Hi Johnny
Thanks for the update you should be proud of yourself for the effort you are making to get to know her better and putting yourself out there so she and the others has a chance to get to know you as well.
Your right at school it can be difficult to simply act yourself far too often people feel they need to act a certain way to be part of a certain crowd or present themselves in a way that they hope others will like or find cool.
You are just getting to know her and she is just getting to know you as well, it is difficult to say if she is just not interested in you or not and it may take awhile for her to start noticing you more or looking at you differently than John in science class.
Believe me you are not a bad person and it may take awhile to truly find out if she is interested in you as you become more comfortable around her hopefully the conversation will come easier as well.
Try your best to be yourself and act the way you normally do giving her and the others you hang around with the chance to get know the real you is the way to make true friends.
It is hard to say if you and her will end in a relationship but even if that doesn’t happen getting to make some new friends that you are comfortable hanging around with and maybe even begin to trust is a great result as well.
Take it slow John be yourself and hopefully as she gets to know you the opportunity will be there for you to date her.
This is a big step for you and you should be proud that you are able to put yourself out there like this no doubt you are cautious and maybe even a little uncomfortable at times with this but as you continue to build your friendship with her and others at your school you will learn who you should and want to be friends with as well as who would be a true friend that you can trust.
Your wanting to take her feelings into consideration is awesome and it is stuff like that will hopefully make you and her true friends that end up in a relationship.
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First of all i want to thank you guys for the support. I really appreciate it and it really has helped me out. Just want to give you guys a huge thank you. Second of all, I've been thinking about maybe talking her outside of school because i feel that the more people communicate with each other, the more comfortable they will feel around them. I think that could help the situation a little. But it might be too soon for i think she still sees me as john from science class. So it might seem a bit weird that i just randomly start to message her or something. And i still don't know whether she is dating someone or not. That could really make this easier, instead of feeling like i'm taking shots in the dark. I don't know how i could possibly ask her without it making me go from johnny from science class to a total creep. Again thank you guys fro all the support it really helps me out a lot.
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I'm glad we could help. Just continued take long and eventually you'll be able to get to know her more outside of school. A lot of people put on different face at school at completely different when they're around friends or around other people than they would if it's just one on one I bet you'll be able to find more about the real her if you guys are outside of school. I would just go slow and take things as they come step-by-step day by day. :)
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I found that this forum is very helpful. people give good and appreciable suggestions that may quite helpful to someone. Keep it up.
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Another update for you guys. I haven't made much progress lately. I just keep figuring out what she thinks of me from her reactions to the things I say in an attempt to make her laugh. It looks like she is really not interested in at all. Its hard to get to know her really because the only way we talk to each other is when we mention something that can be joked about in a conversation. I feel like im stuck, as if I was halted. Could she be dating someone else? I get really nervous and I dont even know how to explain it. It's as if she saw me as some guy from class that says messed up stuff to make a joke (its really weird how we get along, she and I say a lot of f*ucked up stuff and find it normal)and she were to find out the feelings that I have towards her and think of me as a bad person. This can really shake me up sometimes. II'll keep you guys updated, I think weekly if I can.
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Good luck have you tried asking other people if she is dating anyone, what about asking her to grab some food or something sometime. Not like a fancy dinner date but just like a fast food place just to have a reason to hang for a little bit outside is school.
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Well i have only asked my friends if they knew, but since her boyfriend had changed schools they don't know if they are. If i were to ask anyone else then then the news would probably spread pretty quickly and she would find out from someone other than me. Basically, the only way i could find out would be to have a friend ask her and make it look like he is the one interested in her (D**che move), or i would have to ask her my self and i would have to immediately confess to her about the way i feel (makes me nervous just by thinking about how it could go wrong). Also, we are getting our midterms tomorrow and we are getting to choose our high school, and we both want to go to different schools. This basically puts a deadline on me. The only way i could keep trying to get closer to her is by talking to her like via text or something like that. But it would be very risky for me to ask her for something like her number because, she could be dating someone, or she could find it really strange and reject me completely which would make me have to start from zero again. This is getting really complicated guys and i'm getting stirred up on what to do. Its amazing how i'm willing to do so many things just for her, if she were to fully understand the way i feel about her then i think she would accept me but things have really been getting mixed up in my head and i don't know what to do, so i start to go to you guys for help. Thank you for listening to my problems and helping me out so much guys, it really means a lot to me.
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Hi Johnny
Asking her yourself would not necessarily lead into telling her all the details about how you feel about her Johnny but to have a chance of dating her you’re going to have to take that risk at some point.
It sounds like you have been making a pretty obvious effort to talk to her and be around her is there any sign of her picking up on that.
What do think about maybe starting a conversion about a couple in your class or school that she knows to open that door kinda deal and then just ask her if she is seeing anyone.
The asking her out is going to depend on if she is seeing someone or not.
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Not really. I don't think she is picking it up. And I could start a conversation about another couple but I find it hard to do because it would be awkward to talk about someone else's love life. I would hate it if someone were to start talking about my relationship. And I understand that eventually I will have to ask her out. But im really taking her point of view in consideration here. I always think of how she would feel from what I say or do. So I really want to take the correct steps, which makes taking that risk of asking her questions like that terrifying.
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I understand your nervous and that's totally ok and normal but I would still at least try to see if she wanted to do something outside of school sometime. Just as friends..... And then go from there
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Hi Johnny
Talking about another couple could be as simple as asking if two people are dating each other not really talking about them in any detail followed by the question are you seeing anybody right now.
It’s great that you always consider how you think she would feel but the only way you will truly know how she feels is if you take that first step.
Taking that step like you said can be terrifying and you’re the only one that can judge when you’re ready to do that.
If you did find a way to ask her if she is seeing anyone you could stop right there and stay away from asking her out or telling her how you feel about her until you feel you’re ready.
The answer to are you seeing anyone lets you know if there is any chance that it could go any further or not.
I’m just wondering Johnny how are you coping with all this is it a little overwhelming at times or are you dealing with it all pretty well all things considered.
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I've been doing a lot of heavy thinking. And i feel like I am ready to ask her out. To make that commitment to her. But I just dont know how. I am really into a more formal and expansive vocabulary, so I thought I could try and put it in words that would explain my love for her. But my mind just makes it a lot harder than it really is. I just keep imagining that she will reject me or tell me that she finds me repulsive. I want to tell her but I don't know how to do it or how to lead it. And if I do it and she accepts, then what do I do? I really love her and I am willing to take the risk of asking her out, but if I ask her if she is in a relationship then that could really screw me over. I just hope for the best. I'll try to lead into the topic next week when it's just her and I. This is very risky but I am willing to do it for her.
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I'm glad you have mustered up the courage to ask her out . But I would becareful how eloborste you go.... If you pour your heart out and use a lot of big words you may overwhelm her and "scare her off". Is there anyway you could ease into it and do something a bit less?
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I guess I could try to do something more simple to ease the situation. I just thought it would have been great idea to use bigger words to give her an example of the type of person I am. But I still have to figure out if she is seeing someone or not. Then I can make my move.
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Yup first things first see. If she is single . And while your plan to sound impressive sounds appealing remember they if it is too much outbid the norm socially it could weird her out or scare her off
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