why cant he stop jerking off when I am willing to have sex

bare parchment over a year ago

Have you tried asking him for sex? I think that would turn me on. Also if you dressed up in something very sexy, that may do the trick (if you have not tried that already).

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Guest over a year ago

I've had a similar situation, last year I decided enough was enough after 20 years of c**p . It was all in or I'm out of here.
I told him I would never say No. I don't even when tired or in pain and I'm chronic pain from car accident. For the first few months it was 2-3 times a day. He can try just about anything . I drew a line at porn because when we tried it I was ignored and just a stand in for what he watched.
Now I find out he is still taking viagra , and jerking off all night to porn when I asked for sex.
I have done everything he's asked , even when it made me feel like c**p doing it. I have a high sex drive, like real high. I want it in the morning then it flash backs all day and I'm dieing for it at night.
This weekend he decided to use Mdma and viagra for a whole night of alone time...... we normally do it together and I was here willing. He just told me to go away.
I'm feeling like a piece of garbage and worthless . Something got to be wrong here , I'm close to leaving because looking back I realized he does it all the time.
What to do?

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bare parchment over a year ago

I assume that every time you are in the mood, you will tell him right? Dress up for him and try to get in a scene that he likes?

Anyway, another approach is to be aggressive with him and take control. That would work on me.

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Guest over a year ago

Yea I dress up , do the fancy stuff. That makes no difference sometimes. I had put on an outfit prior to us going out. Let him see and said it was for later.
Later came and he decided to do what he did. I am not Un attractive I may be 37 but I'm still ID for stuff. I'm thin and know I'm not model beauty but I'm not bad at all.
He likes Asian porn and teens apparently. ... I can't be Asian . Have dressed in the stupid uniform.
At any rate I decided late last night not to let him have this power over me.
I won't play games with him. I'm always the one who starts it for years.
Thanks for answering

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bare parchment over a year ago

If he will not respond to you, then you can make him pay by not giving it up to him anymore. Maybe you can continue to dress sexy and flirt a little with other guys around (maybe he'll get jealous).

But if he really is not responding to you anymore, it might be time to leave because he is not respecting you.

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Guest over a year ago

I have been having that same problem with mine over the past couple months and its increasing. I have been told everything like its his age, its the beer, Im not available and some hours its just easier at certain hours. Ok so FOR US I started working two jobs, ok Im not home. But he doesn't even try to interest me when I'm home. I have actually started resenting him and am not sure how much longer I can stay with him. I have not had any satisfaction in two month and I'm going to be honest, I like my sex/love making. I'm so fed up, I honestly don't know if I can even say I love him anymore.

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Guest over a year ago

I am not the type to mess around but honestly, I feel like he is cheating me and have thought about this (what you've said) several times. After all you treat people how you want to be treated and if you don't get treated with the same respect and care you give them, then treat them how they treat you. Too bad if they don't like it.

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bare parchment over a year ago

Does this mean that you are thinking about cheating? Can you be sure he is, cuz if he's not then it would only be you.

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Guest over a year ago

I said I feel like he is cheating me and yes I know it's with himself but either way if he only wants it alone then I'm not doing anything wrong anyway.

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freshman noise over a year ago

Hi guest. I take it that you don't make any advances on your husband to have sex when you are at home and in the mood by the way you speak?

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Guest over a year ago

Oh yes I do. I role play etc but as I said he has excuses. I have given up certain friends for him yet he wont stop visiting his female friend for me. So that's the way it is.

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freshman noise over a year ago

Do you think or do you know if he is actually having a physical relationship with his female friend or is it just strictly a platonic relationship they have?

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Guest over a year ago

I think platonic. But he talks about her all the time and told me if I didn't stop asking why he had to go to the bar to see her when we never get time together he would kick me out of our house.

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freshman noise over a year ago

You have as much right to the house as he does and has no right to kick you out.
If he wants to be like that then I would say when he wants to spend time with you say you have to go see a friend and see how he likes it when you go out.
Speaking as a guy myself most males usually have a higher sex drive than woman do so if he isn't having regular sex with you then he must be masturbating a lot or he is having a sexual relationship, show him that you can take care of your own needs buy yourself some toys and leave them on show in the bedroom.
I take it that you do still share the same bed but it's just the sex your not having?

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Guest over a year ago

Yes that's right. And my sex drive is quite healthy. My jobs keep me away for18 hours a day and I sleep 4 hours so when I have a day off from one job I expect to have time together which we don't.

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