If I may jump in here...
Not all women bleed the first time they have sex. This type of bleeding stems from the "tearing" or separation of the hymen. Some women have thicker or tougher skin with blood vessles, and other do not. Some have already torn this during horseback riding, and some through virgorous sports.
If you have already experienced some bleeding from sexual intercourse or otherwise, it is not very likely that you will experience this again...unless there has been an incomplete tear...and that's something that you and your doctor can confirm on your annual exam.
If you need some assistance and are concerned about surgury or a bill being passed to your parents, try a visit to your college's medical clinic or women's help center. They can council you about alternatives or payment on a sliding scale... or perhaps this can be covered in an annual exam, with some discussion with the doctor ahead of time so they understand that you want/need help with removal of a hymen or an incomplete tear.
I have to think that counseling from a woman or a nurse will be much more effective in answering these questions than general info from me, a male. So, get to your medical clinic and get your questions answered by a "pro", ok? Good luck! :)
Not all women bleed the first time they have sex. This type of bleeding stems from the "tearing" or separation of the hymen. Some women have thicker or tougher skin with blood vessles, and other do not. Some have already torn this during horseback riding, and some through virgorous sports.
If you have already experienced some bleeding from sexual intercourse or otherwise, it is not very likely that you will experience this again...unless there has been an incomplete tear...and that's something that you and your doctor can confirm on your annual exam.
If you need some assistance and are concerned about surgury or a bill being passed to your parents, try a visit to your college's medical clinic or women's help center. They can council you about alternatives or payment on a sliding scale... or perhaps this can be covered in an annual exam, with some discussion with the doctor ahead of time so they understand that you want/need help with removal of a hymen or an incomplete tear.
I have to think that counseling from a woman or a nurse will be much more effective in answering these questions than general info from me, a male. So, get to your medical clinic and get your questions answered by a "pro", ok? Good luck! :)
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@kirk C
Thank you so much for the information. i am sad to know what you told me. anyways about incomplete hymen or tear.....i dont think i have that.because the first time i did it,it just bleed like few drops.and never again.like i had sex continusly for a week then.i never bled again.and even for the first time it were just few drops.
counselling is not a good idea i guess.i hate it personally.i have been through it when i was in depression.anyways.thanks alot.take care =)
Thank you so much for the information. i am sad to know what you told me. anyways about incomplete hymen or tear.....i dont think i have that.because the first time i did it,it just bleed like few drops.and never again.like i had sex continusly for a week then.i never bled again.and even for the first time it were just few drops.
counselling is not a good idea i guess.i hate it personally.i have been through it when i was in depression.anyways.thanks alot.take care =)
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To answer your question, "Will I bleed again, 5 or six years later?"
No, not from that source. I would not anticipate bleeding to occur from what I've described.
Of course, in the meantime, there will be your usual cycle, but not from what we've been discussing.
No, not from that source. I would not anticipate bleeding to occur from what I've described.
Of course, in the meantime, there will be your usual cycle, but not from what we've been discussing.
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No, not necessarily.
These days, a woman may have already torn her hymen from any number of "innocent" means...
Sports, horseback riding, tampon use, by hand, by exercise, by sex....
There are a lot of explanations.
If your future husband is marrying you for YOU (who you ARE) then he should not be obsessing about if you bleed on the first time you sleep together.
If this is an issue in your culture, perhaps you will have a discussion with him prior to marriage about who you both are, and what this means to you both. If it's an issue, it's best to have it out in the open between you prior to marriage. This virginity is a "deal breaker", then perhaps you should be up front with each other.
If this is a major tenant in your culture, perhaps you should be speaking with an authority figure or counselor within your culture. They can guide you better than I can from outside.
I know that in the western world, not as much emphasis is being placed on "proof of virginity" these days, but some still do.
Good luck.
These days, a woman may have already torn her hymen from any number of "innocent" means...
Sports, horseback riding, tampon use, by hand, by exercise, by sex....
There are a lot of explanations.
If your future husband is marrying you for YOU (who you ARE) then he should not be obsessing about if you bleed on the first time you sleep together.
If this is an issue in your culture, perhaps you will have a discussion with him prior to marriage about who you both are, and what this means to you both. If it's an issue, it's best to have it out in the open between you prior to marriage. This virginity is a "deal breaker", then perhaps you should be up front with each other.
