After the birth of my first child I had terrible pain during intercourse. It was so bad, I thought maybe my body wasn't ready yet. Three and a half years later, the pain is still there. The doctor said that I didn't heal properly from the episiotomy. She gave me a vaginal cream to try, but that did not help. She said surgery may be an option as well. I'm fearful that surgery could damage me even more. I have no sexual desire either. I think structurally there was damage to my colitoris. This has really put a strain on my marriage. My husband feels unwanted and constantly tells me that he can't continue on this path much longer. Whenever we have sex it's because he has initiated. I feel so alone and like a failure as a wife. Has anyone had the surgery? And if so was it helpful?