Hey...in need of some advice before I go crazy!!! Ive been with my fiance for 3 years now, sex was amazing and frequent until about a year and a half ago...we became managers of a pub and its a hugely demanding job especially as even when we are not working we are only upstairs and staff constantly ring or shout us...as well as this a year ago we had a baby and so obviously this slowed down our sex life whilst i was heavily pregnant until about 2 months after he was born....cue sleepless nights from baby...long hours at work...equals not much time for a sex life as always tired....anyway we still have sex just not very often maybe a couple of times a month at the most. although sometimes it can be a few months with nothing?? recently i looked through the history on the computer internet - i was genuinly trying to find a website i had been on and couldnt remember name - and i came across some porn sites he has been visiting....anyway i let it go as i know most men look at porn and i wouldnt care normally but its been grating on me and now i have become obsessed with checking...he is on these websites 3 or 4 times a week basically every time he is alone in the flat....so i thought i should try and instigate sex more often and every time i do he either stops me or he comes before we even get to it....this was never a problem before but he said that he feels like he is a let down....he isnt i love him so much i just want to save our relationship...but why is he looking at porn and masturbating all the time and not interested in us anymore?? does this just mean he doesnt want me anymore??? HELP!! very confused, upset, concerned......
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Maybe he is just tired and uses porn to get it over with.
Now he doesn't have to worry about pleaseing you and going thru the motions of all that.
I would call him out on the porn thing and see what he says.
Now he doesn't have to worry about pleaseing you and going thru the motions of all that.
I would call him out on the porn thing and see what he says.
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Six years ago I met my wife. The first three years we were great together, we would have sex 5, 6, 7 times a day, in all differnt odd placed. We swore a porn star died on our kitchen floor, cause we always ended up there. We are in a very open relationship and talk about these things, back then we agreed to be there for each other physically. Whenever one of us wants sex we tell each other and 99% of the time we achieved our goal wherever we are.
At the beginning of year three we became pregnant, after the baby was delivered a series of events turned our sex life off.
First we had no time. So her sister moved in with us to help.
Second I am not attracted to pregnant women, I didn't tell her this because I didn't want to hurt her. Even after the baby was delivered her pregnant image stuck in my head whenever she was naked.
Thirdly this year basically with no sex, like reprogrammed us to life with very little sex. This bugged the hell out of us so we took steps to fix it.
We did three different things. We hired a nanny which freed up nearly all of our time to be with each other and do things.
We also talked it over and since she didn't 100% want another child we agreed to have no more children. because she was physically in better shape ten she ever was.
The last thing that occurred I was willingly forced into without the ability to reject. On my birthday we were playing , I was tied up and she put the cover over my head. Unknowingly her sister came into the room and they switched spots, her sister is really attractive and I wouldn't have been able to resist this from ocuring. This event reset mine and my wifes internal sex desires. We are back to 3 or 4 times a day. And the threesomes with her sister never stopped , this still happens four to five times a week.
My problem though is both of these women are totally fine with this and my sister in law has stopped putting herself out there and stopped looking for boyfriends. Im concerned with this because I feel that this is ruining her life by wasting the years on a man that cant be 100% hers. The best that I can be for her is 99%. I am 99% in love with her and don't want this relationship to end. The only difference is that she doesn't have the ring on her finger.
The only rule that we have is I can NOT have solo sex with my wifes sister unless my wife is away for a week or so.
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