Hey people.
Im 21 and have always have considered myself a straight male. Throughout my teenage years I always masturbated to straight porn and always had feelings and relationships towards girls. I also had a girlfriend for a year and a half and had amazing sex with her throughtout our relationship.
I have nothing against gay people. Although I have always noticed I can become aroused when I seen a shirtless attractive male. I have never have had any feelings for guys and always have imagined myself settling down with a woman and having kids with her. I have always emotionally liked girls. But throughout my life I cant help but notice an attractive guy and get aroused by them if they have a good body etc.
Throughout my teenage years I have had sex dreams about women but more recently (this past 2 years) I also have had a few dreams where I find myself attracted to men and have had oral or hand sex with them leaving me very confused when I awake from my dream.
Even though this happens I continue to masturbate to straight porn and enjoy it.
I have tried to watch gay porn and although sometimes it does arouse me I feel a little bit squeemish when watching it and can never really reach climax. I have always admired the male form and I always hope to one day have an amazing body and be admired so I think this may have something to do with it as Im obsessed with becoming muscular. Im really not sure.
I have spent many a sleepless night over this and I constantly worry about it.
Hope someone can help....
Im 21 and have always have considered myself a straight male. Throughout my teenage years I always masturbated to straight porn and always had feelings and relationships towards girls. I also had a girlfriend for a year and a half and had amazing sex with her throughtout our relationship.
I have nothing against gay people. Although I have always noticed I can become aroused when I seen a shirtless attractive male. I have never have had any feelings for guys and always have imagined myself settling down with a woman and having kids with her. I have always emotionally liked girls. But throughout my life I cant help but notice an attractive guy and get aroused by them if they have a good body etc.
Throughout my teenage years I have had sex dreams about women but more recently (this past 2 years) I also have had a few dreams where I find myself attracted to men and have had oral or hand sex with them leaving me very confused when I awake from my dream.
Even though this happens I continue to masturbate to straight porn and enjoy it.
I have tried to watch gay porn and although sometimes it does arouse me I feel a little bit squeemish when watching it and can never really reach climax. I have always admired the male form and I always hope to one day have an amazing body and be admired so I think this may have something to do with it as Im obsessed with becoming muscular. Im really not sure.
I have spent many a sleepless night over this and I constantly worry about it.
Hope someone can help....
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Me again: Also Ive found I get quite embarassed now around my friends and family when a conversation about gay people comes up on the TV or in general as I feel they are watching me and think Im gay for some reason.....
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just googled 'biosexual' which says its when a person is aroused by nature, plants, flowers etc.
so highly doubt it.....lol
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Hi,
I don't see a problem, nor do I think it means you aren't straight. You said you "always admired the male form and...hope to one day have an amazing body." If anything it sounds as if you might be a bit jealous of these "other" male bodies. You like what you see and picture yourself in their place. They have something you want, their looks.
Have you ever acted on these feeling?
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No ive never acted on them but suppose Ive never had the chance. I do think part of it is that Im jealous and do want to look like them and get attention from looking good and that from women etc. Although that doesnt explian why I become aroused when I see them does it? Its got so bad I feel as if everyone knows and is watching me when a bi/gay conversation come up!
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I can't account for the arousal. Maybe there is something there.
Does it mean your homosexual? I don't know. If you never act on it does it matter? You know you like women. You get aroused by women, you have sex with women. You sound straight. I think Caleb meant that you might be bisexual, not biosexual. That's a possibility.
Why do you think everyone is looking at you when these conversations take place? Have you said anything to anyone about these feelings?
Can you answer this question honestly? What would you do if a male friend of yours hit on you?
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No I really dont think Im homosexual. Masturbating to girls and fantasizing about them for years and having sex with my girlfriend proves that.
Although there is part of me that finds guys attractive.Not sure if its enough to do anything about it though.Like id never have anal sex. Its makes me cringe at the thought of it.
Ive never told anyone else this. Thats why i seek help with this forum and I really appreciate your advice medic-dan.
I really dont know why I get embarassed, when I was a young teenager I used to get teased and called gay....more than a joke than anything but it really annoyed me and so I think it stems from that.
If a male friend hit on me I really dont know what I would do. I go through phases where I think I could do something with a guy and then a couple of days later Im like Yuck!
I think I may be hetroflexible. Were Im prodimantley straight but if a seuxal encounter arose with a guy I wouldnt turn it down but wouldnt want/have any emotional/feelings for males.....????
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I understand what you're saying. You were teased and now it makes you uncomfortable. That's perfectly understandable.
