man i'm in the same boat with just learned my best friend had a kid and im just thinking if he knows how lucky he really is. im 21 now and aside from the usual stuff im starting to realise as hard as it is i have to push my male best friends away becasue i think im attracted to them sexually even though they dont know it, but its harder for me to put up a smile every time we are hanging out or taking a swim while in my head im thinking of them differently. now my biggest fear is ending up alone. i have no one to talk to about this no one who can understand me no one at all. but atleast here i can find people like me atleast here i can express what i feel. wish i could talk to you directly
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NICE post...
Ive had thoughts about both guys and girls most of my life...when asked in psychology class in high school how many children I wanted, I said, 'just one' (and even THAT was doubtful..
Here I am now in my fourties, looking back..presently w/ same sex life partner for over 20 yrs,...And STILL having thoughts w/ opposite sex..I was platonic in HS, dated 'best friend girl classmates'...went to college, dated a Bi-black GF , who later introduced me to more serios straight sex and then the bi/gay scene--my first real sex experience was with her at 20yo, then realized I like guys more..but even now, I wonder...someone else I dated in college..her dad was a doctor, and wanted to 'change' me...wonder if I couldve been happy w/ a girl, growing older together w/ a couple kids bringing us joy as a family..
Really it is the REALATIONSHIP, not the sex that defines us...I know many a straight young couple who love to take in three-somes for spice to their relationship..I too, have participated in that in my twenties, but didnt HAVE a true relationship..just friends helping each other 'get off'..many a 'straight 'man finding out he likes a man once in a while, for Ive had them sexually too...not NOT a true bonding relationship
Ive met many men in my travels who later in life discover they are gay/bi, and somewhat regret where/how they went in their life...some were accepted by their wives//children, fortunately...
I would advise trying both sexes out when youre young, and see where you lean towards, and go for it..I still long for the softness of a female sometimes, but suppress it thru fantasy and masturbation...this is just a twist on what some of the others before me said, for by relationship, Im gay...by fantasies/experience, Im bi
Ive had thoughts about both guys and girls most of my life...when asked in psychology class in high school how many children I wanted, I said, 'just one' (and even THAT was doubtful..
Here I am now in my fourties, looking back..presently w/ same sex life partner for over 20 yrs,...And STILL having thoughts w/ opposite sex..I was platonic in HS, dated 'best friend girl classmates'...went to college, dated a Bi-black GF , who later introduced me to more serios straight sex and then the bi/gay scene--my first real sex experience was with her at 20yo, then realized I like guys more..but even now, I wonder...someone else I dated in college..her dad was a doctor, and wanted to 'change' me...wonder if I couldve been happy w/ a girl, growing older together w/ a couple kids bringing us joy as a family..
Really it is the REALATIONSHIP, not the sex that defines us...I know many a straight young couple who love to take in three-somes for spice to their relationship..I too, have participated in that in my twenties, but didnt HAVE a true relationship..just friends helping each other 'get off'..many a 'straight 'man finding out he likes a man once in a while, for Ive had them sexually too...not NOT a true bonding relationship
Ive met many men in my travels who later in life discover they are gay/bi, and somewhat regret where/how they went in their life...some were accepted by their wives//children, fortunately...
I would advise trying both sexes out when youre young, and see where you lean towards, and go for it..I still long for the softness of a female sometimes, but suppress it thru fantasy and masturbation...this is just a twist on what some of the others before me said, for by relationship, Im gay...by fantasies/experience, Im bi
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PS...I remember at 16, I fantasized constantly about ANYthing, ...my hormones were screaming for ANYthing...this changed later in my twenties
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Same Here...
I'm 25 as well, I've had casual encounters with men but really don't feel like dating or having like an emotional relationship with a guy. It's like I'm not emotionally attracted to guys, but not physically attracted to girls either.
I know that at some point in my life, I will want to have a family, but right now I can't find a way to get there and that's depressing.
I really have everything else, good job, friends (they don't know that im gay tho), etc... and I'm happy because of that.
However the whole thing seems kinda worthless when you can't think of the future at all... And I feel like I'll end up alone while all my friends will get married and start a family. Time flies by, the clock is ticking, and that's scary.
Sure I could date a guy, but then what ?
I've been thinking about this stuff for years and I can't find a solution, and now I feel like I'm just wasting what should be the best years of my life.
I'm 25 as well, I've had casual encounters with men but really don't feel like dating or having like an emotional relationship with a guy. It's like I'm not emotionally attracted to guys, but not physically attracted to girls either.
