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Okay so well I've always been attracted to guys even since I was like in kindergarten, always have had crushes on guys and always wanted a boyfriend to do cute stuff with and be cute etc but 5 months ago some penis asked me if I was a lesbian and ever since then I cant grasp the fact that I was ever straight even though I really liked boys. I've never ever had a crush on a girl before never wanted to either. I've always loved girly things like makeup and really long hair and etc and I've always had an obsessive personality with a lot of things like in year 6 I wanted super long hair like ridiculous long hair and in year 7 and 8 I wanted to be like anorexic skinny even though im quite tiny anyway. So I will always grasp on to something and im hoping in this situation that's the case. So the start of the 5 months I started freaking out thinking I was a lesbian because someone asked me on tumblr if I was one. Ever since then I haven't felt the same about boys, I don't they are attractive like I used to and I don't think of them romantically anymore which is bizarre because I was boy crazy before all of this. I look at girls a lot more now and stuff but I think its only because im thinking about it way to much and analysing everything way to much which is what I do with everything. But like at the start of these gay thoughts I thought they we're disgusting and gross like yuck not offending lesbianism at all!!! But now I've thought about it so much that its not so gross anymore. But I still don't want to touch one but like idk? I mean yeah. And I got aroused by lesbian porn sometimes too and before all of this never thought I was a lesbian but now im like omg I am. I get heaps freaked out around all my girl friends and stuff and keep thinking that I might be sexually attracted but I really don't even think I am. Like I'll think omg am I getting aroused just by standing next to a girl and I'll confused myself and stuff. Im so confused I don't want to be a lesbian nor bisexual I just want to be straight that's all:) but now I like don't want anything to do with guys anymore and keep thinking what if I like girls, its so hard and confusing any help please? And btw I'm 15

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I am having the same problem and I feel the same way. like I want to be straight but I'm not sure anymore XP I don't know what to do either! oh and btw I am 14.... can someone please help us both!

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I don't know about the below person, but I know you're not a lesbian :)

I mean, it's fine if you are, but it's pretty clear to me that you're not. You're just obsessing about it for some reason.

So, just try not to worry. It's okay if you're not attracted to guys, that doesn't make you a lesbian, it just means that you're not attracted to the guys around you. I mean, there are lots of girls I'm not attracted to, that doesn't mean I'm gay.

You will know it if you're attracted to a girl. It would be pretty obvious. It's not something you can be confused about, you would really feel it. Just relax and try to be happy. :)
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Hey, I know you've told me before and stuff. But what do you mean if I'm really attracted to a girl? Like there's this one girl who's so pretty I get heaps scared and nervous but I don't think I like her like that? I mean yeah, like yeah. I've got depression from it as well and I'm just so confused, but I'm getting out of depression and still not attracted to any guys anymore:(
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Well, there are guys I think are good-looking, but I don't want to have sex with them. ;)

I don't know how to say this, but... it's not just thinking they're pretty, it's, physical, if you know what I mean.

It's okay to not be attracted to guys, anyway. Most of them are not worth it. (and I say this as a 15 year old guy myself). And it really is normal to be confused too.

