why cant he stop jerking off when I am willing to have sex

Very true we do.
So have you made a decision to what your going to do yet?

Well, we had a huge blow out last night. We are going to try working through it. I gave up my night job, now it's up to him to give up bars and spend that money going out with me. Will see what happens. I am hoping for the best.

I hope the same but if he doesn't change after giving up even more for him please don't stay and be unhappy :-)

Suggestion taken. Thanks.

Your welcome.

If you ever want someone to talk to about how it's going just make yourself an account on here and private message me that way I'll see it :-)

Will keep that in mind ty. It would be nice if there was a site for just random topics unrelated to health or stupid stuff. I have checked a few but didn't find anything worth while.

Under the general heading on here you can post all posts but not sure how many replies your get though.

I forgot to say if your ever not getting enough sex pop round and see me I'm sure I could help you out lol

lol I think I will be fine but thanks.

same situation but we have kids ...an he never wants togo anywhere unless it benefits him .Its showering all I'm doing is hurrying up don't want give him time to cum ;( I feel so dumb sometimes because seem like he really don't need me

I know that porn is addicting and most of the posts seem to be centered on that. But my husband who is older now (we've been married 47 years) recently confessed he has done it our whole married life. Naive me I guess I never considered it because I always wanted sex more than him and was willing and able anytime he wanted. The thing is he is a technophobe abs doesn't use computers or a smart phone. He told me he used fantasies including some of a very good friend who was the wife of a couple we socializes with for over 20 years. Frankly I wish it had been porn. The thought of him masturbating to electronic images of nameless people is much preferable than images of real people and friends where he has to generate his own fantasizes. That takes some work and creativity whereas porn is just sent. I am devastated and sickened and this has ruined memories of what I though we're happy times. We went on trips with this couple and now I will always wonder what he was thinking about and if he was getting aroused during our visits. Yeah, yeah most of the posters love to say how normal this. Well if that is the case why isn't it discussed with your wives openly. Anything that needs to be hidden is NOT normal and good. If I had known this is a mans "norm" I would not have gotten married

Sounds like he has a very high sex drive or you don't perform enough in bed

Im in the VERY same situation I feel so unloved sometimes cause Im 39 yrs old an always in the mood but he acts so uninterested in sex an makes excuses for me to to the store .I know not going to change .I have lots of chances to cheat but chicka cken out
.An he has cheated on me severely times in 20 yrs .

your just like me im always in the mood im sorry you feel unloved and why do you stay with him if hes cheated and dont say you love him because you sound unhappy iam always intrested in sex my self but sometimes i am lonely too i hope things are better now .are they?how are thing now ?

Why don't you buy yourself a Hitachi wand and use it when he is with you so he can see how much fun you can have on your own as well and you could even try holding it on his ball sack as well even if he don't have an erection he'll soon shoot his load lol

Same situation here,i always thought he had a low sex drive he maybe would try once a month but couldn't keep it.both in late 30's im fit and very attractive.found out he was masterbating to porn,i got upset and he promised to stop.the porn did but he kept pleasuring him self anyway even went so far as to cut a whole in his underwear so he could secretly thigh masterbate while i was in bed.i was hurt felt unattractive and undesirable,mind you i always gave him the porn stare treatment when he did attempt sex.finally it got the best of me i stopped asking for sex and eventually lost interest in him all together,kinda sad after almost 20yrs together.i no longer feel good about myself around him and probably never will.im not begging for sex its demeaning and i shouldn't feel i had to force it.now we just live like roommates.