I'm in my early 30's, male, and do not have much sexual experience at all compared to most people my age. I've seen a lot of people on other boards say it's ok for a woman to be inexperienced but a man is supposed to be experienced or be a pro, and if he isn't women will not view him as relationship material. Is this true?? If so I'm single and want to be in a relationship but don't know what to do about this issue. It causes me stress when I start talking to a woman I like it because this subject is always in the back of my mind. Should I just try to find a woman my age that doesn't have much experience either or not worry about it? This is so hard because there's no way to know about these things until you get to know someone...and then it might be too late. I might end up really liking someone but once she finds out about my lack of experience she may not be interested in me anymore. I really need some advice or input on this issue.
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Hi keen4truth76,
If you do not have much sexual experience, it is fine. You do not have to worry about this too much. If you find someone that really likes you for what you are, they shouldn't be affected by this.
In my opinion this is just something that was put like a fact with out any proof. If you really think about it why do men need to have more experience in sex then women? There is really no argument for this.
What do you think? I hope that you will understand that having a relationship is not just about sex, but two people liking each other in many ways.
If you do not have much sexual experience, it is fine. You do not have to worry about this too much. If you find someone that really likes you for what you are, they shouldn't be affected by this.
In my opinion this is just something that was put like a fact with out any proof. If you really think about it why do men need to have more experience in sex then women? There is really no argument for this.
What do you think? I hope that you will understand that having a relationship is not just about sex, but two people liking each other in many ways.
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My ex is 5 years older than I am, and when we met he was still a virgin at 23.
It didn't put me off in the slightest, infact I saw it as a challange!
All that extra baggage of having exes rushing about who have also had a taste of a guy is something that most women don't actually want to think about - so bragging about ex conquests infront of new partners doesn't really do anything for most women anyway.
I honestly wouldn't worry about it, most women who want a realtionship and not just sex should understand and may even (like I was) be pleased to have the first shot at you!
Sex is all about learning what it is your partner likes anyway, so there's nothing to say that not having broad experience is going to hinder you in any way, it's all about working out the unique ways to turn someone on... and the best way to do that is to simply follow your hormones and communicate with her.
If in doubt ASK!
Good Luck - although I doubt you'll need it :-)
It didn't put me off in the slightest, infact I saw it as a challange!
All that extra baggage of having exes rushing about who have also had a taste of a guy is something that most women don't actually want to think about - so bragging about ex conquests infront of new partners doesn't really do anything for most women anyway.
I honestly wouldn't worry about it, most women who want a realtionship and not just sex should understand and may even (like I was) be pleased to have the first shot at you!
Sex is all about learning what it is your partner likes anyway, so there's nothing to say that not having broad experience is going to hinder you in any way, it's all about working out the unique ways to turn someone on... and the best way to do that is to simply follow your hormones and communicate with her.
If in doubt ASK!
Good Luck - although I doubt you'll need it :-)
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Hi all,
I just want to say that I agree with both of you. AlmostNormal is right when she says that bragging about ex doesn't mean anything, and to be honest it is kind of rood.
I just want to say that I agree with both of you. AlmostNormal is right when she says that bragging about ex doesn't mean anything, and to be honest it is kind of rood.
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I don't know why some women expect someone with experience it seems shallow to me, and it isn't fair to men that haven't got to date that much in their lifetime. Sexual experience is easy for a woman to attain, it's much different for a guy. But I do know from what I've read it does appear there's quite a few women out there that do expect the guy to have experience. I of course agree that a relationship is not just about sex.
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Hi keen4truth76,
Well I think the number of these women are a minority. Most women really don't expect a perfect men that wil know everything about sex. This is just a thing that you learn along the road.
Just don't let this get you. You don't have to feel less attractive or something because of this.
I am interested if you have a girlfriend right now, and if you do, does she mind this?
Well I think the number of these women are a minority. Most women really don't expect a perfect men that wil know everything about sex. This is just a thing that you learn along the road.
Just don't let this get you. You don't have to feel less attractive or something because of this.
I am interested if you have a girlfriend right now, and if you do, does she mind this?
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