I just found out that my 15 yr old daughter is pregnant. A week before Christmas I found out, thats not the only thing she new, well thought she was, kept it a secret until she could'nt, now shes going into her third trimester. not only that when I took her for a first time ob-gyn app. We found out shes high risk, to boot she must stay on bed rest until she delivers. So my dilemma is I'm totally not ok with it, it is what it is and I want her to have a healthy baby. So no that it is in the open and she did not get the reaction she thought she was going to get, she thinks its ok for her boyfriend to come over whenever and even has the nerve to ask her father and I if he can sleep over??? I dont no what to do with this situation, her boyfriend is 15 as well very imature...I have talk to them. told them that the rules still apply, but it goes in one ear and out the other....ugh I need advise before I explode~
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It sounds like you took things relatively well, bravo. The fact that you posted here shows how much you care about her and her baby's future. Exploding will not fix any problems.
You need to have a private conversation with her. A conversation where you mutually agree on a 1-2 hours meeting where you sit down and talk about concerns (hers too). It should not be about you blaming her for one thing or another. Explain to her your feelings and she will realize that you are on her side, and subsequently join yours.
Happy holidays, enjoy the new life that you are a part of!
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Hi Deedee,
I also think you took this very well. Good for you! While I'm sure it was not easy it is good to know that you support your daughter.
One thing, it is still your house. You do need to establish some ground rules. I do not feel that it is appropriate for her to have her boyfriend sleep over. In some places, knowingly allowing this to happen you could get charged with a crime. She is still a minor and at 15 both of them may be younger than the age of consent. You don't need any legal problems out of this.
Set some limits. You are still her mother. When she gets her own house then she can set the rules.
The young man, and his family, need to become involved here if they haven't already.
Take a deep breath, you'll get through this. Good luck.
I also think you took this very well. Good for you! While I'm sure it was not easy it is good to know that you support your daughter.
One thing, it is still your house. You do need to establish some ground rules. I do not feel that it is appropriate for her to have her boyfriend sleep over. In some places, knowingly allowing this to happen you could get charged with a crime. She is still a minor and at 15 both of them may be younger than the age of consent. You don't need any legal problems out of this.
Set some limits. You are still her mother. When she gets her own house then she can set the rules.
The young man, and his family, need to become involved here if they haven't already.
Take a deep breath, you'll get through this. Good luck.
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Good luck with the rest of your daughter's pregnancy. As far as her thinking her boyfriend can sleep over whenever....stand your ground. Keep telling her that you're the parent of her and you have the right to still makes the rules until she becomes and adult. Hopefully after awhile, she'll start to listen to you.
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