If this is a major tenant in your culture, perhaps you should be speaking with an authority figure or counselor within your culture. They can guide you better than I can from outside.
I know that in the western world, not as much emphasis is being placed on "proof of virginity" these days, but some still do.
Good luck.
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I"m glad to hear that your'e more relaxed at least. Kirk C and I talked about this on another thread how virginity is sort of a difficult concept to define. Do you come from a culture that places a high emphasis on virginity and has different rules? Let me know if you can.
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hey healthfitnessguy
yes i do belong to a culture where virginity matters alot.weddings can be brokenup just because of this small issue.so thats why i am ver much tensed about it =(
yes i do belong to a culture where virginity matters alot.weddings can be brokenup just because of this small issue.so thats why i am ver much tensed about it =(
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I'm really sorry to hear that. It's sad because it really is so hard to tell. For hundreds of years, women have been thought to be virgins when they're not (because they have a thick hymen that doesn't break during sex) and others have been thought to not be virgins due to having a thin one. Good luck to you, okay?
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i feel sorry for myself too.i have not been brought up in my country,or my culture.i have always been traveling around the world.living at different places.and now when its time to get married and to have a family its so odd that i have to go back to the same country and culture my parents belong to. and for them it is like a crime if i am not virgin. i came to know about it few months ago. i always used to be sad about losing my virginity not because of this culture thing, just because i was deceived.and i felt used. but now its something like so odd and sometimes get on my nerves.lets see what happens in future. i damn care about the world now. if my future husband will have a problem with me not being a virgin, then ill ask him to go to hell =D
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Hi. I'm having similar problems right now. My husband and I tried to be intimate but I ended up in tears because it hurt a lot. He never managed to go inside me properly (only a few inches i think)........... :$ I tried relaxing and I also told him to not tell me when he would enter me but I still managed to clamp down when he tried entering me. I have no clue how to stop that. I relax up until the moment he tries to enter me. Can someone please give me some advice?
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Lilly- It's fine! Don't worry! He broke your hymen, or also known as your cherry. This happens! You will be fine :).
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at this moment I am doing a exchange program to America, and I am from Europe, just before I left i fel inlove with a girl, and she fel inlove with me, but because i was about to leave for 10 months we were trying to stop our feelings, once I got here I kinda forgot about her, and I met another girl, and i lost my virginity to her, I kinda regret it, because I broke up with her, but I dont believe in being sad about a choice you made.
At this moment i am completly inlove with the girl at home, and she is with me. and I DID tell her i am not a virgin anymore, because if you ask me, trust is the most important thing in a relationship, so if you dont trust him/her you can better just leave him, because you wont get far. Ofcourse the girl from home was not happy about it, but she was happy that I told her, because there is nothing worse then a secret from the person you love. so what I want to say is, if your husband or wife really loves you, he/she will accept it, because that person loves you!
but I do have a litle bit of a problem: i lost my virginity to a girl that already lost her virginity, but my gf now is still a virgin, and I have been reading to reading some storys about girl having alot of pain, and i care so much for my girlfriend and I dont want to hurt her, does anybody has tips for me?
I appriciate everything! :)
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alright so i need major help. i lost my virginity to the guy i thought i was in love with, but then he told me he only wanted my virginity and thats it. well it has been 1 year since then and i now like this guy a whole bunch and he wants to have sex, but idk if my "cherry has popped" or not and i want to have sex with him but i dont want to bleed on him. i know i have had sex before but i never bled, and my friend had sex 3 times before her "cherry popped". i looked up how to know if it has or not and it showed me pictures and what to look for, but honestly when i look i see the cliterus i see the urinary hole and i see the vagina but i dont see what the pictures show. HOW DO I KNOW?!?!?! im in desperate need to know. if it hasnt popped how do i get it to pop (i know it doesnt make a popping sound).
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Oh, hon, don't flip out. By all rights and purposes you are still a virgin if you haven't experienced sexual penetration. But, yep, he may have broken your hymen (that little piece of flesh inside) but you could've done that yourself if he hadn't . Some girls' hymen even break while riding horseback or a bicycle, and there's also tampon use. So, there's that. He may have also had a hangnail or a rough fingernail (?) may have scratched your vaginal opening . That skin down there is really tender, just check and file his nails before anything happens again , with guys, you can NEVER be too careful about the dirt under their nails..... hopes this helps
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