It's good to hear that you're getting over your depression. I have to get up early in the morning so I can't make this post any longer, but feel free to message me on here if you want.
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Hey hun what your feeling is just confusion, your new hormones are racing through your body sending new signals out that your brain cant process so it just shuts down making you think your going off guys.
Once your hormones return to a more steady state and you learn to process the new feelings your getting your be back to normal again :-)
Hope this has helped you understand what is going on. If you want more inform just ask me here or by pm and I'll be happy to to help :-)
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look unfortunely there is no way of stopping being lesbian or bisexaul you are born the way you are you cant help it maybe trying meeting up with a lesbian and see what happens between you to you could settle down in a realtionship with a boy and see what happens there talk to your mum about it as no matter what anyone says theres nothing better than a chat with your mum xo
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look theres im sorry but theres you cant change the way you are bisexaul or lesbian you are born the way you are what i'd do to start with is tell my mum cause all the advice i would got would never be as good as a good old mum chat they are always the best nd make you feel better also i might try and meet up with a boy and see what happens(you would be or your own) then try meeting up with a girl and see what happens if you get the same feelings when your with both of them you probaly are bisexaul but if you getting a more happy/tingly feeling when your with the boy you are most likely straight(try settling down in a realtionship with a boy see how that works) but yet if you get more tingly/happy feeling when your with a girl you are most likely lesbian but make sure you are 100% sure before coming out you dont want to make a fall of yourself remember to tell closest/best friends first but make sure your 100% sure first good luck xo
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Omg thank you so much I know I haven't posted on here before but I am exactly like these two girls. I've had tons of guy crushes since like first grade. But now I have something that explains why I'm no longer attracted to guys. But I think the whole lesbian thing is disgusting for me. I don't have a problem with lesbians just don't want to be one. I've been so depressed lately about it but can you help me if I get to feeling depressed again?
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Me too! Thank God I'm not the only one. I've always liked girls but one day I thought to myself geez I'm happy I'm not bi or lesbian. But then I started thinking omg what if I am. Then I stopped being attracted to guys and started noticing that girls were pretty or maybe had a good figure but I'd never want to have sex with them you know? Pretty much the only guy I'm attracted to even though all this depression sh*t is Jacob off of twilight. I know that sounds dumb but good he's hott. Then I have periods where I'm not attracted to him at all which is f*****g ridiculous because I used to be so crazy about him before all this happened. I'm so depressed and have been crying and feeling disgusted with myself. Help me! I want to get married and fall in love and have kids but not with a girl. I can't find my attractions to men though which is scary because like you I used to be boy CRAZY!
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You're gay doll. It'll all be fine. Just ride it out.
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To all you confused young women out there. You are not gay or Bi or lesbo. At your age it is normal to feel attracted to females and males your hormones are going crazy!! I am a mom and straight! I am attracted to females but not in a sexual way I find the female body beautiful and am obsessed with big breast. B/C when I was younger I had very small ones until after I had my daughter @ age 24. I was very depressed and suicidal thinking I may be Bi or gay. But I was just curious, ALL people have these thoughts, If they say they don't they are lying!! It is a normal part of growing up. I kissed several girls in my 20's just for shock value. I even dated a girl once but it was because I felt safe w/ a female I was afraid of men and sex for a long time because of being molested when I was young. I realized I was not gay or bi because kissing girls is like kissing a wall to me, doesn't turn me on at all. But I do think some women are beautiful and sexy and I think it just stems from wanting to look like them or be sexy like them, it has nothing to with sex or sexual attraction. As you mature you will know what way you go. If you find yourself sexually attracted to girls and get turned on by thinking about sex or oral sex with them then maybe you're BI. although I have seen straight porn once and I threw up. it was gross and it turned me off men!! then I saw two women porn but it was very sensual and soft and it did turn me on, but not because of the sex it was the sensuality of it. Men are aggressive and ruff in porn it's not romantic at all, In fact I think porn is quite disgusting!! I only seen it twice, not for me. It is also normal to just be over guys sometimes. I get tired of men all the time and just need a breather. Sometimes they disgust me and the thought of sex grosses me out, But I am def not turned on by the thought of sex w/a girl. I look at naked women pics and think they are sexy that is NORMAL. My sister is gay and I hung out with her a lot hence the questioning of my own sexuality. Relax and just realize all teen AND even grown ups go through this. I hope this helps a least one person. I went through it as do all young people. and some adults. Just human nature. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!

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I have a similar problem, I am 18 years old right now. Ever since I was a little girl I had been attracted to guys. There were a few times when I became aroused by the image of a girl, and a few years ago I had a friend that I was really intrigued by and I really wanted to be intimate with her. Those feelings really scared me but eventually they went away, and I went back to crushing on guys. I'm not sure what happened but more recently the thought of being with a girl popped in my head when I was with my best friend (who's a girl). I got scared by these feelings and began thinking that maybe I was a lesbian after all. I used to be turned on by men, but for some reason I can't think of them the same way anymore. I looked up lesbian porn and it turns me on more than hetero porn does. i get aroused thinking about kissing a girl whereas doing the same with a male doesnt have the same excitement. But the thing is I've never actually been sexually intimate with either men or women, haven't even kissed yet, so I don't know if one experience might tip me one way or another. When I was younger I had a lot of trouble with guys, I would like them a lot and fantasize being with one, but once a guy i liked liked me back I would feel scared and nervous and try to avoid him. I had a bad relationship with my dad, and some experiences I've had with him made me feel uncomfortable and i swore to never ever get myself involved with guys. Those phases passed, but I'm not sure of my old experiences are somehow affecting my ability to be with guys. I always feel suspicious of men, especially my relatives, ever since my bad incidences with my dad. I'm not sure how I feel about being with a girl, all I know is right now I don't feel particularly attracted to men like I did before. I hope it is just a weird phase, because I really can't see myself being with a woman.
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It is what you call HOCD, look it up. It will help.

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I'm 18 now and what you've written had described EXACTLY how I feel at the moment. I've always been attracted to guys, but I was then attracted to a girl, and now I can't imagine liking a guy and its freaking me out. I'm just wondering how you are feeling now? Whether you were attracted to guys again? Please reply! Haha
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