Red Signs That Your Partner May Be Cheating On You

A Change In Routine

Along with sudden secretive behavior, your partner may display changes to their daily routine if they are cheating on you. Not only may they frequently become unreachable and say they have changed their working hours, they may also display puzzling changes in daily routine. Shopping at a new supermarket, changing their route to work, getting up earlier or going to bed later, reading new kinds of books and being interested in new topics may all indicate cheating — within the context of other infidelity red flags, of course. A cheating partner may also engage in guilt-induced behavior like taking you to restaurants or buying gifts. 

The Quality Of Your Relationship

Cheating changes a person's attitude towards their spouse in several ways. Someone who is being unfaithful may spend a lot of mental energy on the other person, leaving you to feel like they are distant and no longer interested. To feel less guilty, they may pick fights with you and criticize things about you that were fine before — anything from your appearance to your character, job, or daily habits. They may also, on the other hand, try to shower you with attention to reduce some of the guilt. 

In the bedroom, you may notice that your partner isn't interested in sex any more. The opposite is also possible, however. Some cheating partners suddenly appear to have a higher libido, or they may act differently between the sheets. They may even want to try completely new things that had not interested either of you before.

Your Intuition Tells You Something Isn't Right

The word "intuition" comes from the Latin for "to watch" or "to guard". Though some people are quick to dismiss those gut feelings, your intuition is essentially a cognitive system that works so quickly that your conscious brain stays out of it. If your intuition tells you you're partner is cheating, that's a huge warning signs — more valuable and informative than all the previous points taken together — that something is wrong. If you have been in a relationship for a long time and know your partner well, you most definitely have the ability to suss out those changes that prove your relationship is in trouble.

Sexually Transmitted Diseases

Irene, a woman from an Eastern European country, recently asked a question about the mechanism by which it's possible to obtain chlamydia from a swimming pool. That's right, Irene had contracted chlamydia — but when she told her doctor she was a monogamous married woman, he asked her if she had been swimming recently and proceeded to tell her that she may have picked it up at the pool. Why? Did the doctor say this out of some kind of misplaced solidarity with her cheating husband? We'll never know. What we most definitely do know is that you cannot pick sexually transmitted diseases up at the swimming pool, and the toilet seat is another unlikely candidate to put it mildly. 

READ The Effects Of Heartbreak On Your Body

Have you been monogamous for years, and think your partner has too? Some sexually transmitted diseases — HIV and genital warts are both examples — can take years before they give away their presence in the form of symptoms. It is, therefore, indeed possible that either you or your partner brought an STD or several into the relationship without even knowing it. However, being diagnosed with a sexually transmitted disease can most certainly also be a warning sign that your partner is cheating on you, and not practicing safe sex.