Alrighty so this is a long one and I really hope I can get some answers..
So my current boyfriend will be guy A and the other guy will be B. So guy A and I have been together for a little over a year, with one 10 day break, where guy B was involved. So guy A and I were having sex just about every day, not using condoms and just using the pull and pray method, well we got into a fight and I broke up with him on the 16th of January. I was very emotionally distraught the whole 10 days we were apart, hense why I can't seem to remember any exact dates for when guy B and I had sex, he was definitely a crutch for lack of a better term, anyway we did it I want to say 4 or 5 times within that 10 days, he came in me the first time and a plan B was taken within 24 hrs, we used the pull and pray method a few times and also condoms one time i know for sure that weekend on the night of the 20th. Okay so according to text messages I sent guy B, I had started my period the 21st and I know for sure we did not have sex anymore while on my period without a condom, so guy A and I got back together on the 26th, I was still on my period and we DID do it that night without a condom, and probably every day after that for a few weeks, again not using protection just him pulling out every time. Did not mention guy B to guy A at all. (Oops)
So the end of February I took a test, because I am very in tune with my body (I thought) and knew something was weird, and there it was, a very very faint positive. Immediatly told guy A and we were excited, all the while in the back of my head a little seed of doubt planted itself. Well come march 8th we get a ultrasound and the tech says baby is 6wks and 3 days, so in my uneducated mind all I can think is 6 weeks and 3 days ago was the 24th and I wasn't even with guy A, and possibly Was with guy B even though I know a condom was used. According to all the conception calculators, conception occurred the 2nd to the 7th of Feb which is good because I was with guy A, but eeek how confused was I. Still didn't mention guy B or any of my doubts and fears about baby not being guy As because according to conception date calculators I found on google, and my last period date, the dates lined up to guy A. So come the end of March a get a call from my doctor, and here's a nice big curveball, CHLAMYDIA (There goes being in touch with my body) I had gotten an std and had NO idea, well of course I had to figure out how, so I contacted guy B and sure enough he had it as well, thus forcing me to come clean to guy A so that he could be treated. Well guy A handled it very well and I give him major props because if it was HIM that had given it to me, I would Not have handled it as calmly as he did. Anyway out came all the fears and doubts and what ifs, opening the flood gates and i just braced myself for guy A to leave me. Well he did not leave and has been very supportive of this pregnancy, but the only reason its been okay is because we both agreed to believe it is his until the paternity test, and we haven't spoken a word about it since. I am now 36 weeks pregnant and all the doubts and fears have come flooding back and for fear of guy A leaving i haven't said anything which is why I'm writing all of this.
Opinions?
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Hi Guest,
You started your period on January 21. You'd normally ovulate sometime between days 11-16 of your cycle or February 1 to 5. During this time you were with guy A.
As to the date by ultrasound in March - it is an approximation only. No one can tell exactly when you conceived, not your doctor, no one. It is not immediate. Most doctors base dates on your LMP, not conception, which works to 6 weeks 4 days, close enough.
It also explains the faint positive the end of Feb. You were only 2-3 weeks pregnant and the tests are not always the sensitive early on.
From your post, assuming your last period in January was "normal" then guy A is the father, with almost 100% certainty.
Hope it helps.
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