Who could be the father?
It is a twin pregnancy and they appear to be iddentical.
I am panicking. I don't know what is happening with me. I am bipolar but I withdrawn from the medicines to get pregnant and everything happened. I thought my ex-hub was only having sex with me for impregnating me, as if he did not love me any longer. I felt alone. He was sweet but I could not stand him anymore. Not even his smell. And we were married for less than a year... Since August we were having sex just once a week. He was almost begging for it. And I felt as if I was a sex goddess when we make it... (I know it sounds horrible, but I have this condition and did not realize by them it was the lack of the medicines...)
I met an ex-boyfriend and co-worker and we were having an affair for a couple of weeks. I loved him before, but I believe I was meeting him to hurt my ex, who I thought did not love me any longer even though I was sure he was faithful to me...
Conception was on 10/07 according to the doc and indeed I felt mittelschmerz around 5 pm on 10/07. I have sex with my hub (A) on 10/01 (afternoon), 10/07(night) and 10/11 (10pm) and B on 09/30 (noon), 10/05 and 10/07 (noon). I don't no if this is TMI or even if it has any difference, but those weeks with A we did missionary and with B it was doggie (2) and girl on top.
A is 30 yo and more the athletic type (no cigs or booze) and has a master degree and B 39yo married with two chidren and has a little belly (he is not half as attractive as A). I reached climax on all relations during that week (and that is not usual for me). A left me for after a terrible fight when I told him that our life together was unbearable but he is sure he is the father of the babies and even if he hates me I am sure he would be a wonderful father for the twins.B would never assume the babies or leave his wife. I am sure A still loves me. He keeps calling to know about me and the babies.
Now A is trying to come back, but I feel like a w**** and don't know if he would accept me if I tell him that other man could also be the father. If I were not responsible for the life of these innocents I would rather die. I am trying to remain healthy for them but I don't feel any happiness for staying alive. I've been crying since I found out the pregnancy and it is difficult even to get up every morning for work and I can't concentrate. I don't know if abortion was a better alternative, but I love the idea of being a mother and I think it would be almost a murder. I am the dirtiest w**** in the world.
Sorry for this, but this ordeal is being very painful for me. I hope God could forgive me, because I am unsure if I could forgive me some day.
I am panicking. I don't know what is happening with me. I am bipolar but I withdrawn from the medicines to get pregnant and everything happened. I thought my ex-hub was only having sex with me for impregnating me, as if he did not love me any longer. I felt alone. He was sweet but I could not stand him anymore. Not even his smell. And we were married for less than a year... Since August we were having sex just once a week. He was almost begging for it. And I felt as if I was a sex goddess when we make it... (I know it sounds horrible, but I have this condition and did not realize by them it was the lack of the medicines...)
I met an ex-boyfriend and co-worker and we were having an affair for a couple of weeks. I loved him before, but I believe I was meeting him to hurt my ex, who I thought did not love me any longer even though I was sure he was faithful to me...
Conception was on 10/07 according to the doc and indeed I felt mittelschmerz around 5 pm on 10/07. I have sex with my hub (A) on 10/01 (afternoon), 10/07(night) and 10/11 (10pm) and B on 09/30 (noon), 10/05 and 10/07 (noon). I don't no if this is TMI or even if it has any difference, but those weeks with A we did missionary and with B it was doggie (2) and girl on top.
A is 30 yo and more the athletic type (no cigs or booze) and has a master degree and B 39yo married with two chidren and has a little belly (he is not half as attractive as A). I reached climax on all relations during that week (and that is not usual for me). A left me for after a terrible fight when I told him that our life together was unbearable but he is sure he is the father of the babies and even if he hates me I am sure he would be a wonderful father for the twins.B would never assume the babies or leave his wife. I am sure A still loves me. He keeps calling to know about me and the babies.
Now A is trying to come back, but I feel like a w**** and don't know if he would accept me if I tell him that other man could also be the father. If I were not responsible for the life of these innocents I would rather die. I am trying to remain healthy for them but I don't feel any happiness for staying alive. I've been crying since I found out the pregnancy and it is difficult even to get up every morning for work and I can't concentrate. I don't know if abortion was a better alternative, but I love the idea of being a mother and I think it would be almost a murder. I am the dirtiest w**** in the world.
Sorry for this, but this ordeal is being very painful for me. I hope God could forgive me, because I am unsure if I could forgive me some day.
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Hi Eda,
First, stop blaming yourself. You had a medical condition.
Second, yes, you need to stay healthy for the babies. Keep up with the prenatal care - especially with twins.
Third, it sounds like your ex still wants you. Don't toss that away.
Who's the father? It's impossible to say. No one, even the doctor, can say positively that conception occurred on 10/7. It could be within a few days. Sperm can also live about 5 days. So, either of them can be the father. Just to toss this out, if they are not identical, they could both have different fathers.
A DNA test will be needed to confirm.
Please talk to someone, a counselor, religious leader, a friend. Don't rush into this decision. You can also consider putting them up for adoption. Lots of couples, that can't have their own children, would love to welcome one (or two) into their lives.
Take care of yourself.
Hope it helps.
First, stop blaming yourself. You had a medical condition.
Second, yes, you need to stay healthy for the babies. Keep up with the prenatal care - especially with twins.
Third, it sounds like your ex still wants you. Don't toss that away.
Who's the father? It's impossible to say. No one, even the doctor, can say positively that conception occurred on 10/7. It could be within a few days. Sperm can also live about 5 days. So, either of them can be the father. Just to toss this out, if they are not identical, they could both have different fathers.
A DNA test will be needed to confirm.
Please talk to someone, a counselor, religious leader, a friend. Don't rush into this decision. You can also consider putting them up for adoption. Lots of couples, that can't have their own children, would love to welcome one (or two) into their lives.
Take care of yourself.
Hope it helps.
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