face at night, and Retin A, use salacyclic acid on your body and face where you have skin damage. It's wart medicine and costs $4. You will have to repeat for damaged skin but the results are amazing. Be careful since it's acid. Go to Dr for antioxidants, estrogen, etc. EXERCISE!!

I was feeling very sexy at 53 years of age for the first time in my life. Four years on i feel old, fat and ugly.