Me and my girlfriend started going out april of 2007 and at first everything was really great. Her parents were ok with us as were mine and since we were both really shy we never tried anything together until august when we had our first kiss, so you can see we do not just jump into anything. She is 20 years old and i am 19 so there is nothing even close to being illegal but her parents do not treat her as an adult, they put extremely strick regulations on her car and her phone that she is paying for with the money she earned at her job, they did not help her with any money issues EVER but they think they can own her. Now they realize that she and i want to be together and i think it scares them because they are saying being able to see each other about 1 to 2 times a week is a lot and her mother told her that she was going to try and make MY life a living hell. We are not allowed to see each other any more and she was forced to cancel my phone number off her plan that I paid for so not only am i out money but they took MY phone away. we both feel like they own her and she wants to move out but we do not have the money and her only relatives live up north over 300 miles away from here so i would never see her again. the only way we can talk now is online because she has IMing on her phone and i have internet at home, so we only get to talk with text not even with voices or see each other unless i walk over an hour to get to her work or sneak over her house, either way it only lasts but an hour or less to see her we both do not know what to do and refuse to let go of each other but i can feel both of us are really tired of it all, i have no idea what to do i really need help, can anyone throw some advice at me??
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Your girl needs to open her mouth, she is an adult. Her parents have no right to control her at all. Is there something wrong that her parents need to shelter and over protect her as they do? I don't mean to be rude, but does she have some sort of handicap that calls for her to be treated like a child? Has something happened along the way to make her parents take over as they do? Is she an only child?
It probably wouldn't hurt if you talked to them as well, but let her go first. Some parents really have a hard time letting go of their child, especially a daughter, but she needs to speak up. Is she afraid of her parents? Have they ever abused her in any way?
If she pays her way, she does have a right to say something.
She needs to tell her parents how she feels, and if she wants to be with you she needs to tell them so. If they don't like it, it has got to be their problem. It sounds like she is very respectful of them, or maybe scared of them. She may respect them out of fear.
It probably wouldn't hurt if you talked to them as well, but let her go first. Some parents really have a hard time letting go of their child, especially a daughter, but she needs to speak up. Is she afraid of her parents? Have they ever abused her in any way?
If she pays her way, she does have a right to say something.
She needs to tell her parents how she feels, and if she wants to be with you she needs to tell them so. If they don't like it, it has got to be their problem. It sounds like she is very respectful of them, or maybe scared of them. She may respect them out of fear.
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her parents used to beat her as a child when her and her sister would argue her mom, who is old fashioned because of her family, so they forced their views on her so she is conditioned to be very respectful and is afraid of them, they are the type of people to kick her out if she defies them, and she would have to move away she has argued with them a little, but they just get more stubborn and argue back even more, i got a new phone so we can talk, so far her parents don't know that yet, hopefully they wont for a while.
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yes, let her go. If you at 19 and she at 20 are broke, neither are ready for a relationship. Either education and just a lack of work has put you here. Start working toward education and or a job. Once you are stable and on your own contact her. If you can provide for your self and or her. You are there. If not you save your self a great deal of problems. Take care of your life first and GF and or wife after this.
I wish you well in the future.
I wish you well in the future.
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