My son had a "bothced" circumcision and ended up having to have 20 stiches on his penis due to the fact that the doctor hit an artery. Now, the skin is attached to the head of the penis.
We have taken him to the doctors as the skin is adhered to the tip - he is able to urinate but the penis does not hang out - it is pulled into his body.
The doctors say it will eventually loosen naturally but they have been saying that for 7 years. he does not play with his penis _ EVER - which my 5 year old does so I am assuming he would also if it was actually dangling from his body - there is nothing for him to grab onto unless he physically pushed back all the skin and presses on base of the penis to further assist its projection.
We tried steriods but no one told us to have him gently push back the skin upon application so we just put the steroids on the adhered skin.
He is starting to get self-conscious and his penis looks so different form all the other noys around our house - brother, cousins, etc.
Everyone says it will loosen but I think he needs to play with it to loosen it. He acts like it is very sensitive to the touch and says it hurts when it gets hard but it hardly gets hard as he does not touch it.
Thanks for your help.
We have taken him to the doctors as the skin is adhered to the tip - he is able to urinate but the penis does not hang out - it is pulled into his body.
The doctors say it will eventually loosen naturally but they have been saying that for 7 years. he does not play with his penis _ EVER - which my 5 year old does so I am assuming he would also if it was actually dangling from his body - there is nothing for him to grab onto unless he physically pushed back all the skin and presses on base of the penis to further assist its projection.
We tried steriods but no one told us to have him gently push back the skin upon application so we just put the steroids on the adhered skin.
He is starting to get self-conscious and his penis looks so different form all the other noys around our house - brother, cousins, etc.
Everyone says it will loosen but I think he needs to play with it to loosen it. He acts like it is very sensitive to the touch and says it hurts when it gets hard but it hardly gets hard as he does not touch it.
Thanks for your help.
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This is a hard one.
As your son grows older, he's going to notice that he looks different from other boys. There's no way to avoid that.
Also, though you say that he doesn't play with it, I'll bet you don't watch him 24/7...
All developing boys experiement, and I'll bet his brothers, cousins, etc have educated him about what to expect as far as sexual excitiment, erections, masturbation... more that you could imagine.
I'm afraid there's not much more I can offer right now. It sounds like your son is going to need to see a doctor regularly as he develops. It's possible that he'll need more surgury.,... but the doc is right in saying "let's wait and see what develops". He may develop a normally portruding penis... but he might not also. Puberty is what the doc is waiting for.
Get some counseling for you, and for your son. It sounds like this is going to be a challenge for you both.
As your son grows older, he's going to notice that he looks different from other boys. There's no way to avoid that.
Also, though you say that he doesn't play with it, I'll bet you don't watch him 24/7...
All developing boys experiement, and I'll bet his brothers, cousins, etc have educated him about what to expect as far as sexual excitiment, erections, masturbation... more that you could imagine.
I'm afraid there's not much more I can offer right now. It sounds like your son is going to need to see a doctor regularly as he develops. It's possible that he'll need more surgury.,... but the doc is right in saying "let's wait and see what develops". He may develop a normally portruding penis... but he might not also. Puberty is what the doc is waiting for.
Get some counseling for you, and for your son. It sounds like this is going to be a challenge for you both.
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It's nice to hear from a concerned mom. It seems so many of the posters here had moms who were completely ignorant of or at least divorced from their sons genital health.
Is it a small adhesion or does it go all the way down the head to the shaft. Is it like a skin bridge that could be broken?
If it's just a small attachment you could probably release it by pulling the skin back. I know this will hurt so it's something you and he will need to decide on.
My mother didn't get me circumcised and she was told by the doctor to retract my foreskin regularly to clean under it so I never had any attachments. However my frenulum was short and I had to tear it to get my foreskin to retract all the way. Whenever it tore during sex I would wrap my penis with something like gauze or when that was not available I used toilet paper, to keep it from healing back together again. It took several times but now my foreskin retracts easily all the way to my abdomen. That's about what his penis should be like due to the circumcision.
I don't see why the doctors won't help you but they are strange at times.
If you do decide to tear it loose or he happens to when he plays with it, don't allow it to heal back together again. It sounds like you haven't burdened him with shame about playing with it and getting it hard so he should be willing to tell you if he does tear it, so you can apply something to keep it from healing back together.
Good luck mom, with whatever you do and don't give up on caring for him until you get this resolved to his and your satisfaction. It shouldn't be painful for him to get an erection and he surely wants to get it out so he looks like his brothers and he can play with his built in toy like they do. It should be fun to play with, not painful.
Kudos to you for being so invloved.
Is it a small adhesion or does it go all the way down the head to the shaft. Is it like a skin bridge that could be broken?
If it's just a small attachment you could probably release it by pulling the skin back. I know this will hurt so it's something you and he will need to decide on.
My mother didn't get me circumcised and she was told by the doctor to retract my foreskin regularly to clean under it so I never had any attachments. However my frenulum was short and I had to tear it to get my foreskin to retract all the way. Whenever it tore during sex I would wrap my penis with something like gauze or when that was not available I used toilet paper, to keep it from healing back together again. It took several times but now my foreskin retracts easily all the way to my abdomen. That's about what his penis should be like due to the circumcision.
I don't see why the doctors won't help you but they are strange at times.
If you do decide to tear it loose or he happens to when he plays with it, don't allow it to heal back together again. It sounds like you haven't burdened him with shame about playing with it and getting it hard so he should be willing to tell you if he does tear it, so you can apply something to keep it from healing back together.
Good luck mom, with whatever you do and don't give up on caring for him until you get this resolved to his and your satisfaction. It shouldn't be painful for him to get an erection and he surely wants to get it out so he looks like his brothers and he can play with his built in toy like they do. It should be fun to play with, not painful.
Kudos to you for being so invloved.
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Circumcision of boys is a horrible operation that does not need to be done, as you now know from experience.
It sounds as though your son has a trapped penis caused by the circumcision scar healing in front of the penis head and trapping the penis inside. It would hurt when it gets hard because their is not enough skin to allow normal expansion.
Pediatric urologists spend much of their time trying to undo some of the damage caused by circumcision.
You should take your son to a pediatric urologist to be evaluated for possible further surgery to correct the damage and release his penis from its bounds.
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