I have been sexually active (I know I hate that term) for 5 years I have had really great feeling sex but only 1 real orgasm and it was when my ex practically raped me. It wasn't rape but I said stop a few times he didnt and I started to really enjoy it kind of whispered stop a few more times then gave in and had my only orgasm. A few times in the shower masturbating with the shower head I was close, but I haven't had one since then, it is very aggravating! A few times while masturbating I have been close and I could feel my body pretty much giviing up on it :/ any ideas how to fix my problem. PLEASE? I am engaged to the man of my dreams I love sex with him because we are so close but I really really want to learn to enjoy sex more and to orgaism, PLEASE HELP?
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Hmmm... I hope I can help you find that out. So you experienced only one orgasm? You were problably just enjoing it and didin't realy mind about your partner. So how different is from other sexual activities?
In other sexual acts you problably thought to mutch of your partner... I mean you just tried how to be better for him, how to satisfy him better.... am I right? Well if that's true, be adviced not to think but enjoy for yourself while you have sex. Feel free to tell what makes you feel better. Stop thinking of being ******, but think of how to **** your man, you know what I mean? Just enjoy, here and now. No need to fight for an orgasm. Just enjoy the moment, than the orgasm will haunt you with great power. Be aware of your feelings... feel it girl. Enjoy the touches, feel his warmth, his breath, his penis whithin you. Enjoy that hot sight, listen to those sexy sounds. lol... Don't let thoughts control you girl. You shall control your thoughts.
You may also have problems with lust erection sometimes... but you shall be aware that new things always take effect. Try new positions, new stuff... no need to rush, you can play with your partner in bed untill you go totally wild. Just relax... atmosphere ifluences a lot.
So be free of worries. Try have sex like meditating in a way. Read the Kama sutra, that will work for sure.
Good luck!
In other sexual acts you problably thought to mutch of your partner... I mean you just tried how to be better for him, how to satisfy him better.... am I right? Well if that's true, be adviced not to think but enjoy for yourself while you have sex. Feel free to tell what makes you feel better. Stop thinking of being ******, but think of how to **** your man, you know what I mean? Just enjoy, here and now. No need to fight for an orgasm. Just enjoy the moment, than the orgasm will haunt you with great power. Be aware of your feelings... feel it girl. Enjoy the touches, feel his warmth, his breath, his penis whithin you. Enjoy that hot sight, listen to those sexy sounds. lol... Don't let thoughts control you girl. You shall control your thoughts.
You may also have problems with lust erection sometimes... but you shall be aware that new things always take effect. Try new positions, new stuff... no need to rush, you can play with your partner in bed untill you go totally wild. Just relax... atmosphere ifluences a lot.
So be free of worries. Try have sex like meditating in a way. Read the Kama sutra, that will work for sure.
Good luck!
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I won't try to second guess with armchair psychology what triggers an orgasm with you....
but I can recommend the book, "Sex for One" by Betty Dotson. It's pretty good at addressing this issue.
but I can recommend the book, "Sex for One" by Betty Dotson. It's pretty good at addressing this issue.
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I think you are not alone about not having orgasms..
I dont know why but I can not manage it either.I guess the other responds were quite right about thinking of our partners,to please them more than ourselves...because my partner experiences the loss of erection and it of course turns me off...maybe that is why..i dont know..hope since your message you could have had an orgasm..
I dont know why but I can not manage it either.I guess the other responds were quite right about thinking of our partners,to please them more than ourselves...because my partner experiences the loss of erection and it of course turns me off...maybe that is why..i dont know..hope since your message you could have had an orgasm..
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