I know that at some point in my life, I will want to have a family, but right now I can't find a way to get there and that's depressing.
I really have everything else, good job, friends (they don't know that im gay tho), etc... and I'm happy because of that.
However the whole thing seems kinda worthless when you can't think of the future at all... And I feel like I'll end up alone while all my friends will get married and start a family. Time flies by, the clock is ticking, and that's scary.
Sure I could date a guy, but then what ?
I've been thinking about this stuff for years and I can't find a solution, and now I feel like I'm just wasting what should be the best years of my life.
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Hey guys, I am in the same boat too.
However here is a tip, not the best - try masturbating to both male + female and see what you like. I can do it over women still *yes!* and as I had christian beliefs I also started going to chapel. I know how worrying this is, I was on the verge of tears back in August, and I still worry about it everyday... but experiment, see what happens...
Maybe if you want to be straight, and people have done this if you search "Gay and married to a woman"... she can be your best friend. It's not all about sex. You can be attracted to their PERSONALITY not sexually. Personality-built relationships live longer. If you want to have kids, go for it if you really want to.
Or you could hook up with someone and say that you had bi/gay feelings in the past and ask for this relationship between you both and compliment their personality and appearance.
Best wishes.
However here is a tip, not the best - try masturbating to both male + female and see what you like. I can do it over women still *yes!* and as I had christian beliefs I also started going to chapel. I know how worrying this is, I was on the verge of tears back in August, and I still worry about it everyday... but experiment, see what happens...
Maybe if you want to be straight, and people have done this if you search "Gay and married to a woman"... she can be your best friend. It's not all about sex. You can be attracted to their PERSONALITY not sexually. Personality-built relationships live longer. If you want to have kids, go for it if you really want to.
Or you could hook up with someone and say that you had bi/gay feelings in the past and ask for this relationship between you both and compliment their personality and appearance.
Best wishes.
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I have the same problem, in fact I think there are many people out there with this problem and with the whole gay/lesbian debate things just get more and more confusing. Although I feel very real attractions to men I hate it very much. I want to get married too and would really love to have my own children.
This desperate state made me date a girl and you know what, despite of the so called gay feelings, I fell madely in love with her! I keep on thinking how unreal this is. I even arose sexually around her. The relationship ended because she (not me - for once) had too many issues (I'm not going into details here since they don't touch on the topic) I was really hurt, but realized that she was not for me. I learned a hard relationship lesson, but also realized something about the feeling toward men - they do not chance what I am... a man. And somehow there is a natural attraction in myself for woman. Up till the point where I started to love my ex girlfriend I never knew that. I still get feelings for men, but I'm not afraid of them anymore. I do not want a gay life and I'm not going to pursue it. It is the normal natural thing for a guy to be with a girl.
Infact I'm starting to wonder if there is any difference between guys attraction to girls on a sexual basis versus the male-male attraction. Hence the confusion causing some to call it BI-sexual. I wondering if both isn't exactly the same attraction and completely lust driven. Relationships build on lust never lasts, because lust doesn't. This is why so little guy relationships last... it is never about the relationship and only about the sex.
Therefore find a nice girl get to know her very well and marry her, build the relationship not the sexuality. Homosexuality is all about sex don't think it should be the same with a woman. Sex has it's place but it should be the reward of a healthy relationship and not the other way around.
By the way - I have come to see that most of this aligns with the bible, Jesus in Matt 6 refer to a very interesting topic on the way we understand the world, and that it is possible to understand the world incorrectly. Even so convincingly incorrectly that it controls our every feeling - like homosexuality does. The things that will change our view is the truth and only the truth.
In today's society saying that one understanding of truth is higher than someone else is like swearing is to good christians. All these discussion would have been much simplier if they where discussed from the same common ground - so expect people to disagree with me. They do not see this the same because they do not want to submit to truth, rather they want truth to submit to them.
If only we all at least agree that truth is from God alone and cannot be discovered through experiences... this is why people belief their feelings more to be the reality. Your feelings can also lie.
The reality about being a man is that you are naturally designed to be with a woman... the puzzle just doesn't fit otherwise.
This desperate state made me date a girl and you know what, despite of the so called gay feelings, I fell madely in love with her! I keep on thinking how unreal this is. I even arose sexually around her. The relationship ended because she (not me - for once) had too many issues (I'm not going into details here since they don't touch on the topic) I was really hurt, but realized that she was not for me. I learned a hard relationship lesson, but also realized something about the feeling toward men - they do not chance what I am... a man. And somehow there is a natural attraction in myself for woman. Up till the point where I started to love my ex girlfriend I never knew that. I still get feelings for men, but I'm not afraid of them anymore. I do not want a gay life and I'm not going to pursue it. It is the normal natural thing for a guy to be with a girl.
