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Hi, take them under a strict control specially after school. Your brother and your sister are in puberty or not yet?
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violence is never the answer..THERE IS enough violence in this world,and not enough understanding......it is completely normal foe kids to play dr. it is just a normal part of growing up....some people are just up-tight prudes,don't you think?I i am a a mom and a states attorney,but kind and tolerant to my kids.
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My wife's sister had our two boys suck her nipples when she was babysitting. One of them told her about it when he was much older, like in his 20s.Being the prude that she is, she was pissed and nailed her sister the next time she saw her. I just thought it was neat. I don't know who's right but I sure wish I had a baby sitter like that when I was being babysat. The oldest one came home one evening and told her about the games the neighbor girl played with him in the shed earlier in the day. She went ballistic and I had to really talk to her to keep her from doing something she would regret. I figure that was just normal boy and girl learning experience. I sure don't dare tell her about the things me and the neighbor girl did when I was between 7 and 12. We were experts at exploring each other.
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this is a re-do by the mom ( guest) who is a long retired states attorney
porn is not good at all for kids..( and adults it is a pitty that some feel that they need it ).it makes sensual acts into being dirty and cheap................most kids who play "dr."are boys......i say that vaginal,or anal intercourse must not happen for obvious reasons....there is a huge differencefro that which is adult type sex,as opposed to experimentations of little kids which is normal
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Unfortunately, nature doesn't recognize "societal custom"!
In order to live and work in (Western) society, humans have imposed artificial restrictions on when and where and with whom children may experiment with their growing sexuality. The desire to explore your burgeoning feelings, the curiosity about yours and others' body parts and what they can do, is built in to our animal brains. It ensures our survival as a species. But nature (and genetic drives) don't care about societal norms.
So, since each child's sexual awareness develops at a different pace, you will likely find children of different ages acting on those exploratory urges. And the target of those urges will likely be those closest to them -- their siblings, friends or cousins. This is not as uncommon as you might believe. Humans -- and young humans especially -- are curious, and inventive. They will find a way to satisfy the desires they are beginning to feel.
They are doing what Nature is asking them to do: explore what should be new and pleasurable sensations they will need as they mature into fully sexual beings. Try to keep in mind that they are NOT doing this to upset you, to anger you, or to be "naughty", so reacting in a visceral way (yelling at them to stop, threatening them with punishment or shaming them ) will be massively confusing to them, and MAY cause them such sexual trauma that they (and by association, their future partners) will suffer the effects for years afterward.
Before you do anything rash, first ask yourself WHY what they were doing is so upsetting to you, personally? Is it because you feel responsible for them as a "surrogate parent"? Possibly, it reminds you of your feelings about your own sexual curiosity that you may have suppressed or denied. I am simply asking that, before you intervene, you need to be clear on WHY you are stopping them.
They are not actually hurting each other, are they? In fact, they are gaining precious experience in sexual matters, and unfortunately in most societies there is no socially acceptable way of allowing children reaching puberty to explore such things. However, I believe most experts would say it IS best to stop them from engaging in such behavior, as it is inappropriate for children of that age and relation, and may lead them to focus on each other to the exclusion of future partners outside the family. If you agree, as you seem to do, then you should gently stop them without making them feel they need to be ashamed or fearful of being punished in some way.
Explain the REASONS that such behavior is a problem. Remain reasonable, but be firm that they should probably not do that with each other again because it will likely cause bigger problems -- both inside and outside the family.
But the bottom line here is that the developing urge to reproduce is probably the most powerful part of the human psyche, and stopping them in their explorations is not likely to remove it, only slow it down.
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The player's ages would have added some context for me. Baby-sitter sister - 13 or 25 - At the lower end of that range, it could be self-sex-education - maybe not right, but understandable/forgivable. The boys - about 3 to about 12 too much risk they will talk. Your son from the second story - From about 8 on up, I'd expect him to keep it between him and the girl. The girl from that story, His age or just a little older, Last line still applies. Much older? The "I'll ask mommy about it." risk goes way up. Finally, the neighbor girl when Mark was 7-12. His age or older, they not only got to do a bunch of other-half's body exploring, but he got to watch her go from girl to woman. Much younger than Mark? He just got the body exploring in. And I wonder why it ended when Mark was 12. Did somebody move, or was he starting to turn into a man and somebody decided it was becoming too risky.
I am glad that Mark was able to exert a calming influence on his wife. Did the boys ever learn, "Daddy's ok but don't tell mommy.", and at what age? About the comment, "I wish I had a babysitter like that." My reaction is, "At least you has a neighbor who was willing to play 'I'll show you mine if you show me yours' for 5 years. I didn't have either one, and I wish I had."
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