homosexual but want to become straight,get married and have

Please go read my posts that shared before. However note that they have been written from a Christian perspective. The reason for dong that its because I believe that the Bible share truths for exactly problems like the one I used to struggle with and like those you are struggling with.

I wish I could meet you and discuss this in private, but I think there are others that doesn't have the liberty to speak openly and they should be reading this too.

Please read my other posts and let me know if you have any questions.

Martin

I cant answer but i have the same problem

Martin, idk if u can still see this, but if its anything I know about myself. Is that I have a strong resolve.I believe sexuality is fluid in varying degrees, but I know what liklfe I want.....the life I had, in which case I was perfectly straight. Never had I been with or even thought of men. Enlighten me, sir.

Hi Iron, thanks for you post. I'm not 100% sure what you are asking of me. If you are happy with your life as it was/is, what is the enlightenment that you ask from me?
If it is why you have never had homosexual desires I will simply say that you have never had to face the trial which so many others faced. You should be grateful of that, however I'm sure you had your fair share of trails in other areas of life.
Another possible reason for your post could be that you have been challenged by my ideas around this topic. If you have I would love to hear if you disagree and discuss this further.

Well... be yourself. I'm also a man at my 25 and i live with another man i had many girlfriends and i do feel atracted to girls but i also like boys. My last girlfriend knew about my feelings and she was okay with that she has always been there for me, i loved her with all my sould and so did she but it didn't work not because i had a crunch on guys but because she had moved away and we couldn't keep this relationship on, so i met this fancy guy and we've been together for 3 years now! So don't fight against what you really are, be yourself, don't worry about your friends and family they will all be there for you if they don't you better get new friends.... Hope i helped you mate . Be happy!

I hope you have successfully conquered your homosexual feelings..
As for me, all I can recommend you is to pray earnestly to God.
Ask Him that He would help you in your troubles and that He will guide you to what is right.
It's gonna be hard but with God nothing is impossible. Just always pray and pray and pray!

Love this answer. You are definately on the right track. The word says that we know in part. We were born in this earth which is ruled by demons that were cast out of heaven, so don't you think those demonic spirits are going to pervert everything that God intened for good and His good pleasure. He made woman from man so that they can procreate. Everything on this earth gets perverted. The only way we can overcome all those perversions is by going higher in Him. Seriously, God is the only one that can set us free from anything that so easily besets us.

The word of God says that we know in part.  We were born in this earth which is ruled by demons that were cast out of heaven, so don't you think those demonic spirits are going to pervert everything that God intended for good and His good pleasure.  He made woman from man so that they can procreate, have children.   Everything on this earth gets perverted.  The only way we can overcome all those perversions is by going higher in Him.  Seriously,  God is the only one that can set us free from anything that so easily besets us, anything!  Satan is the father of lies.  Don't you think since he was cast to the earth, he's going to lie to all of God's creation in any way, shape or form he can do it.  The only way to overcome his tactics is by seeking the one that knows all.  Staying in Him every day.  This is a spiritual battle we are all going through in all different ways.  Fight the good fight of faith.  Be still and know that I am God.  We are overcomers by the blood of the Lamb and the word of our testimony.  We have to believe the word, speak life over ourselves every day, seek the creator, Jehovah, Jesus, who knows even the number of hairs on our head.  He will never leave you comfortless.  He will never leave you nor forsake you, but we leave Him out of everything.  How can we know if we don't talk to Him.  How will He speak to us if we don't listen.  God knows our hearts.  He is merciful and full of compassion, but if we deny Him, He will deny us to the father.  He loves everyone more than we all can comprehend.  How will we ever know how to overcome if we don't seek the one and only person that overcame every temptation, sin and even death.  Yes they thought they killed Jesus, but He had to die for our sins, so that we would have life eternal with Him and the father.  It's not an easy road.  The bible says that we have to take the straight and narrow road.  That's the hardest road to take, because you have to be focused on Him to get you to where He wants you to go.  Take the wide and winding road and you will end up in all areas of deceit, lies, confusion and destruction.  I have been through it all and felt the same as many of you, but through His love I was able to overcome and still overcoming each day.  His love never fails.  Come to the one that knew you before you were in your mother's womb.  Only He can help with issues in this world ruled by the ancient of old, satan and his demons.  You don't have to believe this, but I've experienced them first hand.  This is no joke.  One day we will have to stand face to face with our creator and be accountable for choosing life or death.  Choose life, for the power is in the blood of Jesus.  His death wasn't in vain.  He had to die, so we might live.  There's so much confusion, so much misunderstanding the ways of the Lord, why, because it's easy for the enemy to blind us and keep us in deception.  Jesus is the way, the truth and the life.  He will a lamp unto your feet, fill you with His joy under one condition, that you seek Him everyday.  Talk to Him like you talk to your best friend.  Listen to the still small voice.  He loves you more than words can say. His love is a love that's beyond our comprehension.  What a wonderful God we have.  Let Him know that sometime.  He will like to hear it from you.

