Hey guys,
you all might remember me; im Matt, Im 15 and had brain surgery in July of 2007.
In case you don't know me, I cant walk right, as of now.
Im upset because I want a girl. Like I talkto girls in school and try to plan dates. But it never follows through. I see shows like Glee and feel bad for having no intimacy and love.
I know I dont have a forum, but what do you guys think.
you all might remember me; im Matt, Im 15 and had brain surgery in July of 2007.
In case you don't know me, I cant walk right, as of now.
Im upset because I want a girl. Like I talkto girls in school and try to plan dates. But it never follows through. I see shows like Glee and feel bad for having no intimacy and love.
I know I dont have a forum, but what do you guys think.
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Hi Matt,
The problem with TV shows is that they're not like real life. Most people live perfectly happy lives that would be so boring nobody would ever want to watch them on TV.
Have you tried to, or do you, just have a girl as a friend? I don't mean girlfriend, just a friend. Its a good way to start a relationship. She could then introduce you to her friends.
What would you plan for a date? How do the girls respond when you tell them?
The problem with TV shows is that they're not like real life. Most people live perfectly happy lives that would be so boring nobody would ever want to watch them on TV.
Have you tried to, or do you, just have a girl as a friend? I don't mean girlfriend, just a friend. Its a good way to start a relationship. She could then introduce you to her friends.
What would you plan for a date? How do the girls respond when you tell them?
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Hi,
just to add - teen years are tough even without any additional, health related problems - teens are already overly worried about how they look and everything that is happening to their bodies. Just look at people around you that are your age - most of them are definitely not in a relationship, not because none of them wants to be in one, or because they are not doing the right thing, that just happens because emotions and behavior at these years are hard to control. I really think that you are doing the right thing by trying to meet new girls and find a date - if you don't try you never will succeed, but nothing in life really goes just as easy as it seems.
just to add - teen years are tough even without any additional, health related problems - teens are already overly worried about how they look and everything that is happening to their bodies. Just look at people around you that are your age - most of them are definitely not in a relationship, not because none of them wants to be in one, or because they are not doing the right thing, that just happens because emotions and behavior at these years are hard to control. I really think that you are doing the right thing by trying to meet new girls and find a date - if you don't try you never will succeed, but nothing in life really goes just as easy as it seems.
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I have a girl as a friend, but we plan to hang out. unfortunately, she always bails.
For a date, I mean, the only thing i can think of is a movie. The girl might say yea, but never follow through. n
For a date, I mean, the only thing i can think of is a movie. The girl might say yea, but never follow through. n
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Hi Matt,
I'm a girl, if that matters.
First of all you've been through a lot. Teenage years are very difficult and confusing for everyone, and you have health issues on top of it to make things even worse. The bright side is that these years will pass, and I'm sure you will come out all the stronger because of learning to deal with the extra pressure at such an early age.
I'm not going to lie, it's not going to be easy for you. Teenagers are a cruel crowd, so the most important piece of advice I could give you is to not let it get to you. Once again, I'm being very honest here, I hope you don't mind. But some girls will turn you down because of your current state. Some girls will like you as a person and you will get your hopes high, but at the last minute they will stand you up for some idiotic reason like one of their girlfriends made a joke about going on a date with you. This is normal, and it happens to 98% of all teenagers, and we all grow up and have more or less healthy relationships in spite of it.
The worst thing that you could do is to get aggravated and angry. Try to focus on being a good person and maintaining a good sense of humor no matter what. If you find the ability in spite of all hardships to laugh at yourself, at your current years and at your teenage frustrations, trust me, you will grow into an incredible man who will attract intelligent and caring women.
I don't know how extroverted you are, but if you like socializing with people, just do it. Hang out with girls, if you find someone interesting ask them out (not on a "formal date" right away per se, just to some fun social activity). If they say no, just move on to the next interesting person.
This is turning out kind of long, but my almost 30 years of life experience tend to show that the more we long for something, the less chances we have of getting it. So sitting around and thinking "Oh I want love in my life, why can't I find The One" will just make you feel miserable and depressed. If you adapt a more positive attitude, say, "Hey, I still haven't met that one special person, but that won't keep me from having fun and getting to know lots of other cool people. If I find love along the way, great. If not, I'll still enjoy the experience and make a number of friends while I'm at it.", you will see that people will be more attracted to you. (That's just basic human psychology, when we feel that a person is comfortable with himself, we're comfortable around him. If a person is down and needy, we subconsciously avoid him.)
Or you could forgo all this advice and go the emo way, which could also lead to success.
In any case I just want to wish you luck and the best of health.
I'm a girl, if that matters.
First of all you've been through a lot. Teenage years are very difficult and confusing for everyone, and you have health issues on top of it to make things even worse. The bright side is that these years will pass, and I'm sure you will come out all the stronger because of learning to deal with the extra pressure at such an early age.
I'm not going to lie, it's not going to be easy for you. Teenagers are a cruel crowd, so the most important piece of advice I could give you is to not let it get to you. Once again, I'm being very honest here, I hope you don't mind. But some girls will turn you down because of your current state. Some girls will like you as a person and you will get your hopes high, but at the last minute they will stand you up for some idiotic reason like one of their girlfriends made a joke about going on a date with you. This is normal, and it happens to 98% of all teenagers, and we all grow up and have more or less healthy relationships in spite of it.
The worst thing that you could do is to get aggravated and angry. Try to focus on being a good person and maintaining a good sense of humor no matter what. If you find the ability in spite of all hardships to laugh at yourself, at your current years and at your teenage frustrations, trust me, you will grow into an incredible man who will attract intelligent and caring women.
I don't know how extroverted you are, but if you like socializing with people, just do it. Hang out with girls, if you find someone interesting ask them out (not on a "formal date" right away per se, just to some fun social activity). If they say no, just move on to the next interesting person.
This is turning out kind of long, but my almost 30 years of life experience tend to show that the more we long for something, the less chances we have of getting it. So sitting around and thinking "Oh I want love in my life, why can't I find The One" will just make you feel miserable and depressed. If you adapt a more positive attitude, say, "Hey, I still haven't met that one special person, but that won't keep me from having fun and getting to know lots of other cool people. If I find love along the way, great. If not, I'll still enjoy the experience and make a number of friends while I'm at it.", you will see that people will be more attracted to you. (That's just basic human psychology, when we feel that a person is comfortable with himself, we're comfortable around him. If a person is down and needy, we subconsciously avoid him.)
Or you could forgo all this advice and go the emo way, which could also lead to success.
In any case I just want to wish you luck and the best of health.
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