Men, I want your honest opinion

Why don’t people understand that talking to your spouse is the key to a happy anything?
I know it would be a hard question to ask/answer, it will give you the only opinion you really need… however wile men are sexually orientated visually… being in love makes us blind to many things. My wife and I are finishing our first year and will soon be hoping for our own children. I know what may and probably will come of my wife’s figure and I see it on a few plains.. First she will be the mother of our beautiful babies, she may look like a mama afterwards but this is nothing compared to what she has already added to my life and the addiction our children will be incomparable to anything else in this world. It is not of any great concern. The only thing I would consider an issue is what she sees in her self if she’s happy/healthy so am I. I am an overweight man and since my heaviest weight I have lost around 65 pounds and still loosing,, but and I need to pick up some steam and continue on. Sex is different even with the 30 pounds my wife has been around to see me loose, we feel things we didn’t feel before like the feeling of our pelvic bones touching and some new options for positions. Its fun however sex was awesome regardless… There again Love it makes it all work. As for my weight…. My wife saw something in me I never allowed myself to see, now after a year of her full time loving I am starting to see it.

Well, I completely understand that talking to my husband is the key to a happy everything, my husband is my best friend and we talk about everything together, even this. My husband is a much better looking man than I am a women, even when I was smaller. I gained weight so soon in our life together. We got married after knowing eachother for 5 months, then got pregnant 3 months into marriage. He seems to be fine with me being bigger, he never complains, he tells me I am not fat no matter what I think but I want an honest mans opinion on weather they would tell their wife the truth about how they feel about their wifes weight gain.... For a while out sex life was good but it just wasnt really a sex life... and then I lost about 20 pounds and things have been getting better, but my husband has gained about 10 pounds in his tummy and basically has completely lost his six-pack and his build, he does not look as strong as he use to but I still think he looks amazing.... I just want to know other people's opinions... but thanks for the feedback,

We see what we want to see, you probably know the answer and may have been hoping that if you got enough “no it doesn’t matter” answers it would change the way (you) felt about your self. My wife gained a similar amount of weight since our wedding day and we still get it on all the time… ;-) But if I could pick what figure my wife had at no expense to her, what would I pick???? Well it doesn’t take a message board vote to see what I/other men would pick. :-S I still mean what I said on my first post if my wife looks like a mama so be it she’s still going to have me when ever she wants and hopefully lots more then that. You certainly don’t have to answer any of this following stuff… I am curious to know how did you feel about yourself before you gained you extra lovin pounds? Did you like the way you looked in or out of your lingerie? Did you still like being on top? Has it always been this way and being a little bit heaver amplifies your discontent? Sorry to still not give you the answers you were probably hoping for, maybe some other men on the board will post soon to put you were ever it is you were headed. o.O

I am sorry, i wasnt trying to say you didnt help me, i just wanted some oppinions.. I am not really looking for an exact answer. Before I got pregnant I was sexy, completely sexy, it didnt matter if i was naked, wearing lingire or jeans and a sweater, i always looked good. I loved to be on top, it was probably my favorite position but now I feel like i am going to sufficate him... I weighed myself thismorning and I am 184... when we got married I was like 140-145...?, which is not super small but I had great shape, completely athletic, no tummy or luv handles... I was not a cream filled cup cake (what my husband calls me now whenever I say I am fat...) When I was pregnant, like 3 months in we basically stopped having sex until like 2 months after my kids were born... ( I got a HUGE belly and I couldnt get comfortable in ANY position..) but even then my husband never asked me to give him a hand job/blow job.. nothing... I definately took it personally because i felt like i was so fat to him, he has never told me he wishes iw as skinnier... but I would love to be again.. I know he is proud of my for trying really hard (I have lost like 23 pounds in the last 8 weeks... ) but i still feel way uncomfortable ... I literally feel like my tummy is just going to smother him or something... anyways i hope i answered your questions cause it seemed like you had something to say about it.

I saw some of your other post, you seem very kind. I hope you find closure to your questions/feelings soon. I am glad to hear you found yourself sexy before, it tells me you can find that in yourself again. Sometimes it helps to hear a worse story then your own. Its a sad fact I know but its true sometimes.. A good friend's wife added the weight of a back street boy about a year after they tied the knot... after the baby.. it put her over 150+ pounds added to her wedding weight. That would suck...

Best of luck to you, and congrats on your weight loss so far... Its stinkn hard to keep at it.. but worth it all, I love the way I am starting to look. I am starting to feel like a sexy buff man under all this fat. I mean I may be ripped under here... you cant move around 350 pounds of fat for three years of your life and not build some good mussle. If I keep it up I should be under 250 by the end of summer. And for me I like "my part" of sex better, and Im sure my wife does too.