we can't get his penis in my vagina. what can we do?

It might be that you are not stimulated enough. In that case, there is no lubrication to make penetration easier.
There are afew things on the market that you can buy to lube up with.
KY jelly is what comes to mind.

There is also something you can buy that you basically excercise with.
It looks like a penis. It comes with 4 or 5 sizes to practice with.
You use the smallest one first. You do this yourself, or with your boyfriend. Since you are so comfortable with him, let him help you.

After you receive the smallest one with ease, move on to the next size and so on. You may not even have to use them all, you just may need a little stretching. If you can't find this on the market, use a vibrator or a dildo in various sizes until you are comfortable.
Another suggestion is have him penetrate you with his fingers first, one at a time until you are comfortable with maybe 3 fingers. Make sure you are lubricated. If he wears a condom, do not use vaseline as a lubricant. There is something in the vaseline that doesn't agree with the latex condom and may break it down to where the condom is useless.

Use a lubricant that is specially made for sex, as i said, KY.
Lastly, you may have a tough hymen. Some women have a hard time with their first time due to this problem. If you can't fix this yourself with the excercises you may have to have your Doctor break your hymen. It is not out of the ordinary for this sometimes. It doesn't make you weird or anything like that. Some times the hymen is extra tough making penetration next to impossible and painful. Your MD can help for sure.

thank you. maybe i'll discuss it with him and see what we can figure out.

after reading your post, your suggestions strike me as both practical, and helpful. i appreciate it. :)

You are welcome :-D

we got it all worked out. it just took persistance and patience. thanks again.

me and mygirl friend have the same problem, tried follwing what you said but then cannot control ejaculation which happens if I try to finger her vagina. any suggestions will be appreciated.

i think it's cos he still has to break your hymen  or the "cherry" in slang, no jokes, it will hurt a bit.

well your not goin to get it in your vagina because you aren't supposed to do sex like that  ***this post is edited by moderator *** *** inappropriate posting*** Please read our Terms of Use

It same way for us it feels like he's ripping me it kills the mood . I just give him BJ. Leaving me unsatisfied.

I know what you are facing tbh...... it's not lube, it's not foreplay.... I know I'm a virgin but I have faced this with fingers....... Quite a lot ALOT of times.... you are hitting the pelvic structure. So the thing has to go below it kind of? Like the position in which you are having intercourse kind of makes the penis hit the wall? If taht makes sense? Like I used to have this and I used to think that I was only this deep (sorry) but later on I adjusted my position and then I was like oh my gawd it can go further in!

Maybe this doesn't help. It's not the muscles you are facing problem with I think.
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maybe he doesn't to go into your vagina, maybe he has a foot foot fetish and wants a footjob.