This is horrid I cannot believe anyone in there right mind who would try and tell a homosexual person that he can't change first it's you shouldn't be gay now it's your gay and you can't change that but your not suppose to be gay but you can't change because you have already recognize your feelings for the same sex don't believe this load of c**p these people are telling you with god you can do anything never look for advice on a website you will never find it look to you god pray every night fight the temptation and you will be fine it won't be easy it will be like a alcoholic swimming around in whiskey but you can do it if there's a will there's a way science is satanism other wise they wouldn't say god doesn't exist God Bless You And May he Help you through your life changing journey

U r not alone. Its comfortin to know that there are soo many ppl like me out there. Hope u get the future u want

Well there was a guy who turned straight after being homosexual for over 15 years and in his experience he said that a lot of people (no offense) are gay because they don't want to take the time to do the work to get to the root of the problem that lead them to being gay in the first place. A lot of people who are gay claim they were born that way and no offense (again) but having 2 gay males and 1 lesbian female in my family, I have a different take on that. The gay males in my family were raised by all women. Thier father was incarcerated for 13 years and the mother had no brothers and the grandmother was divorced. They are brothers and when they took on feminine characteristics their mother, aunts, and grandma thought it was cute and encouraged it, probably not realizing the implications. They both struggle with being gay and have str8 to bi to gay feelings. Same with my lesbian cousin, her mother was a drug addict and she was raised by her father who dressed her like a boy and took her with him on all his manly endeavors. Anyhow, usually there is a reason behind feeling gay which is not intrinsic in nature but born of learned experiences. Truly ask yourself why you might have gay feelings and what kind of man you want to be and what things you can work on to break through and be that man that God made you to be. Perhaps you will become a better person for it in the end. Good luck and Cheers!

hi there. i am not so sure if i could help you with this. we are actually just in the same situation, i noticed also that some girls have interest in me and i tried to date some. dating is just to get myself out of being deviant and to explore myself and to get rid of homosexual lust that i hate. it's kind of medicine to aid my sexual abnormality. i try to dress up and walk like that of a straight guy and try not to mind wat others think of, and during evening, my fantasies are girls. that is to get myself used to the opposite sex. but i never think of hasting to be married since it is a crucial thing, it cud increase my happiness and achieve my goals to be straight, but it could also lead to misery. it is just a matter of choice, be strong to think things over and stand firm to wat u want to be...God will help those that help themselves. okey? haha

I am sure that this will be very controversial.

In my view, everyone is born heterosexual.

Homosexual feelings are an obsessive/compulsive/addictive (OCA) disorder that can be treated in the same way as any other OCA disorder. Look up Homosexuals Anonymous on line and go from there.

I fully expect slings and arrows of hatred from the homosexual community for this post.

I need help please.

i try yo be converted to a normal men. I have been seeing a girl for 4 months and we are very close as boyfriend/girlfriend. I am serious for long term and getting married, however i have no sexual feeling to her (or to women) as underlying I am attracted to men only. We have kissed, for me it is just an act, not arouse, not enjoy at all. i am even afraid to do it often, because eventually she will find out as i could not go hard and could not have sex with her or women in general. i prayed a lots to God on this particular issue, i really want to bury my homosexuality, be a normal men, i tried and tried but seem to be in vain. I think to break up now, rather than later when too much hurt/damage to her, and when my underlying homosexuality will be uncovered. I am seriuosly stressed out on this, please help.

 

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