Infact I'm starting to wonder if there is any difference between guys attraction to girls on a sexual basis versus the male-male attraction. Hence the confusion causing some to call it BI-sexual. I wondering if both isn't exactly the same attraction and completely lust driven. Relationships build on lust never lasts, because lust doesn't. This is why so little guy relationships last... it is never about the relationship and only about the sex.
Therefore find a nice girl get to know her very well and marry her, build the relationship not the sexuality. Homosexuality is all about sex don't think it should be the same with a woman. Sex has it's place but it should be the reward of a healthy relationship and not the other way around.
By the way - I have come to see that most of this aligns with the bible, Jesus in Matt 6 refer to a very interesting topic on the way we understand the world, and that it is possible to understand the world incorrectly. Even so convincingly incorrectly that it controls our every feeling - like homosexuality does. The things that will change our view is the truth and only the truth.
In today's society saying that one understanding of truth is higher than someone else is like swearing is to good christians. All these discussion would have been much simplier if they where discussed from the same common ground - so expect people to disagree with me. They do not see this the same because they do not want to submit to truth, rather they want truth to submit to them.
If only we all at least agree that truth is from God alone and cannot be discovered through experiences... this is why people belief their feelings more to be the reality. Your feelings can also lie.
The reality about being a man is that you are naturally designed to be with a woman... the puzzle just doesn't fit otherwise.
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I have the same problem!! I have never been with a woman and I have never been turned on to a girl. but i want a wife and child. I am only 19 years old.
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Hi
I am in same boat too
Have physical feelings to man,but I damn hate them.
I wanna be straight, though I lack erection to them,
I had erection to woman in my teens.I want it back despareately.
Please let me know methods which helped any of you guys.
I am in same boat too
Have physical feelings to man,but I damn hate them.
I wanna be straight, though I lack erection to them,
I had erection to woman in my teens.I want it back despareately.
Please let me know methods which helped any of you guys.
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hi i m in trouble plz guide me what do i do? Basicaly i m male but i dont have any interest in famales sex from my childhood but i get attraction in males i want to be sex to them but males not approached me bcoz they dont find nothing in me for their sexual satisfaction so plz guide me how will males will select and choose me for sex i want to get a marry to a male but its not possible bcoz of that i m male so plz help me,can u help to change my sex to become female
i would be very very thankful to u if u will help or give me any possitive and authentic suggestion or treatment
from sonu
i would be very very thankful to u if u will help or give me any possitive and authentic suggestion or treatment
from sonu
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There is hope! It is possible to live a normal life without constant feelings for the same sex. I know this because I have been through this.
Contact me at the below email address but read these first
1. You will need someone who understand every single temptation and thought that you think. Just because you do not really understand what you are in. We assume most of our understanding on homosexuality based on what we see in media and from people we know.
2. It is obvious from the first statement that a mind change is needed. This mind change can shake your world radically. You might have to be open to a few strange old truths. Some off these truths are openly being reject by our current society. Mostly because of the complete mind change that these truths hold. But once you see them for what they are they are so beautiful you can hardly belief you ever manage to live without them.
3. This can take some time to achieve. This is not easy, but extremely possible! Your support which I mentioned in point 1 will help you have endurance, but sometimes you might think it will never work. It is then when you have to face yourself and choose what you want. I have made it and will never go back!
4. It is free! I'm not going to take any money for helping anyone. This is something I am very passionate about and would love to share. However the cost of this road is hidden in personal commitment to embracing the changes that you will have to make in your life. It is worth contacting me and see what exactly this is about and then let me know if you are interested in this road.
I have set-up an email address for anyone who wants to know more.
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Contact me at the below email address but read these first
1. You will need someone who understand every single temptation and thought that you think. Just because you do not really understand what you are in. We assume most of our understanding on homosexuality based on what we see in media and from people we know.
2. It is obvious from the first statement that a mind change is needed. This mind change can shake your world radically. You might have to be open to a few strange old truths. Some off these truths are openly being reject by our current society. Mostly because of the complete mind change that these truths hold. But once you see them for what they are they are so beautiful you can hardly belief you ever manage to live without them.
3. This can take some time to achieve. This is not easy, but extremely possible! Your support which I mentioned in point 1 will help you have endurance, but sometimes you might think it will never work. It is then when you have to face yourself and choose what you want. I have made it and will never go back!
