Abnormally small flaccid penis on mature younger adult male

Hi guys - I'm 32, and like most of you here, I have a small flaccid penis... and small balls too, so not a great package overall.  Like a lot of you, when fully errect, my penis is not a problem, around 6.25".  

In some ways I feel like my penis size issues have dominated and had such a maasive effect on my life.  The amount of situations I would avoid when sex was on the cards through my late teens and 20s, because I was so embarrassed and was worried about who they woukd tell.  This also caused me to have erection issues, because I was so worried about the girl seeing my pathetic flaccid penis, I would get too nervous and think about getting (or not getting!) an erection, which meant I didn't get one.  Part of my problem could also have been to do with my strict religious upbringing, but who knows.

Anyway, it basically lead me on to buying viagra.  I would take a quarter, or half, or sometimes more, depending on how nervous I was.  If I was having sex regularly with someone and felt comfortable, then I would not need much at all - it all depended.  Sometimes I still couldn't get an errection if i wasn't relaxed enough (and sober)  What I discovered though, is that by taking a bit of viagra (even better with a glass of wine or 2), it increased the blood flow to my penis massively, and definitley gave me decent looking, non-embarrassing flaccid penis.  

I'm am not advising people take this route, but for me, who went to a psychologist, a hypnotherapist and tried various other methods - it was the only solution.  It's not ideal and I wish it could be different, but it is nice to not feel totally embarrassed when you're naked, and to be able to get hard when with a woman.

I really sympathise with everyone's problems here and clearly there are many men like us out there, but sometimes it feels like you're the only person in the world with this problem.  My wife really wants our next child to be a boy, but there's a massive part of me that never wants to have a boy, because I don't want him to have to go through what I have.

I must say that since meeting my wonderful partner, my penis issues have not dominated my life anywhere near as much as they used to.

I am in a similar predicament and I am quite overweight, with a large gut.. Only yesterday when erect my penis was around 5.5, I measured and it was around 5. I know it's on the small side, but now it has shrunk. When flaccid it's extremely small, so much so that I can't even get erect. Normally it's around 4 inches. I"ve been extremely stress because of this, and find it very hard to sleep. I watch pornography and it makes me even more upset. Is there anything I can do? What should - do?

I have the same problem. Only the night I was at a party drinking and my mates started to compare penis sizes, we were all straight and they had around 5" flaccid and mine was tiny. I was worrying about it as they insisted that I would show mine as as I knew that it would be less than 2" and shrivelled, but I did and they started laughing, I felt very insecure. I it's nice to know that there are other men with the same problem. Is 4" a good width and 5.2" a good length?

hey thats ok. My penis is small. When its erect its smaller than a baby's soft 

Although this was posted a year ago...you have just solved a huge mystery for me...I am always nervous and stressed out in public which causes it to shrink..makes a lot of sense now!!!!

EVERYBODY PLEASE READ MY ADVICE (First of all I replied to this comment because he is the role model in our situation. You need to learn from both our comments. Trust me. I know its a little long but there's really nothing helpful before these comments and i really wany to help anyone who has tortured themselves as much as me. Besides theres nothing before this helpful buy maybe Jelqing or whatever which I've never done but may try now lol.) (And also much love to the females on here with the support. You're such sweet hearts. We all need to give them much more credit. There are some amazing women out there.) I had no intention commenting on this but ive never seen so many with the same problem as me on a thread. ( We all know we've felt like we were the only one before..) Also I seen no legitimate answer here as usual.. so I decided to just try and give anyone who does read this some words and expereince to take with you. This may be kinda long but if youre as depressed and painfully self conscious as me and like so many on this thread seem to be.. you will take any help you can get. First of alll I am 24 now and I know as well as anyone how debilitating we let it be and how it can rule your life if you let it. Especially being someone who if I didnt have this problem, should have so easily been very happy and confident with plenty of women and friends bein 6'4 fairly good looking and a natural athete in a smaller town and school. High school shoulda been great for me but it was the worst years ive had. I had to isolate and be someone I don't feel I was meant to be in fear of such intense embarrassment in front of people where an entire town knows any little thing that happens. (Ha. No pun intended.) Drugs became a an escape that ive used my whole life and i couldnt make people understand that i wasnt just a f**k up or that I didn't wanna be but it's not being comfortable in your skin x1000 for us.. but who can you tell right. Listen though, we can all f**k just fine none of us seem to have a problem there.(although I was 18 before I even tried) This advice helped me.. FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT. Confidence attracts and insecurity is a huge turn off. It will become real confidence when it starts working and it will. You will find someone eventually that loves you and you will be happier and more confident than ever in your life. I had 3-4 years where I rarely even thought about it anymore. I got comfortable with myself in a way I never had, being a tall fairly good looking natural athleteandb new found confidence, honestly it started attracting a bunch of girls. I cheated on her like a stupid as****e. Amazing girl who really pulled me out of a bad place. She rightfully left me and after time I feel back into old insecurites. Learn from out stories, our success and my mistakes. You can be 100% great with a woman and it helps sooo much but honestly it will probably always be with a grain of salt. Holdings us all back in certain ways. Like being so selfconcious when I'm playing a sport that I'm so good at f*****g kills me inside but there is more to life I guess. So.. f**k it.. Find what makes you happy and hold on to it. God bless all you. We just have to learn to let to and live. No one else will LOL one more thing.. people put so much emphasis on things that couldn't matter less. Has anyone here looked at the statue of David lately? frikkin makes me laugh. It's like a big inside joke to me. You think he was trippin on it? If he lived today he woulda been miserable and on this sight too but he is immortalized forever NAKED cuz it was the last thing on his mind. Damn the world we live in.

