So for the longest time I have been having some sexual issues, mine is that I love to please a woman with oral but notice I am completely out of breath dehydrated afterwards before we get into the sex this causing erection problems & sometimes not being able to cum, it's frustrating obviously. I'm almost 33 & have had lots of sex through my sexual life & don't recall having as many issues as I do now a days. I get over heated, distracted, but here's the crazy thing the women I am attracted to I struggle & the ones I'm not into I do alright. Normally I'd say it would be stress with pleasing the person I'm attracted to but you would think with in time I'd get over it, not the case. I'm in good shape & take care of myself, I just don't get it. I would masturbate a lot at times yes but purposely would hold off to see if it made a difference & at times maybe it did or maybe it didn't it was kind of hard to tell if any difference was made at all.
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Of course I will begin with you need to see a doctor to rule out any erectile issues you may be experiencing which is not all together uncommon for men at your age or after.
However after reading your post it seems to me that your having self-esteem or confidence problems. If your doing alright with women your not into then that says that you feel less under pressure. But when your with women who are very attractive, at that point your caring how you perform, what they might be thinking, how long will you last, are you doing everything right ect...
I'm willing to bet your thinking too much during sex, am I right?
Don't put so much pressure on yourself, sex is sex, if you both connect and care about each other you will both work it out. If your having mainly casual sex however, maybe your over-doing it a bit. Try a more committed relationship to only one person. This allows for you to be more comfortable in all aspects of yourself, and you may even find out what's bothering you!
The physical symptoms your having of feeling out of breath, dehydrated, spent..could be an illness, however I'm more inclined to think you might be experiencing some "anxiety"
Good Luck!
However after reading your post it seems to me that your having self-esteem or confidence problems. If your doing alright with women your not into then that says that you feel less under pressure. But when your with women who are very attractive, at that point your caring how you perform, what they might be thinking, how long will you last, are you doing everything right ect...
I'm willing to bet your thinking too much during sex, am I right?
Don't put so much pressure on yourself, sex is sex, if you both connect and care about each other you will both work it out. If your having mainly casual sex however, maybe your over-doing it a bit. Try a more committed relationship to only one person. This allows for you to be more comfortable in all aspects of yourself, and you may even find out what's bothering you!
The physical symptoms your having of feeling out of breath, dehydrated, spent..could be an illness, however I'm more inclined to think you might be experiencing some "anxiety"
Good Luck!
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