PAINFUL Intercourse with menopause - VERY tight ring just inside vagina!

I went to my doctor last week. She said I need to stretch out the ring inside. She also said which I mentioned above - If you don't use it you lose it. I like having sex with my husband so I am going to work at this every day. I am now stretching my vagina daily in the shower with my clean fingers. You can buy the tools list above= dilator. I am already after one week getting more fingers in. I will keep stretching.. Oh, two years ago I did buy a shower purifier for my shower head. I am on auto ship and receive a new purifier every 6 months. I wanted pure water up there for vaginal health. Best to you all ladies. Keep on stretching and the shower water is wet.

From my Colonic lady...Try 1/2 cup of coconut oil up vaja. Do before bed once a week. Have a pad under you as it will melt all night. Its like doing the coconut oil swishing in your mouth taking toxins out. Worth a try. Do for years?

Using organic coconut oil inside of me. Helps to lubricate better. Tried it twice so far. some pain but got past the area. Thinking about the Dilator the gal mentioned below.

I will continue on my note above. I have had success finally. Reading the notes above also. What has worked for me after almost 10 years. I am having sex again!! with my hubby of 38 years. together for 40 years. I got a set of the pink dilators. I was able to start with the 3rd size. I used ORGANIC COCONUT OIL. I put a pad under me to keep the sheet from getting the oil on them. I used the dilator and coconut oil every other night. The coconut oil is very slippy and safe. I do douche with pull down shower head in the morning with warm water. After a week or so I was able to use the larger size. I also focused on relaxing that muscle. I tend to want to tighten it for pleasure for my man. But to get my vajayjay more ready I am focusing on relax her. So now after about 5 months of this. We have has success 4 times now. I still want to order a larger dilator because he is bigger than what comes in the 4 pack. I am going for a 1.5 - 2 inch Diameter. This will help even more. Do I like taking the time for this? Not really but I enjoy making love with him. You feel closer and we are happier. Best to you all!!!!

I would like to add from my note above. Leave dilator in for 10-15 mins every other night. Wash off good in the morning with hot soapy water and store in bag with dry washcloth around it. You can also use dilator in the beginnig to get your vajayjay ready and stimulated for making love. Remember to relax that muscle always the best you can until your wide enough...This works great

Thank you for your post. I too have had this problem on and off since my 30's. It's not just menopausal women who suffer from this. I woke up this morning knowing that this ring around my vaginal opening is in spasm, then I found your post and it gives me hope that I can enjoy sex again. I've also learned that painful intercourse is linked to Hashimoto's thyroiditis, which I do have. I suffered extreme pain in my 30's with any kind of vaginal contact and went so far as surgery to try and correct it. It didn't help. Surgery is not just a snip and fix, it is a shock to the body and soul. Please everyone, have a complete thyroid check up with T3, FT3, T4, FT4, and include both antibody tests. With a balanced approach to thyroid including natural medication (if necessary,), a diet tailored to autoimmunity, and a lifestyle with love and peace, this may heal. I hope so for all of us.