Human vaginal size is 7–8 cm (2.8-3.1 in) in an unstimulated state, to 11–12 cm (4.3-4.7 in) during sexual arousal

When something is placed inside, they mold around the width and accommodate the length of a penis

JUST THINK OF  THIS!!! WHEN YOU ARE WITH SOME WOMEN OR HAVING SEX!!! PERFORMANCE COUNTS MY MEN! IM 5.5 erect but most of my sexual partners are satisfied! Just do it romantically and slowly at first and when she is sexually arouse then JAM HER OFF

I bet she will loose her mind!!!!!!!!!!!! GOODLUCk!

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Don't you worry, I am 33 and wasted so much time thinking about my penis (about 1 inch flaccid and over 7 inch erect) and eventually you understand that it is not important what so ever, as long as you can maintain your relationship with love and compassion you are good to go!

I have the same problem as u guys never talked to anyone about it like you said it to embarrassing to talk about when I was in high school I hated P.E cause we had to change in front of people and sometimes I wood catch a glimpse at the other guys to see were I Measure up at well it seems the guys that got naked were the one with there thing hanging there wish I had one like that cause I know I would show it off to but anyways yes it suck being on the smaller size I even looked on the internet just to see guys and how big they are I could never under stand y I had a smaller one after seeing one of my good friends naked i got a lit relaxed to fined out not all guys have big hung ass penises my friend had the same ass me two inches down and about 5.5 to 6 inches long yes we both measured no I'm not gay we were just as curious ass others are this bugged me for a long time. I've been with my wife for 11 years now we have three kids together when we first got together I never talked about my size but after about three years I finally asked wat she thought about it she told me it's not all about the size so me being curious I looked it up to see what women thought about size I was surprised there were a lot of them who said the had a hung guy and would not do it again cause it hurt to much I even asked a couple of women my self and found out half of them said the same thy rather be pleased then be in pain so guys stop worrying so much and just be happy u have one there's a lot of guys out there with the same proble it's just something we have to deal with and don't let that proble stop you from talking to a women hay if thy don't like it then move on to the next one and hoped this held a lil

Yes it is I have the same problem he's a grower not a shower hay as long as he could work it I don't think it should be a problem I roll think there rally anything to worry about hay if ur not happy with that don't wast his time and fined wat your looking for but it won't hurt to try well hope all is well and things work out for you guys

Absolutely, I am over 7 inches when erect but when flaccid at times, it's so small I feel like there is no way it could get that big again. I get nervous that a woman will see/feel it when flaccid and think that im very small, its nerve-wracking. My last girl friend said about it "this is a very deceiving situation!" Meaning that she never would have thought I was the size I am from seeing it flaccid.

How dose that work dose your penis have to be arouses the whole time ?

Hello there gentlemen!
This is an old thread, but hopefully men are still reading it as I find it quite comforting to see others in this unfortunate circumstance...

Actually, let me take that back... IT ISN'T A PROBLEM AT ALL!!!!
As one of our fellow 'growers' had mentioned previously, growers ARE genetically superior, and not only when it comes to saving energy and body heat!
Common practice, when we were still dwelling in caves and scrounging for food, was to sever our competitors' penises in order to stop them from reproducing; an contemporary example would be the chimanzee, who often bite their victims' genitals off for just such purposes...

Growers' genetic superiority reveals itself when put into this context: instead of having the penis hanging ostentatiously, and obvious target, our penises 'protect themselves' by shrinking as much as possible when not in use!!

Therefore men, DO NOT WORRY!!! We are PERFECTLY normal, and should not worry one bit =).

P.S. For those of you that are still worried about your partner's initial reaction to your size when flaccid, consider this:
1) Do you honestly want to be with such a close-minded person?
2) As long as you are attentive, use your hands and your tongue as well, and take advantage of a woman's erogenous zones, you will please even with a smaller-than-average penis when erect!!!

I've got this "problem". But I must say, I've never had a partner comment on my flaccid size. Now, I have tended to put my underwear on after sex. So maybe they just haven't have the opportunity to view my "little man". Most guys know that it's what's happening during sex that's important, especially foreplay. Just an historical note - if you look at the sculptures of ancient civilizations and Renaissance artists, the flaccid penis is kind of small. Michelangelo's David does not have a swinging penis. In the Sistine Chapel, you can barely make out Adam's junk. What I'm saying is that this size thing is cultural. Yeah, we might all want to hang like John Holmes, but, God rest his soul, he was not the norm. As for locker rooms, try to keep your eyes from sneaking those peeks (we all do it, guys). As for the bedroom, give your partner all the attention possible. If she/he is purring, they won't care what size you are...they'll just want it!