Interesting term you came up with "heteroflexible."
I don't think you're "gay" but you acknowledge that you have some "heteroflexible" feelings. I would call that bisexual, you just haven't acted on it yet. Should that make you uncomfortable, no. You are still who you are. It could be an experimentation thing. You're still trying to understand yourself. At some point you may act on these feelings. Even you say that you wouldn't turn it down. What the outcome will be, if you like it or not, we can't predict.
Lots of young men "fool around" when younger. It doesn't mean they're gay.
Hope it helps.
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it justme, chiming in from own experience--I always thought myself as 'different' , but dating a few girls in HS and college....always scared of 'gay' scene for being plugged in butt, heard it was rough...until one night in college, met a classmate at a bar, shared a lot in common and had him come to my room for company, assuring me he would make me feel good...and he did..wasnt rough, didnt even TRY to plug me...just some caressing, and nice slow oral sex..I liked it so much I turned him and did the same to him
It was first time esposure, never seen gay porn or ANYthing for me..
afterwords, I rationalized that Im bi...here it is 25 years later , been w. a guy for over 25 years...but STILL fantasize about both sexes
It was first time esposure, never seen gay porn or ANYthing for me..
afterwords, I rationalized that Im bi...here it is 25 years later , been w. a guy for over 25 years...but STILL fantasize about both sexes
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Men and women tend to be intimidated more so by the same sex if they consider them to be very good looking and a very hot body can make up for many of the negative things about someone. I think your intimidated by fine looking males and therefore would struggle to picture yourself having comfortable sex with them, but i do think your gay and your quest to getting a hot body is the start of an adventure which will one day result in gay sex.
Why you worry is the main problem here because being gay isn't a problem. If it's against your beliefs or something like that then i can see why you worry, but you say you have never had any problems with gay people so you must not have any strong beliefs that people must and should be straight.
My advice to you is the advice i give myself every day, and that is don't try and be someone your not. If your gay you will eventually become incapable of having sex with women, at least until you experiment gay sex. After experience in gay sex it will become clear, but 2 years in my opinion is no fantasy and it's for that reason i think your gay. If you haven't already, do what you need to do in order to feel and look like the person you are. I already attended a gym, but once i made the decision to start living life as the person i am ( a gay man) i started using sun beds and stopped trying to have sex with women.
Then you have the coming out to deal with, i'm still not out and i'm 22. It's very difficult to deal with. It's a lie, and as far as your friends are concerned you just one day became celibate. Lol. So what i'm saying is don't lie to yourself, it's twice the trouble.
Why you worry is the main problem here because being gay isn't a problem. If it's against your beliefs or something like that then i can see why you worry, but you say you have never had any problems with gay people so you must not have any strong beliefs that people must and should be straight.
My advice to you is the advice i give myself every day, and that is don't try and be someone your not. If your gay you will eventually become incapable of having sex with women, at least until you experiment gay sex. After experience in gay sex it will become clear, but 2 years in my opinion is no fantasy and it's for that reason i think your gay. If you haven't already, do what you need to do in order to feel and look like the person you are. I already attended a gym, but once i made the decision to start living life as the person i am ( a gay man) i started using sun beds and stopped trying to have sex with women.
Then you have the coming out to deal with, i'm still not out and i'm 22. It's very difficult to deal with. It's a lie, and as far as your friends are concerned you just one day became celibate. Lol. So what i'm saying is don't lie to yourself, it's twice the trouble.
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I dated girls in High School, and slept with a few after that. But it never felt right. It was like playing a game, ,the object to win the game was to screw the girl. As soon as that was done, I lost interest and moved on to a new challenge. Many guys want the benefits of being straight, a house , kids and acceptance from his friends and family. And some men play this role. I knew a guy who came out when he was 60. .He had been married raised kids, divorced his wife, and lived the sexual lifestyle he knew he always wanted. Watch "Far from Heaven", it stars Dennis Quaid as a man who marries and has what looks like the perfect life. Takes place in the early 60's. There are a lot of bitter women that married men, had kids, only to find out that the man they married was gay. Another movie along the same lines is "Mulligans". Sometimes you want both, but have to pick which one is more important to you.
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To the person who wrote this, I go through the same exact kind of experience. Still haven't quite figured it out but it's nice to know I'm not the only one who feels this way.
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I have come to the conclusion that sex is sex. There are attractive men and women, and sex is different with both, but just as enjoyable! I found sex with another guy is something special, because I know what I like done to me during sex and am able to reciprocate that to a guy. We both end up feeling extremely satisfied.
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