4. It is free! I'm not going to take any money for helping anyone. This is something I am very passionate about and would love to share. However the cost of this road is hidden in personal commitment to embracing the changes that you will have to make in your life. It is worth contacting me and see what exactly this is about and then let me know if you are interested in this road.
I have set-up an email address for anyone who wants to know more.
***this post is edited by moderator *** *** private e-mails not allowed **
Please read our Terms of Use
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ok.. so I am a female who has been with nothing but girls since i was 14 and i am 24 now... i mean.. i tried being with a couple guys when i was younger but it didnt seem like my thing. Now 24 and i still find females to be beautiful and love there attention but it seems more and more i been wanting to be with a guy.. want to get married and have kids and have all that... and no.. im not doing it for any one else. ok... as some of you know in the "gay world" there are fems. studs. stems.. ect.. well im a stud (dress, act like a boy, tomboy) (lol i still have a P***y) and i cut my hair a little.. i am a lil bigger then i used to be.. so i lost my FEM side of me... so it feels really weird.. like if i put an add online or some thing.. it would be with boyish cloths on cuz thats all the pics i have... now you will prob think well buy girl clothes and take pics... well... my fam and friends will be like what da f***.. i mean my fam wouldnt mind but still i feel weird. ..... LIKE ... if i were to lets say watch porn... i only get :-) watchin str8 porn. the worst thing is i have a girl friend, been with her for 3 yrs. (its not her fault) ive been thinking this way for a few years now. before being with her... i guess it feels easyer to be with a girl then with a guy. im just a mess.... any one who can help... please let me know.... please put ANGEL on the top so i know its for me...
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Well this is all interesting I'm 32 and have slept with many girls and like it. I also have a desire for men but have never acted on it. I think I my be bi! The problem is that I have horrible anxiety about sexuality I can't hold a girlfriend because of my anxiety. I feel like I'm just useing them and that I am just gay and hiding it. I just need to find a girl that I can be open and honest with, but I fear that she will not except me. Idk
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I am in the same boat. I have a girlfrend, I love her so much, shy is so pretty, but in my head, there is many secrets, i have a mania for male porn, i cant stop watch it . I always take a look after sexy man, ecpecialy whit sexy ass and muscels. In the same time i rely don't want to make anal sex whit anybody it disgust me I like to watch but not to do. I like to make a sex whit my girlfriend,, i want to have happy family like never i had, i want children and i know that shy is the women, but i am afraid that shy may understand for may secret some day and i will lost her. I want so much to be only normal. The big problem is in my head: a mania of man porn and looking a man everitime in a day.
What can I do. I think I am a bisexual, because i like more sex with women, but i like to watch man porn and i looking around by men.
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I think I am bisexual, but I don't want to have a sexual attraction for men. I have not had sexual relations with neither men or women, though when I was little my older cousin wanted me to lick his anus. My memory is all too hazy.
I have liked two girls. I asked one out and she turned me down. Another cousin at a later age offered me to suck each other off and I said no. I have fantasized about it in the shower though. A gay guy one time wanted with me and again I said no. I guess I don't want to come out of the closet. I really just wish I could do away with these gay feelings.
I have watched gay porn and masturbated to it. I feel bad about watching it so then I watch straight porn to prove to myself that a woman can turn me on. I have watched lesbian porn without any penises and I have also masturbated to it.
I really am not ready to embrace these gay urges. I am not one to ever hold a relationship with a man. If I would ever engage in gay sex I guess it would be strictly that.
I would ultimately want to be with a woman.
I have liked two girls. I asked one out and she turned me down. Another cousin at a later age offered me to suck each other off and I said no. I have fantasized about it in the shower though. A gay guy one time wanted with me and again I said no. I guess I don't want to come out of the closet. I really just wish I could do away with these gay feelings.
I have watched gay porn and masturbated to it. I feel bad about watching it so then I watch straight porn to prove to myself that a woman can turn me on. I have watched lesbian porn without any penises and I have also masturbated to it.
I really am not ready to embrace these gay urges. I am not one to ever hold a relationship with a man. If I would ever engage in gay sex I guess it would be strictly that.
I would ultimately want to be with a woman.
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it's complicated....
When I kiss a girl, I get an erection...but when i watch pornography...I don't. Men make me have an erection. it's so weird. I wanna hav a family as well. I still can have an erection around but i dont know if it'll last when we will have sex :-( It's really confusing. And i'm more keen on having a girlfriend, im very successful with girls...i think i might be bi. someone help me!
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