As the title says, I'm having problems with ejaculating. More specifically, whenever I have sex with my girlfriend or when she pleases me (head, handies, etc.) At first, I thought I had a problem getting an erection. When we first started to have sex I had problems getting it up, so my girlfriend thought a whole bunch of things like she's not doing well in bed, or I don't find her attractive, stuff like that. We eased into it, we've gotten to having sex pretty easily now, but now my problem is never being able to ejaculate. We've been having sex almost all the time whenever we're alone together and she's never been able to make my cum by herself, I always have to be the one to finish myself off. Sometimes we just stop cold turkey since we'd be having sex for literally an hour, where she already came twice, and has to stop because it becomes painful and sore for her. I have no problem getting an erection with her around now, since just touching her body gets me going, but when it comes to business I find it even hard to penetrate her sometimes since I'll be trying to go in half-chub, but goes back to 100% once I'm inside her. Even more so, sometimes I barely feel any pleasure from sex. There's the obvious exception when it hits the right spot but that never really lasts. I don't ever feel like I can cum from having sex. My girlfriend's gotten to the point where she's okay with my finishing anywhere, if I even get there. She has to constantly ask every time if I feel like I can cum from what we're doing, and the answer is always no. She's been really supportive about it and doesn't get frustrated at all, if anything she just wants to provide the same amount of pleasure that I give her back to me. Now I just feel bad about it.
I've been thinking a lot about it, and my guess is because I've been masturbating almost every day since I was around 13, and I'm turning 20 tomorrow. I've probably desensitized my penis to the point where sex doesn't even work out anymore.
The thing I've been trying to ask is, is there any possible way I can bring myself to ejaculate faster? I know what pleases me, all I really need to be able to do is finish. What can I do to make my penis more sensitive again? I want sex to actually feel good for me and to show my girlfriend that she does in fact please me.
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It’s also within your mind. You stress yourself out with the idea that you have ejaculate and that puts pressure onto yourself.
Just stop masturbating and it’ll build up inside you and then have sex with her without thinking about ejaculating and you’ll be able to perform well.
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